JustEmptyInside Posted August 22, 2011 Posted August 22, 2011 Hi all - hoping to get some feedback from the LS community, I've been out of the game for a while - so a little rusty (whole back story is posted elsewhere on LS) I'll try to keep it to the short version below So on Friday when I was least expecting (and least prepared) to meet anyone, ran into a girl at a local place who I admittedly had interest in right off the bat, though I tried to keep it low key. We talked a bit over a few drinks and hung out together for a few hours, seemingly going well (we both had each other laughing and smiling most of the time, even got a little hug). After plenty of deliberation in my own head, I decided to just go for it and asked for her number, and alluded to the possibility of getting together some time for dinner or something. I got a 'definitely' and the number without hesitation - which i've got to admit is still the greatest feeling in the world After a legitimately hectic weekend I wound up sending over a text (i'm a fan of calling, but she had mentioned texting her), just something simple about the other night, hoping to open up a conversation... So, as lame as it makes me sound - at what point of no reply should I just assume that she isn't interested and back off? I admit I don't know her schedule, and it hasn't been long at all - so i'm keeping my cool (but getting into my own head a lot lately). The biggest thing on my nerves is that this girl, imho, is pretty far out of my league (I know I know, confidence), but seemed to have genuine interest. Was hoping that some outsider thoughts/advice - especially from the female perspective would help me out here. I just don't want to give the wrong impression of who I am by coming off as desperate or anything. I'd figured this would be easier, but this is first time in a long time that i've felt so strongly about anyone. She really is something else Just don't want to go screwing it up already before we get the chance to at least know each other a bit better
manji123 Posted August 22, 2011 Posted August 22, 2011 When did you send the text exactly? Sorry if I missed that but I'm not sure if it was Sunday night or what. I empathize though because this stuff can be nerve racking. It's like when you are in the moment everything is great and later you feel great about sending a text, but then as time passes and there is no response your confidence begins to wane more and more.
Author JustEmptyInside Posted August 22, 2011 Author Posted August 22, 2011 (edited) Yeah, that's exactly the feeling i'm talking about! First time i've felt that alive in a long long time... I wound up sending it over on Sunday night. Must have left that out. Edited August 22, 2011 by JustEmptyInside spelling
manji123 Posted August 22, 2011 Posted August 22, 2011 Trust me--I know. Here are a couple things to consider. 1- You've just met her so you really don't know her texting habits. She could be someone that texts instantly or takes a while or is a loses track of time and forgets or she's just busy. Fact is you don't know for sure. 2 - You gotta stay positive. Both to make this work and for yourself. No one wants to get a call or text from someone they just met and it a little snarky, needy, or just a general downer. Make sure it's short and sweet with a fun style and most importantly open ended. Was there something you two had an inside joke about or soemthing like that? Meaning if you two talked about a love of cheesecake send a text that says "How's your day. I'm eating cheesecake jealous?" Just something silly like that. Try and recreate the mood of your meeting. 3 - Don't be afraid to take charge. We all know that women love confidence, so if you are more comfortable calling--then call. I would consider giving her a call tonight, keeping it short and light and maybe asking her out again. But be prepared to leave a voicemail because you don't want to be caught off guard by that. Best of luck man.
Author JustEmptyInside Posted August 22, 2011 Author Posted August 22, 2011 Thanks manji... As far as #2 there - that's almost exactly how I tried to keep it, open ended with a funny comment. Trying to keep hoping for the best. Just haven't been able to get my mind off of her lately
manji123 Posted August 22, 2011 Posted August 22, 2011 Good to hear and again I totally understand. I've been talking to a girl for a couple weeks and had our first date this weekend. Point is after numerous dates with other girls this girl has that "something special". She's a bit aloof and quirky, which I like a lot. Anyway where I'm normally cool and in charge with her I start getting very insecure etc. It's weird when you like someone in the early stages how your insecurities can come into play. But just stay positive and best of luck man. We're rooting for you!
Author JustEmptyInside Posted August 22, 2011 Author Posted August 22, 2011 Curious to hear from any of the LS ladies out there for their take on the situation. I know that its pretty common for a girl to lose interest and ignore for that reason, but I don't want to get ahead of myself - especially since things seemed to go so well...
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