How far should you trust your instincts? (And fortune tellers?!!!)

[sdaze]

Hello

I have been single for nearly a year since my boyfriend of five years broke up with me. He quickly moved on and met someone else who he isstill with. I had a hard time adapting to being apart at first but I have made great progress and now feel back to my old self again.

 

We have remained in contact (at his request) and it was hard at the start for me but I have successfully detached myself now and value his friendship. I feel I no longer want him back and have been looking forward to getting on with my life and I have a coupld of options (ie new men) to consider now.

 

Two weeks ago my ex and I met up (we see each other every two or three weeks) and we spent two whole days together at a comedy festival. We slept in separate rooms in a hotel and got on really well. We spoke properly about our relationship for the first time and why it failed. It was good, I felt real 'closure' for the first time but I also felt that we 'connected' once again. Possibly because we both opened up and got on so well.

 

Two weeks later I have been thinking about us again and I feel differently. I feel that my instincts are telling me it's not over yet, that there's unfinished business between us.

 

I went to see a fortune teller - I know many would think I'm crazy - but something made me and what I was told was this:

 

that I should trust my instincts this time.

 

I don't normally believe in this stuff and have always regarded it as mumbo jumbo. Anyone else had similar experiences?

[SincereOnlineGuy]

Well, if it helps, guys tend to have zero interest in merely 'being your friend' when they wouldn't prefer to be banging you instead.

 

So if he is still lingering, then there is undoubtedly some sort of interest.

[loverboy1984]

I know now that a psychic will tell you that it isnt over and that you are meant to be with him. They feel your energy and they bet on it by telling you this. It may not be true but what it does is that it sets you back and gives you hope that shouldnt be there. Its very unhealthy and Ive fallen into that trap many times. I dont suggest doing it.

[sdaze]

I know now that a psychic will tell you that it isnt over and that you are meant to be with him. They feel your energy and they bet on it by telling you this. It may not be true but what it does is that it sets you back and gives you hope that shouldnt be there. Its very unhealthy and Ive fallen into that trap many times. I dont suggest doing it.

 

This makes sense. I probably felt drawn to the psychic as I was confued over my feelings for my ex and this could have been picked up on. I don't believe in people being able to see the future but I do think some people are more atuned to people's feelings and can sense their emtions, sensitivities...maybe.

 

But trusting your OWN instincts...is this usually a wise move? My instinct was telling me this is not over before I went to the fortune teller. And I hadn't felt that since we broke up. Why now?

[serviceduck]

This makes sense. I probably felt drawn to the psychic as I was confued over my feelings for my ex and this could have been picked up on. I don't believe in people being able to see the future but I do think some people are more atuned to people's feelings and can sense their emtions, sensitivities...maybe.

 

But trusting your OWN instincts...is this usually a wise move? My instinct was telling me this is not over before I went to the fortune teller. And I hadn't felt that since we broke up. Why now?

 

@Sdaze

 

My boyfriend of a year broke up with me on the 1st of this month.

The night I met him, I had not planned on going out but my friend wouldnt stop pestering me. So, as I usually would, I checked my horoscope on my phone and it said "You will not meet prince charming sitting at home watching television" (which I was). So we went out and I met him.

Throughout our entire time together, we didnt have any issues. We couldnt have been closer if we tried.

I didnt contact him for 5 days until his call asking if he could drop my stuff over. We talked for 3 hours that day and we were both blubbering messes. There was kissing. There was hugging. There was pain.

Since the moment he drove away that day, I have remained no contact and have not heard a peep from him.

It's been 18 days now.

Apparently, he avoids talking to anyone about the breakup and is going out twice a week, getting hammered.

Anyway,

He went away for a month in Feb with his mates to south america.

He got sick while he was there and hated the entire time because he missed me so much.

While he was there, his mum (who I was very close to) went to see a renowned psychic.

She said these exact words "I see your youngest son (my ex) having met his perfect match. They compliment each other perfectly and get along like two peas in a pod. I sense that she stresses him and they will have a falling out but he will sort himself out. I see him and his current partner staying together".

 

Now.. obviously, this is ALL I can think of since the breakup.

Tell me I shouldn't listen to that?!?!

 

P.S. I can honestly say I believe we are soul mates. We lived 3 streets away from each other for 8 years. We caught the same bus, used the same bus stop and park, and he worked at the grocery shop we used. BUT we didnt once meet each other until that night... when I was finished school and he had finish university. I am 19, he's 24.

[LelouchIsZero]

All psychics/fortune tellers/whatever they'd like to be called are fake.

 

As I said in another thread, read up on cold reading/hot reading.

[jchips]

I'm embarrassed to admit it but I've consulted a psychic or two over the years and this is what I've learned- in general, they tell you what you want to hear. And then they tell you that there's been a curse put on you that's keeping all your wishes coming true, and for an addition fee they can remove the curse.... Maybe I just went to horrible psychics.

 

My take? There is no better psychic for your situation than YOU! But the catch is that you have to be 100% brutally honest with yourself. And let's face it, when you're hurting, you want to believe the rosy fairy tale, not the cold, hard facts. But if you can be brutally honest, you have a better chance of knowing how things are going to turn out than anybody else on the planet, except your ex.

 

It's hard, I know it. Good luck to you!!

[sdaze]

Well, if it helps, guys tend to have zero interest in merely 'being your friend' when they wouldn't prefer to be banging you instead.

 

So if he is still lingering, then there is undoubtedly some sort of interest.

 

Thanks yes, I believe there is some sort of interest there from him. The thing is that I only felt recently that the interest may be something that is more than friends. Before when we spent time together (when he was also with the woman he is still seeing) I didn't feel that, it WAS just like two old friends (who just happen to be exes) meeting up to catch up.

 

Now it feels different. It's not ME who feels different. I feel I picked up on something there when we last saw each other. He looked at me differently and initiated physical contact - just playful stuff - but nothing like before. My instincts are telling me things are different now and perhaps I shouldn't have gone to the fortune teller and just trusted my intuition - or am I not actually over him yet?

 

I don't know!!!