Silent Heart Song Posted August 23, 2011 Posted August 23, 2011 (edited) So, I found out my husband was an alcoholic and a pathological liar. Both behaviors he is working on daily. His story changed so may times in 2 months, finally I got in my car and contemplated leaving. I sat silently and let him talk, and told him I would leave that night if he wasn't completely honest. He told me he didn't have a One night stand, but saw this girl 3 nights in a row, having sex the last 2 nights. She asked him if this was something he wanted to continue and he wasn't sure. He also told me he has a one night stand 6 years ago with another girl he had worked with. This was before we were married, and only 1 year into our relationship. He had lied about all of it. And the moment he told me, he actually looked different. His secret had been eating him alive like a parasite. I took his wedding ring, and told him he will have to start from the beginning. New rings, new vows, and a honeymoon. I made him call his mother and tell her he cheated on me. I told him, if you are ever in a compromising situation again, and you don't think of me..you will definitely remember your mother's disappointment in you. I bought a composition notebook, and we have been writing letters back and forth. He is remorseful, guilty, sad, and being honest with me for the first time in years. He stopped drinking, and has begun to communicate with me more, and has been open to talking about the A's. He wants to be with me, and I do love him. This has been a lot to deal with. Anyone else having ups and downs with reconciliation? Edited August 23, 2011 by Silent Heart Song
reboot Posted August 23, 2011 Posted August 23, 2011 Everyone has ups and downs during a reconciliation.
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