irc333 Posted August 22, 2011 Share Posted August 22, 2011 Okay, I was wondering, guys. If you see pictures of a pretty lady, but she has nothing from the neck down showing in the photos...do to chance it? Would you judge whether or not she might be overweight? Or would you rather a woman have more showing than just head shots? Link to post Share on other sites
ThsAmericanLife Posted August 22, 2011 Share Posted August 22, 2011 See? This is what I mean... A woman tries to be classy by just showing her face, and this is the outcome. Maybe her body is smoking hot, and no amount of clothing is going to conceal that... and she doesn't want that kind of attention. What is a cup of coffee gonna cost you to find out? Sheesh... Link to post Share on other sites
Author irc333 Posted August 22, 2011 Author Share Posted August 22, 2011 See? This is what I mean... A woman tries to be classy by just showing her face, and this is the outcome. Maybe her body is smoking hot, and no amount of clothing is going to conceal that... and she doesn't want that kind of attention. What is a cup of coffee gonna cost you to find out? Sheesh... Depends on how far a drive...gas money is taken into account. lol You're that one that doesn't even USE pictures on online dating sites. Your response would not be an accurate representation of a typical online dating situation. I'm not much for looks, but I do like to to confirm the fact that they aren't grotesquely overweight. I had been down that road before, not doing it again. Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted August 22, 2011 Share Posted August 22, 2011 OLD, I go by head shots and profile text. That's it. If a woman's eyes and expressions speak to me, and her method of describing herself finds me wanting to know more, then I inquire. Short and sweet. Link to post Share on other sites
TigerCub Posted August 22, 2011 Share Posted August 22, 2011 If the woman was fat, wouldn't her face be as well? Link to post Share on other sites
phineas Posted August 22, 2011 Share Posted August 22, 2011 If the woman was fat, wouldn't her face be as well? Nope. The human body stores fat differently on people. I know lots of people both men & women with lean faces, jawlines ect but are grossly overweight. The power gut scenereo in men for instance. Bingo arm in women. Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted August 22, 2011 Share Posted August 22, 2011 (edited) If the woman was fat, wouldn't her face be as well?Not necessarily. As an example, my exW generally lost weight in her face and breasts first, so she could photograph amazingly well in head shots and still be 50-70lbs over her healthy weight. Edited August 22, 2011 by carhill Link to post Share on other sites
ThsAmericanLife Posted August 22, 2011 Share Posted August 22, 2011 Depends on how far a drive...gas money is taken into account. lol You're that one that doesn't even USE pictures on online dating sites. Your response would not be an accurate representation of a typical online dating situation. I'm not much for looks, but I do like to to confirm the fact that they aren't grotesquely overweight. I had been down that road before, not doing it again. Because my body is smoking hot and no amount of clothing can conceal that... and I didn't want that kind of attention. LOL But seriously... there is no guarantee that the pics will be recent. That is the chance one takes when doing the online route... Link to post Share on other sites
sm1tten Posted August 22, 2011 Share Posted August 22, 2011 All my pictures are boobs-up That's because all my pictures were taken by me, because I hate having photographs taken of me, and I hate those "in the mirror" shots. I think it's kind of obvious from my face/neck/shoulder what my body type is, although I had one guy tell me he wasn't sure if I was "fat," but I concluded that he really just wanted me to send him some extra pics. Link to post Share on other sites
Author irc333 Posted August 22, 2011 Author Share Posted August 22, 2011 Not necessarily. As an example, my exW generally lost weight in her face and breasts first, so she could photograph amazingly well in head shots and still be 50-70lbs over her healthy weight. Yeah, I used to check for a "double chin" in face only pics to confirm my suspicions. But, that can't always be the case. Link to post Share on other sites
FitChick Posted August 22, 2011 Share Posted August 22, 2011 My friend has a model gorgeous face. She weights about 300 lbs. but there is no way you'd ever know because she has a sculpted face, firm jawline and no double chin at all. It should be a requirement that a profile must contain a current head shot and one full body shot. My digital camera has a timer. I take all of my own photos. I don't sit or stand in contorted positions to hide figure flaws (because I don't have any . It's not rocket science. I am slim and fit and want a similar man. I don't want to be surprised by a beer gut on a man who describes himself as "athletic." If you want to know if photos are current ask them to take more in a specific place, perhaps where they live or some place they've mentioned going on a regular basis. Link to post Share on other sites
TigerCub Posted August 22, 2011 Share Posted August 22, 2011 Nope. The human body stores fat differently on people. I know lots of people both men & women with lean faces, jawlines ect but are grossly overweight. The power gut scenereo in men for instance. Bingo arm in women. Not necessarily. As an example, my exW generally lost weight in her face and breasts first, so she could photograph amazingly well in head shots and still be 50-70lbs over her healthy weight. Thanks for the info - I honestly have never really noticed that. Most people who are overweight looked to have chubby faces at least. Wow, I just learned something new - well I guess I never paid too much attention before - either way...thanks Link to post Share on other sites
TigerCub Posted August 22, 2011 Share Posted August 22, 2011 If you want to know if photos are current ask them to take more in a specific place, perhaps where they live or some place they've mentioned going on a regular basis. Would anyone really go and take pictures as requested? I would think that most people see through the request and be less likely to do it with the thinking of "why the hell should I jump through hoops and prove my pics are time stamped and up to the minute recent when this bozo can't even be bothered to meet up for a coffee until then" p.s. I had recent pics when I did online and I never had any problems, but if someone doubted my pics and made that request, I wouldn't even bother with them - onto the next. Link to post Share on other sites
Author irc333 Posted August 22, 2011 Author Share Posted August 22, 2011 Would anyone really go and take pictures as requested? I would think that most people see through the request and be less likely to do it with the thinking of "why the hell should I jump through hoops and prove my pics are time stamped and up to the minute recent when this bozo can't even be bothered to meet up for a coffee until then" p.s. I had recent pics when I did online and I never had any problems, but if someone doubted my pics and made that request, I wouldn't even bother with them - onto the next. LOL...I don't have that much stingent requirements when it comes to updated photos. THere was this one woman that mentioned that "all her photos were taken between March and now, and she expected the pics, in kind of the man she views online, to be just as updated as hers." Some demand that they want pics within the year, and no more than that. I don't care , as long as they hadn't changed much in the past few years. Most of my photos are within the past couple of years actually....and I hadn't changed much weight-wise, perhaps give or take about 5 lbs. THat's about it. So not enough to justify to keep it updated within months. Link to post Share on other sites
FitChick Posted August 22, 2011 Share Posted August 22, 2011 Would anyone really go and take pictures as requested? For me they do. I've taken more photos on request, but only when I clicked with the guy and it seemed we'd be meeting. I knew they'd had "surprises," as had I. Link to post Share on other sites
nyc_guy2003 Posted August 22, 2011 Share Posted August 22, 2011 See? This is what I mean... A woman tries to be classy by just showing her face, and this is the outcome. Maybe her body is smoking hot, and no amount of clothing is going to conceal that... and she doesn't want that kind of attention. What is a cup of coffee gonna cost you to find out? Sheesh... This makes no sense at all. It would be like applying for a job and downplaing your achievements on your resume because you want to come off as humble. Link to post Share on other sites
TigerCub Posted August 22, 2011 Share Posted August 22, 2011 LOL...I don't have that much stingent requirements when it comes to updated photos. THere was this one woman that mentioned that "all her photos were taken between March and now, and she expected the pics, in kind of the man she views online, to be just as updated as hers." Some demand that they want pics within the year, and no more than that. I don't care , as long as they hadn't changed much in the past few years. Most of my photos are within the past couple of years actually....and I hadn't changed much weight-wise, perhaps give or take about 5 lbs. THat's about it. So not enough to justify to keep it updated within months. The stuff in bold, I can totally understand, although I'm more in line with your view (as long as its relatively recent, and there would be no big changes and surprised when comparing pics and real person, then that's all that matters) But that whole notion of "can you go here and there and take a pic" its almost like having to do a scavenger hunt or doing those gnome pictures seems overly silly. Link to post Share on other sites
Sith Apprentice Posted August 22, 2011 Share Posted August 22, 2011 Fatties can be very deceptive. I always demand full body shots since I'm not attracted to the bus riding tubbies. If she becomes defensive then I just weeded out another fatty. Also, avoid women with food in their usernames. Link to post Share on other sites
TigerCub Posted August 22, 2011 Share Posted August 22, 2011 For me they do. haha, I bet they do I've taken more photos on request, but only when I clicked with the guy and it seemed we'd be meeting. I knew they'd had "surprises," as had I. But here's my question, if people see a few pics of one another, and they chat a bit and seem to click, why not meet up at least for a coffee, rather than sending them on missions to take more pics before the meetup? I mean just meet already, if it sucks it sucks, end the date and don't go out with them a second time. Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted August 22, 2011 Share Posted August 22, 2011 I mean just meet already,Yep, pretty much that's it. I generally never saw a need for building up a virtual 'attraction'. Relationships happen in real life. So, if the totality of the person didn't match up in person with the initial impression (on either side), it didn't and we both moved on. No expectations shattered, no egos bruised. One more life experience for the books. I did depart from that methodology in the decades before OLD back when similar dating was through newspaper ads or phone ads. Made a couple of whopper errors during those times, mainly due to improperly developing expectations and attachment not reflective of real life interaction and synergy. Essentially, falling in love with a fantasy. The misguided adventures of youth Link to post Share on other sites
ThsAmericanLife Posted August 22, 2011 Share Posted August 22, 2011 This makes no sense at all. It would be like applying for a job and downplaing your achievements on your resume because you want to come off as humble. Good analogy... however, on my resume, I accentuate what I want to be hired for... I don't want a man who is primarily looks driven. Link to post Share on other sites
FitChick Posted August 22, 2011 Share Posted August 22, 2011 If a man tells me he has a wonderful vegetable garden, I'll ask him to stand in the middle of it holding a prize tomato. If he likes DIY I'll ask for a photo of him next to a past project. I might ask him to sit where he normally does when we speak on the phone "so I can picture you there next time." Men who think they look good want you to see them and are flattered you are interested. I only date British guys, so it would get very expensive meeting someone for a cup of coffee! By the time we meet, much time and money have been invested, not to mention emotion. Link to post Share on other sites
phineas Posted August 22, 2011 Share Posted August 22, 2011 Would anyone really go and take pictures as requested? I would think that most people see through the request and be less likely to do it with the thinking of "why the hell should I jump through hoops and prove my pics are time stamped and up to the minute recent when this bozo can't even be bothered to meet up for a coffee until then" p.s. I had recent pics when I did online and I never had any problems, but if someone doubted my pics and made that request, I wouldn't even bother with them - onto the next. I'd tell them to send me an example of the type of pic they want from me. POF FTW! LOL! Link to post Share on other sites
nyc_guy2003 Posted August 22, 2011 Share Posted August 22, 2011 Good analogy... however, on my resume, I accentuate what I want to be hired for... I don't want a man who is primarily looks driven. Then to continue your analogy, providing a body-less picture would be akin to providing a resume with gaps in employment where you only show the jobs you want people to pay attention to. That automatically raises red flags and makes people wonder what you're hiding, even if what you're hiding is a supermodel's body. Me personally, my bull***** radar goes up whenever I come across someone who is too overly humble or self-deprecating. Link to post Share on other sites
iJester Posted August 22, 2011 Share Posted August 22, 2011 I was tricked a couple times when I did online dating. There are many girls that have pretty faces, that seemingly don't match the large bodies they're attached to. If a girl has several photos, and none show more than the face, it's safe to say she's overweight. I don't have a problem with overweight people, and hell, I've even banged a few, but my problem is with the deception. What is the point in deceiving/misleading someone into going out with you? Unless you're looking for something casual, it's a waste of time for everyone. Link to post Share on other sites
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