ww Posted May 3, 2004 Posted May 3, 2004 I wonder, why is it that he ran away when we met today, like the world was on fire? I mean, we said hello to each other and he ran away leaving me behind, not even asking me How are U?or something else.... P.s. he dumped me about 3 months ago after one year of dating and to tell you the truth it`s not that I really care about him anymore...sure I`ve had a bad time for a while but i am over it.. why?
tattoomytoe Posted May 3, 2004 Posted May 3, 2004 kinda sounds like you care enough to post ot and get advice here. maybe he just couldn't face you.
Author ww Posted May 3, 2004 Author Posted May 3, 2004 no really I just wonder..it `s not that I want to be "just friens" or other things.We haven`t met for three months and there was no contact at all.. I just got this strange feeling seeing him run away like that. And yes I guess I do care after all, because he used to be dear to me but it`s over.
Author ww Posted May 3, 2004 Author Posted May 3, 2004 hello!out there! I really need your opinions! thank you
moimeme Posted May 4, 2004 Posted May 4, 2004 He has no wish to deal with you. Not very nice, but sometimes people are not very nice.
sportsloving Posted May 4, 2004 Posted May 4, 2004 Why would you spend two moments of thinking of someone who can't even stop to ask how you are doing or wait for the answer?
Author ww Posted May 4, 2004 Author Posted May 4, 2004 Sportsloving you are right. It`s just that it made me feel sooooo...stupid? How can you ignore someone who used to be close to you? anyhow it just shows what kind of person he is.I guess
uriel Posted May 5, 2004 Posted May 5, 2004 ww, Think about the meeting from his point of view. He accidentally sees a woman he dated for a year and then dumped. He might suspect you feel something for him still even if you've never expressed that. You might still be angry for all he knows. He also probably feels guilty for having hurt you. He doesn't want to deal with your emotions. He wants this to just be over. Maybe if more time had passed, he'd stop by for a friendly chat. But, I wouldn't necessarily expect it. Sometimes these things just feel awkward, uncomfortable, and potentially confrontational no matter how long it's been. The longer the time together, or the more emotional the experience, the more likely that is. --uriel
Author ww Posted May 5, 2004 Author Posted May 5, 2004 THANKS... It just made me feel like a piece of s**t. Not even worthy a siple question...but it`s ok.
uriel Posted May 6, 2004 Posted May 6, 2004 ww, I don't think his running away has much to do with you as a person. He's embarrassed, scared, guilty. It's about his inability to deal with what happened. For you, his brush off has got to bring up the pain of his leaving all over again. You're probably thinking about why he stopped seeing you, how that hurts -- not only missing him but the pain of thinking why he wasn't into you enough to stay. But, try to think of it differently: you two weren't a good match. He didn't get you on the level you deserve to be gotten, and will be by the guy who's right for you. Besides, you're still the same girl this guy was initially attracted to and spent all the time with. Whatever changed for him, it doesn't lessen who you are. -- uriel
Papillon Posted May 6, 2004 Posted May 6, 2004 He wasn't running away from you, he was running away from himself - and even if you gave chase, you would never catch him.
Author ww Posted May 6, 2004 Author Posted May 6, 2004 Nah...I wolud never chase him...what would be the point? He decided to go away long time ago...sure I felt bad, but hey, show must go on...there is always something better just around the corner.
Papillon Posted May 6, 2004 Posted May 6, 2004 I don't mean chasing as in running after him - I meant he is fleeing emotionally.
CurlyIam Posted May 6, 2004 Posted May 6, 2004 I don't know about you guys, but from my experience, after a long relationship, me always have this urge to came back. Sometimes they express it, it can be a phone call, an email... but they always do. At least in my case it always happened. So maybe he's running because he doesn't want to face this feeling (the "what if...?" part). Just don't forget there is good posibility of him realising he was late for a meeting or something like that. It's a very good idea to keep up clear in our mind the idea that the world doesn't revolve around us
Author ww Posted May 6, 2004 Author Posted May 6, 2004 Yes I thought about that option too...mabe he was late he was just in hurry or something... but anyhow...I don`t want him back surely! not after all I`ve been through...as I mentioned...he told me he want a brek up while we were making love (jesus christ)...he was kissing me and telling me that!!!!would you take a guy like him back???? my point is if I am able to stay calm and civilized when I meet him...than what`s his problem?exept being an idiot ofcourse.. thank you for your comments anyway I really do appreciate.. kisses for all of you from Rome
CurlyIam Posted May 6, 2004 Posted May 6, 2004 jeez, what a creep You are such a much better person than I am, I would have broken the bastard's legs for doing it in such a moment... Take you mind of it, don't waiste another minute even thinking about this.... If I were you, he'd better be running for a long time (and maybe that's exactly his feelings of remourse... hard to imagine though)
Author ww Posted May 6, 2004 Author Posted May 6, 2004 see...I always try to remain calm...no matter what... well you know he is MM...I had a bf too, but I left him...not just because of this jerk...but since I fell in love with this jerk...and after two years of flirting and being friends...and him insisting...he assured me he was getting divorce...and for a while he separeted from his wife and lived in his own flat...than all the sudden he decided to break up with me... and you know what?...just few days ago I`ve found out that there was another woman too!!! So practically he was cheating on his wife, me,and the third woman too. Lovely isn`t it? so, he is not worthy...
Author ww Posted May 6, 2004 Author Posted May 6, 2004 ....and about what conerns his manners I am compelled to bserve that he is acting his shoe size not his age.
Author ww Posted May 6, 2004 Author Posted May 6, 2004 so was I! yes I was hurt, but I was shocked too..and the shock made me speechless...now after 4 months I am raelizing that I was in love with a complete psycho...and I am glad he vanished out of my life...
CurlyIam Posted May 6, 2004 Posted May 6, 2004 Yup!!! and let this be a lesson to you! Accept and learn from your mistakes, that's all I can say. The rest is water under the bridge.
Author ww Posted May 7, 2004 Author Posted May 7, 2004 You are not going to belive this one! Last night I`ve got mail from him saying : I wish you all the luck in the world. ????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????.......................................... what is his problem?
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