cdh11 Posted August 23, 2011 Posted August 23, 2011 I was going out with this guy and I really believe that I love him. He took my virginity and all that. Well He used to piss me off sometimes because I wouldn't hear from him all day (we kind of had a long distance relationship. I didn't want a full fledged conversation, I just wanted to hear "goodnight, I love you." or something, you know? Just to know he was thinking about me. One day it pissed me off so much that I just broke up with him. I didn't even think it through. afterwards when I couldn't stop crying I realized I had made the wrong decision. Later that night I texted him and tried to fix things but he refused to listen, he was really mad. I didn't try again for another 3 days, but he wouldn't even reply. He finally started to come around and talk about it with me a week later. It didn't help anything though. I tried for a while, but he never seemed to want me. SO I forced myself to move on, started dating another guy and stuff. I ended up having se.x. with this new guy, only once, but still, I shouldn't have. I was still so hurt from the first guy not taking me back. Finally about 2 months after we were broken up, the first guy wanted me back. but when he found out about what I did with the second guy, he got really pissed and didn't want me anymore. Here I am 5 months since we've been broken up and I'm still at the same place I was when we broke up, i can't move on because he still tries to be in contact with me sometimes. last night he cmmented on my status. and he video chatted with me one time. He says he still loves me "so dam.n much" and that he "misses me more than anyone ever" but he;s talking to this other girl. and it hurts so bad when I find out the stuff they've done. I dont know what to do, I don't want anyone else. Other guy's gross me out now, I feel like I'm going to throw up if i think about doing anything with them. I understand that he's hurt. But what am I supposed to do? Move on, or wait it out? I just want an answer, is there a chance, any chance at all, that we'll get back together? That's all I need to know.
Nohbody Posted August 23, 2011 Posted August 23, 2011 Sounds like you both like to play games and use other people to make yourselves feel better. It doesn't sound like either of you are ready for a mature relationship. Growing up will probably help both of you in the long run. So yes, go NC, and work on yourself.
Eddie Edirol Posted August 23, 2011 Posted August 23, 2011 Move on and forget about him. He is trying to hurt you by telling you he misses you, but wont try to make the relationship work, when hes with his new girl. He is throwing her in your face, and I dont think he is hurt at all. In fact I think he was never fully emotionally invested in you, he just wanted your virginity and then wanted to move on to someone else, which is why he wasnt contacting you as much as you wanted. But you got what you deserved, because you broke up with him without thinking, just to make him want you more, and you got bit in the ass for it, and now youre hurting more than him. So this is a lesson learned to you, dont play games, you'll always lose. You have to ask people for what you want, and if they refuse to answer, then you know they arent that into you. You have to accept people for how they are, you cant expect them to call and tell you good night because YOU want it, you want them to only contact you when THEY want to. Theres people out there like me who isnt into that sort of thing. You dont fall in love with anyone until you know you two are compatible.
reimeivn Posted August 23, 2011 Posted August 23, 2011 look at what he does, not what he says. move on.
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