Having a hard time doing no contact, Im dying to tell my ex i love her...

[proteinshake25]

All I wish I could do is just tell her great things about herself, how much she is loved. I dont care if she responds, I just want her to know. I went 8 weeks,and caved in and stopped by her work to see her. That was 2 weeks ago, today I emailed her a video she made on my phone over a yr ago, and told her how good a sense of humor she has. I still love her so much. Do I just need to get this out my system or let it subside? if i hold it in, i cant think that could possibly be healthy.

[Bito]

Stop what you are doing. Your ex would be with you if she wanted to be with you. You have to stop dwelling about what is behind you and move on.

 

Do not love someone who does not love you back. She is not worth your time.

 

Stop allowing depression to consume you.

 

Find Happiness. Do not say it is her, happiness comes from within.

 

Set goals and Socialize. But most importantly feel good about you.

[Nohbody]

You could start journaling. Either in private or here.

[EgoJoe]

Get out of the second chance section and into the breaking up or coping section.

[Serious_about_her]

You should definitely not keep feelings that upset you inside. That sort of thing makes people go nuts.

 

You say you don't need a response from her, well, in that case, why not tell a good friend how you feel?

[jakerman]

I would love to tell my ex i still love him but he doesnt love me he told me 7 months ago and I still think of him everyday mad !!! I know I can only advise to try and move on she obviously has good luck:mad:

[stretch]

All I wish I could do is just tell her great things about herself, how much she is loved. I dont care if she responds, I just want her to know. I went 8 weeks,and caved in and stopped by her work to see her. That was 2 weeks ago, today I emailed her a video she made on my phone over a yr ago, and told her how good a sense of humor she has. I still love her so much. Do I just need to get this out my system or let it subside? if i hold it in, i cant think that could possibly be healthy.

 

proteinshake25... take it from me, you will care if she doesn't respond, why else would you contact her? if you're seriously not that fussed as to whether she responds, write a letter saying everything you need to say, get it onto paper and out of your head and then burn it, bin it, do anything but don't send it. It sounds to me like you're fantasising about all the amazing things you feel your ex was but the fact is, that's unhealthy. Yes, remember the good things but also try and remember that for whatever reason, you guys didn't work. Sending her videos she made over a year ago is just confirming to her that she occupies your mind to the point at which your romantisising with everything she ever did. It's time to let go. I'm there myself, on the edge of my own reality and having to face the fact that NC is the only way forward. I know it's going to be tough for you as it will be for me but eventually, I'm confident the wounds do heal... just so long as we're not picking at them. Good Luck!!!

[ScienceGal]

Stop what you are doing. Your ex would be with you if she wanted to be with you. You have to stop dwelling about what is behind you and move on.

 

Do not love someone who does not love you back. She is not worth your time.

 

Stop allowing depression to consume you.

 

Find Happiness. Do not say it is her, happiness comes from within.

 

Set goals and Socialize. But most importantly feel good about you.

 

Your ex would be with you if she wanted to be with you.

 

Sometimes this is the only line that gets me through tough times. It hurts, but it is true. Of course you care if she writes back. But, you have to accept there is nothing that you can do. Do not take away from your dignity and your healing by putting yourself out there. Sometimes we hold on longer than we should (I am terrible at letting go), but do not show her you still care. It's over. If you do keep reaching out, just realize that you will continue to hope and hurt. After enough of that pain, maybe you will be ready to let go. Good luck

[radiodarcy]

just let it subside. you've already gotten as much out to her as you can. anything more at this point is overkill and unhealthy.

 

if you need to vent, take Stretch's suggestion and write a letter (that you won't send to her). or you can post the letter on the "post here instead of contacting your ex" thread under the coping forum. that way - - at least you're getting it out to someone.

 

i made the mistake of sending my ex letter after letter and all it did was push him further away and make me look clingy and desperate. luckily i found this forum and have found that venting on here is much healthier than trying to get everything out directly to him.

[jakerman]

yes i feel like emailing my ex all the time and today especially after a drink last nite i feel so down and miss him so much when you go out and there is no one else you like and are interested in it makes it so much harder. I havent seen him or heared off him since April and i only emailed him once and text him but he told a friend to tell me to leave him alone and he didnt miss me and that i must move on . I only emailed him about if i had left anything in the house when i left and the text was short to say the same nothing about how much i still loved him and he said that to me!!!

 

I am so hurt over the whole split i gave up my life to be with him i left England and went to LIve in Italy with him and sold everything and he doest even send me a short email to say how am i doing and im ok. when i left he just shook my hand and said to me good luck how cold is that?? he told me he trully loved me but when i went to live with him it just went....He was going through a seperation from his wife of 17 years i think i was just a rebound lust to him not true love ...but ill never know because he gave me no answers!!

 

Any advice would be great I so want to tell him i still miss him but have to stop myself all the time...