kj4412 Posted August 22, 2011 Posted August 22, 2011 (edited) So I wasnt sure where to post this but here it is..... So I started to date this girl, she is an ex of my friends. Yes, I made sure it was cool to do this and everyone, even my friend said good to go. It was actually her ex's mom (my friends mom) that got us to started to date because she is a close family friend to me and know's I will treat her better, than her son could. Her ex (my friend), spent more time with his friends, always fought with her, he's the one that dumped her the first time, always said mean things to her, drank, drugs, etc. I know, I have better looks, talent, nicer, athletic, caring, etc than him. So we have been dating for a month now, taking it slow, cause I didn't want to be a rebound or anything. She got out of the relationship with her ex (my friend) about 2 months ago. Things were going great, we were both always happy. She said to me like ''you mean so much to me'', ''I've never met a boy like you before and treats me right'', ''I thank god for someone coming into my life like you''..... List goes on. We weren't officially together yet, but it was close. I have met her family and everything, they all loved me and she has one of the coolest families I have ever known (they are a big Christian family). So now recently she just said we should call things off, she has feelings for her ex still and wants to be with him. They both kissed before he left for college. She wants to be with him but he is at a college hours away??? I don't get how that will work. She told me she wants to be really close friends and I mean so much to her. I had jsut gotten out of id call "my first love'' relationship about 6 months ago... Boy those were harsh times, But ill tell you people things get so much better!!!!! But back to the topic... I know she wants to be ''close friends'', so im there for her when her ex plan fails (We all know it will, their families are upset with them). She wants me to send her notes on how I feel, She is emotionally confused and bipolar like. I know I was like that when I broke up with my ex, I understand what she is going threw..... Oh and she thinks he has ''changed''.... One of her sister's is just gorgeous and similar personality, similar age. Not sure if going for her would be right, I mean she did call it off, so the doors are open. but i know she is rethinking things. So If you guys give me some opinions on what you think I should do in this situation that would be great. I did tell her I respect her decision and basically no contact since yesterday. Thanks guys!!! Edited August 22, 2011 by kj4412
just_scott Posted August 22, 2011 Posted August 22, 2011 DUDE is she said to you ''you 2 should call things off and she still has feelings for her ex'' your relationship is already over .tell her goodbye . and don't even accept ''we can still be friends''
Author kj4412 Posted August 22, 2011 Author Posted August 22, 2011 (edited) Ya i understand the whole ''we can be friends thing'', i mean she is a great person in general but still.... I dont want to be on the side lines so she can keep tabs on me for how she put me in this situation. I dunno though, there is just something about her sister that got my attention, I barely know her but when we were together, she seemed like an awesome person. She is very musical too, just like me!! =) Edited August 22, 2011 by kj4412
just_scott Posted August 22, 2011 Posted August 22, 2011 KJ before you put too much thought onto the sister definatly end what you have now and don't ask her sister out right away that will stir up a whole mess of trouble between sisters and your ex and you ,in time maybe accidently run into the sister somewhere start talking exchange numbers,THEN you can just ask ''hey how would your sister react if me and you started seeing each other'' maybe even let the sisters discuss that
Author kj4412 Posted August 22, 2011 Author Posted August 22, 2011 Very true, and I know they have a close family, I wouldn't want to mess that up for them, because I see them as a happy family, and I want it to stay that way for them. We dated, but nothing too serious because I was afraid this might happen (the whole situation with her ex) and it did. She actually might be willing to help me go out with her sister to be honost, but then we will probly have to be friends. On the otherside she might get mad who knows. She wants me to email me a letter, not quite sure what to say yet or if I even should. Thank you just_scott for the advice so far! Much appreciated! =)
Author kj4412 Posted August 22, 2011 Author Posted August 22, 2011 Ya figured out today her and her ex are back together, I think im just gonna go No contact, sealed deal. And I dont think I would be able to get close to her sister, atleast for now
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