JB93 Posted August 23, 2011 Posted August 23, 2011 followup from this thread: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t293443/ Need some advice: So After speaking with my exgf- I had said to her (through text) Me: "sorry for all this information, i didnt mean the things i said- it difficult to tell you this secret. i was afraid to tell you, and i know it cost me our relationship, but i know ill get over it, it make take time, but i will." Her: "I will always be here for you. I love you deeply, but why are you so sure we are done forever?" Me: "I figured you would be disgusted by what I told you today, to not even give me second chance. Otherwise Id love to give it another shot" Her: "I think you need some time to figure those feelings out first, Once thats done, we can talk." Me: "DEAL!" Her: "I love you!" ---------------------- I KNOW I look weak by saying "id love to give it another shot" but how can I win her back? I want her to realize that despite my craziness, I am an awesome guy for her. We honestly never fight in person. I know this can be fixed, I just want her to realize this. Should I go without contact for a week? 2? Ps-i know about the alpha male status and have been reading COUNTLESS articles about getting your ex back, and they all seem to say, give her space- my question is, is this a similar situation? C/N: GF and I decided to take a break b/c of recent fights. big misunderstanding due to the fact that I said something that came out wrong. I have a weird sexual fantasy, and It was taken the wrong way... Would no contact rule still apply for this situation?
wilsonx Posted August 24, 2011 Posted August 24, 2011 Well lets see here, #1 you were 23 dating a 17 year old girl and from what I read she's actually more mature then you are. #2 people have different lifestyle choices. before committing to such a long term relationship and being ridiculous for asking for a break, how about communicating your fantasies to your partner. A break is a break up. That's it. You screwed the pooch on this one. You learned a valuable lesson that's going to hurt. Don't make the same mistake again. You can send her texts left and right do NC for 2 months etc etc read all the alpha male guides on the planet but your relationship with her is over. For your own sanity, go NC and move on. I'd also look into some sort of counseling.
Author JB93 Posted August 24, 2011 Author Posted August 24, 2011 harsh- but i respect your response- I feel that it is OVER. I will do NC for sure. Thanks
danceallday Posted August 24, 2011 Posted August 24, 2011 Look if you have unusual sexual fantasies you should read SavageLove by Dan Savage in the Village Voice. He is no nonsense, straight (no pun intended) shooter on sexual advice. His constantly states that people should be open about what they want and their fantasies. He also has some good lectures on Youtube.
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