randy90631 Posted August 23, 2011 Posted August 23, 2011 My parents relationship with my sister has gotten really bad. They don't talk to each other anymore. My parents bailed my sister out of a bad marriage. Now they think she is being irresponsible by having a boyfriend and raising her daughter. This has caused a huge break down in communication, it also doesn't help that my sister avoids difficult situations. They have pretty much stopped talking to each other. These parents are my dad and step mom. Sometimes my sister asked to pickup my niece from day care when she has to work late. I don't mind helping her out and I don't ask for anything in return. My step brother and parents think that my sister is using me and that I shouldn't help her because I'm enabling her and reflects bad on me. My step brother has said that my parents are disappointed in me cause I shouldn't be helping her. They are really hurt and told my step brother than when they hear my name it reminds them of my sister. I think I'm punished because of my association with my sister. Of course there is things my sister does that I don't agree with and I've expressed that to her. I don't view most people negatively unless they have directly disrespect me or get involved with drugs and the such. What should I do? I'm 30 years old and it pisses me off that everyone knows I'm a person and yet view me negatively because of this situation.
bentnotbroken Posted August 23, 2011 Posted August 23, 2011 Sounds like your parents are trying to control your sister through others. If they force others to bend to their will, then indirectly they control her. You did say you are 30, shouldn't you be able to help your sister if you choose? How is helping her by picking up her child if she is working late enabling bad behavior? Are you comfortable with your choices of helping her? If so, your parents should back off and stick to their choices instead of trying to control yours.
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