quietGuy13 Posted August 22, 2011 Posted August 22, 2011 From what i've seen in movies and what i've seen when i was in highschool/college....I see there's traditional ways people find dates. Things like: Meeting through friends( I don't even have friends), at bars/clubs, at some event( i don't go to events), at supermarket(but you have to be a chatter and i'm not) I'm not a typical person(no friends, i'm quiet, not outgoing, don't even have a job and can't speak well) sooo I have to do it in some other way. But I don't really know how. I did go out (as friends) with some foreign ladies but all of them already have boyfriends. Seems all the Foreign girls always have boyfriends. I do have and chat to ladies online but they're usually from another country and live in that country so it's pretty impossible. Are there any tips for a NON TYPICAL person to find love???? There's no singles events in my town...even if there were, the people that would go there are TYPICAL(outgoing, talkative, successful) people so that's not gonna work cause they would think i'm a loser. Like i said in another thread, it would be helpful if there were things called FRIEND CLUBS(where no one would judge you and everyone would be nice) instead of the usual Nightclubs/Bars were you're always expected to be a certain way. But ther'es no such thing. Cafe's are just full of sassy outgoing people that think quiet people are stupid. And nowadays cafe's are full of people hooked on laptops WIFI or ipods, can't even meet anyone. AND DON"T TELL ME ONLINE DATING. That's the worse way , there's nobody from my city in there and nobody responds
Pasttense Posted August 22, 2011 Posted August 22, 2011 Join some clubs, take some adult education classes, attend church and join church groups. Meet your neighbors; socialize with your co-workers. The more socially active you are the more people you will meet--and some of them will be desirable to date--or introduce you to their friends/relatives who are.
Shaun-Dro Posted August 22, 2011 Posted August 22, 2011 From what i've seen in movies and what i've seen when i was in highschool/college....I see there's traditional ways people find dates. Things like: Meeting through friends( I don't even have friends), at bars/clubs, at some event( i don't go to events), at supermarket(but you have to be a chatter and i'm not) I'm not a typical person(no friends, i'm quiet, not outgoing, don't even have a job and can't speak well) sooo I have to do it in some other way. But I don't really know how. I did go out (as friends) with some foreign ladies but all of them already have boyfriends. Seems all the Foreign girls always have boyfriends. I do have and chat to ladies online but they're usually from another country and live in that country so it's pretty impossible. Are there any tips for a NON TYPICAL person to find love???? There's no singles events in my town...even if there were, the people that would go there are TYPICAL(outgoing, talkative, successful) people so that's not gonna work cause they would think i'm a loser. Like i said in another thread, it would be helpful if there were things called FRIEND CLUBS(where no one would judge you and everyone would be nice) instead of the usual Nightclubs/Bars were you're always expected to be a certain way. But ther'es no such thing. Cafe's are just full of sassy outgoing people that think quiet people are stupid. And nowadays cafe's are full of people hooked on laptops WIFI or ipods, can't even meet anyone. AND DON"T TELL ME ONLINE DATING. That's the worse way , there's nobody from my city in there and nobody responds Your lack of social skills is what's hindering you. I suggest you come out of your little bubble and start socializing. But lucky for you, I'm going to give you the best way how to go about this. Start off with the places you like to go. If it's a bar or lounge, chat with a bartender or barmaid. They're always willing to talk because it helps their day go by quicker and they can keep you a customer while the drinks go on. But don't get intoxicated because that will deteriorate things. Also try libraries. Start asking questions to the staff. Open up some. Soon you'll be able to talk to the patrons that frequent these places, but take it a day at a time. Baby steps, remember? You repeat the same situation at the supermarket. Make small talk with the cashier. This gets you comfortable in talking to people more. It'll open you up to better venues later. Keep in mind that you do this without a ulterior motive. Don't worry about attracting the fine ladies just yet. You need confidence and a don't give a **** attitude to deal with them. You're not on that level yet. Learn to just talk to people. Always make it small talk until you're more comfortable with yourself, whereas you'll be able to talk more to people, without looking for their approval. I can go on and on but I think you get the jist of what I'm telling you, so get your ass out there and get going.
nyc_guy2003 Posted August 22, 2011 Posted August 22, 2011 First comment is learn how to write correctly. You have no concept of how to use parentheses in proper form. If you write a chick using crap grammar she's going to think Forrest Gump wants to date her. Next topic -- ways to meet chicks. No clue how old you are, but in my early 20s I was terribly shy and new to the city so it was difficult for me to meet chicks. But I managed to find dates through the following: 1) On trains, buses, and planes. Ok buses not so much, since the types of people who ride buses aren't necessarily your target audience. But on trains and planes, when you sit next to a hot chick, they're a captive audience for the duration of the ride. I've met many chicks just by striking up conversations sitting next to them, including a girl I ended up having a relationship with. 2) Colleagues at work. My first job out of school was at a firm where the median age was in the mid-20s. Needless to say just by seeing the same people in the office, hallways, happy hour, etc. over and over again, I ended up dating two of the hotter chicks in the firm after getting to know them professionally. 3) Friends of friends. You said you didn't have any friends, but have you tried the pseudo-g@y BFF angle? If chicks consider you non-threatening and possibly bisexual, they are more likely to hang with you even if you are @ss-ugly, as long as they don't have to be seen in public with you. I didn't necessarily have this experience, but I have a female friend who considers me attractive but not her type, so in effect I might as well be g@y to her. But she introduced me to all of her other female friends and I ended up hooking up with two of them.
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