Lofty2 Posted August 23, 2011 Posted August 23, 2011 I split from my bf 3 months ago. His decision as he didn't to move in with me after 5 years. I'm going absolutely crazy. Each and every morning he is the first thing on my mind. I have him running through my head ALL DAY LONG. I keep looking for him whenever I go to the shops/garage/work ANYWHERE. I have stopped checking my phone every 10 seconds but fell I'm a a millimetre forward from where I was 3 months ago. I'm not drinking/doing any crazy stuff to hide my pain, just getting along with my life as best I can. I have had a new hairstyle, bought some new sexy clothes but all the time I just want to show him all this and make him feel I am the woman for him (like he always used to make me feel). How long does it take if you have been so deeply in love with someone and they they are just gone, out of thin air. What can I do to ease the pain. Seeing other guys just will not work, I know that. I am reading a great book by Susan Piver about broken hearts and while I read it I feel better, then I get into my normal day and feel like my heart is in one million pieces all over. Help me, I need to make contact with people and talk this out. Have used every shoulder I can find and think I'm wearing my friends and family out too.
WhoMI Posted August 23, 2011 Posted August 23, 2011 I'm sorry you're going through this but know that you're not alone. I can't give you any great advice b/c I'm still struggling myself but it helps to share watever ur thinking on this site. I also don't want to wear out my friends & family anymore so been posting on here even if there're no replies. It just helps to type it out. I guess the pain will go away when we no longer do things b/c of him. I check my phone all the time (feels like every second) but I'm sure it'll become like every minute then every hour then once a day then once a week and eventually not all.
Author Lofty2 Posted August 23, 2011 Author Posted August 23, 2011 Thank you so much for your kind words. I think I'm going to have to join you in using this forum to help me. Has it helped you? Or do you think it makes it worse by dragging the pain on and on...... What happened in your split? I keep seeing this NC thing. I have managed 5 weeks now. He has managed the whole 3 months. AAARRRGGGHHHHH.
WhoMI Posted August 23, 2011 Posted August 23, 2011 Congrats on ur 5 weeks NC! ur doing better than I am. It's been about 3 weeks since he broke up with me & I've broken NC a couple of times. Did well for the last week & broke NC this morning:-( Here's the link to my 1st post if u want more details of my split http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t292624/ I'll be meeting up with my ex in 2 weeks (this was agreed on previously by both of us). I hope that will be my closure for myself. Posting on this site has helped me release the emotions inside instead of bottling them up. I hope for you and I that one day we don't need to post anymore about our ex and instead share our experience of recovery to help others like us. We just need to hang in there & the weak days will slowly decrease to none.
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