ah1 Posted August 22, 2011 Posted August 22, 2011 After a 4 month up and down relationship my ex left me last week after a heated argument. He has a few issues with things going on in his life and is also very insecure. From day one he has always said i will leave him anyway as I’m too pretty, successful etc which I find more upsetting than a compliment as I got upset when he thought I didn’t care and he was saying I can do better. I didn’t help the situation though, I have a demanding job and I admit sometimes I took it out on him with my down moods which he took as me withdrawing and also sometimes said I snapped at him :/ ......and his shift work and 3 year old child from a previous relationship on top of all of that! Anyway this week he’s deleted and blocked me off Facebook etc, and told me to move on. Iv text a few times but not in a needy demanding way, which I did during other times during the on off stages, but as he seemed so finalised this time, I knew there was no changing his mind so thought space and time to miss me may change his views. These texts I’ve sent where just asking how his week is going etc and have only had one word answers from him, which is not good, but after him completely ignoring me this seemed like progress. He has also said this week he does care about me and he’s sorry for the way things have turned out but too many feelings have been hurt to work through things this time. I saw him today whilst out shopping, as he works as security in the mall, and he was so cold and off with me so I cut the conversation short and left him alone, I made sure I looked ok and didn’t mention the break up but how can he switch off so soon and not care, I really thought after seeing him today he would get in touch. ****My point is though.....all people say to me is leave him to it and make let him have time to miss me etc, but the reasons for the arguments were his insecurity and my apparent lack of interest, so surely NC will just confirm all of this in his mind anyway. I’m at a loss at what’s the best thing to do now? *****
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