chutzpah89 Posted August 22, 2011 Posted August 22, 2011 I need help. I've been contemplating this relationship off and on for a while now. My boyfriend and I have been together for 9 months. He is AMAZING. we both got together after ending 3 year relationships we both had. He treats me like gold. He does everything for me. He's everything I was missing out on. Flowers just because he loves me, making me chocolate covered strawberries to leave for me just because, "I love you"s 10 times a day, etc. However, he is clingy, and he has gotten better since I've talked to him about it, but I'm a VERY independent woman, and always have been. I need to have my life as well. He makes it near impossible. I'm also attractive and guys will look and say "Hi" and instead of taking it as a complient, he gets very possessive and jealous, annd I'm forbidden from talking to them again. I'm not allowed to go to parties without him there usually if he doesn't know absolutely everyone there. I think he's just afraid he'll lose me. He has low self esteem sometimes. I'm a nurse, and he's a mechanic. He thinks I can do better I guess, and with him always acting that way, it gets me wondering. I just need time alone sometimes and he has started to really annoy me with his immaturity. I'm 22, he just turned 21. Its getting to the point where I'm not as attracted to him. I love him, but the inlove part is not there as it was before. We have lived together for 4 months now also. I would just take a break but idk what he'd do and we live together which would make it complicated. Last time I mentioned it, he broke down and things got a little better, but i really am just confused. To make it even more complicated, on his 21st birthday, he got drunk and confessed he already bought me an engagement ring. He will be proposing at the end of this year sometime. Thats all I've ever wanted, a guy who is committed, supportive, loving, and affectionate...but its just not the same anymore. I don't want to end things if I don't have to. He really is different than most guys, just with some flaws. But I know I can't change a man. Idk what to do, but this attraction is getting worse and worse. Am I just being too picky? Am I the problem? Please help if you have suggestions!
robdrm32 Posted August 22, 2011 Posted August 22, 2011 Sounds to me like he is killing the attraction by being clingy and desperate. I can relate as i've done this a few times to girls and they run like crazy. You can do 2 things the way i see it. Talk to him about it and tell him it needs to stop. or just end it because its unlikely he will change his behavior without some time and effort.
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