quietGuy13 Posted August 22, 2011 Posted August 22, 2011 Why would a girl want me to go out with her....If i'm not even fun. I'm just a quiet person and my conversations always go wrong and i had nothing to say. Last time it failed badly, it recovered by the end but still i had tons of long pauses with nothing to say. And i'm not an interesting person but for some reason she wants to see me again. We're going out to morrow.. What could this mean? Girls want to see guys again even if the guys are worthless like me? Maybe she's lonely or something but I'm pretty sure she has other better friends than me . so i don't quite understand. last time we met i gave her a self made card just a friendship card and then i also said "you're great" because i just like to say that to people who are nice to me. But i don't think i'm attractive at all not even in personality.
todd Posted August 22, 2011 Posted August 22, 2011 Maybe she wants a project that she thinks she can fix and get to like himself and come out of his shell..
Lucky_One Posted August 22, 2011 Posted August 22, 2011 Man, you are your own worst enemy. Just freaking relax for once and don't think about carcinogens or your physical ailments or your lack of a job and your dweebiness. Contrary to your belief, not every woman likes a confident man, or one who talks a lot, or one who seems to smooth. Just be thankful that you are on a date.
strawberryshortstack Posted August 22, 2011 Posted August 22, 2011 Man, you are your own worst enemy. Just freaking relax for once and don't think about carcinogens or your physical ailments or your lack of a job and your dweebiness. Contrary to your belief, not every woman likes a confident man, or one who talks a lot, or one who seems to smooth. Just be thankful that you are on a date. I agree with this post. I don't talk unless I have something important to say. A lot of men are confused by this, but they're obviously not right for me. I'm with someone right now who understands this, because he's the same way. We don't always talk a lot. We have a lot of comfortable silences. It's nice. Maybe this girl is looking for the same kind of thing.
FitChick Posted August 22, 2011 Posted August 22, 2011 Maybe she thinks you get a big disability check. Maybe she has a fear of being dumped and figures you'd never dump her for someone better.
strawberryshortstack Posted August 23, 2011 Posted August 23, 2011 Maybe she thinks you get a big disability check. Maybe she has a fear of being dumped and figures you'd never dump her for someone better. or maybe she just genuinely likes him. *shrug*
Cracker Jack Posted August 23, 2011 Posted August 23, 2011 Just enjoy your time with this woman. No reason to complain about nothing.
Author quietGuy13 Posted August 23, 2011 Author Posted August 23, 2011 Alright thanks everybody. I'll do my best.
LoveandSuch Posted August 23, 2011 Posted August 23, 2011 Awwwwww, that was really sweet to give her a friendship card. That is actually a little eccletic in a way, people do like that!
ChessPieceFace Posted August 23, 2011 Posted August 23, 2011 Why would a girl want me to go out with her....If i'm not even fun. I'm just a quiet person and my conversations always go wrong and i had nothing to say. Last time it failed badly, it recovered by the end but still i had tons of long pauses with nothing to say. And i'm not an interesting person but for some reason she wants to see me again. We're going out to morrow.. What could this mean? Girls want to see guys again even if the guys are worthless like me? Maybe she's lonely or something but I'm pretty sure she has other better friends than me . so i don't quite understand. last time we met i gave her a self made card just a friendship card and then i also said "you're great" because i just like to say that to people who are nice to me. But i don't think i'm attractive at all not even in personality. Don't know if you are trolling or you actually think this way. No, you are not attractive in personality, that's for sure. It's one thing to be lacking confidence but you are downright murderous of your own self-esteem. I agree with you that I can't imagine what she sees in you. Until you change your attitude, you'll be creating the exact kind of failure that you expect. I'm not saying that you have to be an arrogant womanizer (although it's a sad fact that you'd have a lot more 'success' as that) but seriously, just listen to yourself and figure out what the problem is.
Sanman Posted August 23, 2011 Posted August 23, 2011 Who cares? Just go out with her...or don't. It really is that simple.
serial muse Posted August 23, 2011 Posted August 23, 2011 Why would you say something like that? That is so mean spirited. Yeah, seriously! Sounds like she just likes you, OP.
2.50 a gallon Posted August 23, 2011 Posted August 23, 2011 guietguy It is time for you to turn your life around. When you go out on this date, get her to talking about herself. About her job, where did she go to school, what about her family, brother, sister, parents, pets, what kinds of music does she like, what are her favorite foods, movies, Unless she asks don't talk about yourself Can you dance? Learn Can you cook? Learn Learn to like cats As for the pauses, practise by talking to the gals who run the cash registers, they always try to be friendly with how is your day, talk about the weather, if it is hot, or rainy, or drought, or the local sports team. You are not trying to pick them up, just practise talking to them
grkBoy Posted August 23, 2011 Posted August 23, 2011 OK...now I believe this guy is a troll. No one is this pathetic.
dispatch3d Posted August 23, 2011 Posted August 23, 2011 If she wants to go out with you again, you are obviously doing something right - quite possibly everything right. I wouldn't be so hard on yourself on the couple "downers" that happened. Pauses in conversation are very normal for someone you are just getting to know. I talk a ton ton ton ton to everyone and I still have pauses in conversation. It's nothing really to worry about. Just take the time to calm your nerves and stop worrying when it does happen.
dispatch3d Posted August 23, 2011 Posted August 23, 2011 OK...now I believe this guy is a troll. No one is this pathetic. lol this **** is hilarious. You are the troll who cried troll, truly are hahaha.
grkBoy Posted August 23, 2011 Posted August 23, 2011 lol this **** is hilarious. You are the troll who cried troll, truly are hahaha. I'm a troll? Like in Pigskin??? http://www.i-mockery.com/shorts/pigskin/pigskin-6.gif
Author quietGuy13 Posted August 24, 2011 Author Posted August 24, 2011 If she wants to go out with you again, you are obviously doing something right - quite possibly everything right. I wouldn't be so hard on yourself on the couple "downers" that happened. Pauses in conversation are very normal for someone you are just getting to know. I talk a ton ton ton ton to everyone and I still have pauses in conversation. It's nothing really to worry about. Just take the time to calm your nerves and stop worrying when it does happen. Thanks alot. Well we went out. it was great but i feel she's not very interested in me because i'm not a loud guy. Or maybe that's how she is(Quiet, even though she has said she's more outgoing so i wonder if it's only with me that's she's quiet because i'm boring). It felt bad because well... i mean, i for some reason had this thought that she liked me.. but today she talked about how she's so looking forward for the time when she goes back to her country and then started saying about all her plans of her life in her country after she finishes her studies in America. So yeah, this is obviously not gonna become a Girlfriend . but oh well it's kinda sad but well at least I have a temporary friend.
ChessPieceFace Posted August 24, 2011 Posted August 24, 2011 So yeah, this is obviously not gonna become a Girlfriend . but oh well it's kinda sad but well at least I have a temporary friend. The sad fact for socially awkward people like you and I is that we are faced with a triple-whammy: - We have to work hard just to be "average" in terms of social interaction, and it's a constant struggle to not blow it or sink back into one's nature of quiet contemplation - Girls will still like us less, so we will have to try with a lot more girls to have the same chance to succeed - Being social more often and trying with more girls is even MORE painful to us than to the average guy, due to our introverted nature But that's just how it is. You can either work hard at it to eventually succeed, give up on all that hassle and try to be happy alone (like I kind of did), or sit around whining and moping about it. Your choice.
Author quietGuy13 Posted August 25, 2011 Author Posted August 25, 2011 Thanks everybody. And thanks for those who gave me good advice. AndChessPiece, thanks yeah..I work at it but i try my best and i can't control my speech. Like the other day again we had a date and i couldn't think of anything to say. But well it went well , we had some pauses but i was able to rescue it. And again she said shes wants to see me again soon! 2.50 Gallon, thanks yeah, i need to work on diggin in to ask her questions and about her. I tried but always i never remember anything of what i have practiced the day before. Do you think it's ok if i bring a card with the questions and comments i want to talk to her about?
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