Ninja25 Posted August 23, 2011 Posted August 23, 2011 To everyone that has had there ex stray and cheat to everyone dealing with boyfriends pasts. My fiance and I have only been together a year offically known each other since we were kids. Heres my story. I found my fiance again after years apart and decided I would move from Oz to Nz to be with him it felt right and we clicked. In the build up of getting ready to move my boyfriend then soon to be fiance went out with friends and saw a girl that he had liked for years and she had always been promising that they would be together one day. with me ifing and areing whether I would actually move to be with him he went to her and they kissed and played with each other did not sleep together, I found this all out once I had moved and we had started a life out together he didnt tell me clearly as I wouldnt have come. I have obsessed about this girl for some time now and have finally come to a conclusion after reading everyones posts on the subject which I thank. A. My fiance has deleted all ties with this girl they had one night of kissing and fondling thats it. he has deleted friends that have ties with her and doesnt hang out with people or talk to people that has an association with her and has made this clear to friends.I know this for a fact as were inseperable and never spend a night away from each other. B. When I landed to be with him it was me and him and no one else which is why I didnt knw this happened before I came as there were no signs. which clearly means it ended before we offically started, you cant really begin a relationship until your in the same country. To some up, YES you can get through it depending on whether the contact is still there and whether your partner does anything in his power to delete the past HE HAS TO DELETE THE PAST AND CONTACTS YOUR WORTH THAT otherwise im afraid you will never get over this obsession. Sadly in the end this girl is now engaged to someone and continues to cheat and walk into a life of missery I now only feel anything but sadness for the girl as she has made a mess of her life and is about to live her life in decite. In a sense this is comforting that I am the better person as the proof is here and I havent and will never cheat on a man. YOU HAVE TO LOOK AT YOUR PARTNER AND LOOK AT TO SEE WHAT HES DOING TO IMPROVE YOUR FEELINGS ABOUT THE SITUATION WHAT IS HE DOING TO HELP YOUR RELATIONSHIP TO MOVE ON. HE DID THE DECITE SO HE NEEDS TO MEND WHAT HES/SHE DONE. and if your conclusion is hes still in contact with her and doesnt intend to drop her as a friend/watever than you are worth more than that find someone that deserves what you have to give coz huni hes just a creep then and hes getting his cake and eating it too!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Pls any comments on my situation and thoughts will be appreciated tah xxx
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