Success with an ex?

[radishes]

I was just a little curious since I recently just got out of a 3 year relationship. Although he gave a lot of excuses like we're young, and he needs to focus on school, and he's not in a position to be dating.. all the regular excuses, while the real reason is basically that he lost that feeling. Well what he told me was that he only saw me as a really great friend. (because he had another girl on his mind)

 

I realize because most people are coping with breakups, that there probably won't be many like this. But I just wanted to see the experiences other people have had with relationships.

 

Has anybody heard of an ex coming back after they lost that emotional attraction for you? Did it take a long time before something happened? Did you just keep up no contact?

Edited August 24, 2011 by radishes

[Renard99]

Hi

 

My ex sent me an email today, 8 months after she left me admitting she lost feelings for me, saying that she wants to get back with me (I posted the topic earlier today if you want the details). And yes, I kept no contact the whole time, except for smiling at her if we passed in the street and acknowledging a happy birthday email she sent last month. She contacted me a few times before that but with trivial things, like mailing me news articles she thought i'd been interested and stuff like that. I ignored those.

 

Having only had it happen earlier today, I really don't know what I'm going to do yet, especially as I'm in the early stages with a new woman, however, I hope what i've written has given you a general idea based on your questions.

[Nsweet]

After the initial divorce papers were dropped, because I pushed her to do so. My wife and I left eachother on what I thought were good terms. However, little did I know she refiled graduation day and never told me. I wasn't devastated this time but dissapointed in her and more determined than ever. After I bought a second chance book and found another for free online I started NC from her check-up emails for about a month and a half. When I started talking to her again we slowly started back up and really enjoyed our phone calls and emails. The papers were returned and timed our on her side which I was thrilled about. Then a few weeks ago I took her positive signs too eagerly and tried to set up a reconciliation goal of controlled separation with outlined rules and completely blew it again, but not for good.

 

I've remained NC for nearly 3 weeks and have had more positive uninitiated responses this time because of the comfort we built up over the phone. This time I know what mistakes to avoid, relationship talk and future speak mostly, as well as discomfort, and have a better attitude about the whole situation. I've read 4 second chance books now and countless psychological and relationship articles online and have a far better game plan now.