FitChick Posted August 23, 2011 Posted August 23, 2011 is the implcation that i'm sexually disfunctional? if it is you don't know what you're talking about. Surrogates also help virgins. I guess you didn't read the entire article. Have you considered the priesthood?
FitChick Posted August 23, 2011 Posted August 23, 2011 why can't a lady just say it's okay and show me? Your choice is surrogate or prostitute.
FitChick Posted August 23, 2011 Posted August 23, 2011 your lack of an answer to my other questions says it all. you're no better than the other ladies on here. Why? Because we aren't volunteering to **** you? Sorry, but whining and self-pity aren't attractive to any woman. I told you how to find help for your problem but I guess it's not as important as you are pretending. It sounds like a smokescreen you use for why your life isn't working. Go to the Lefkoe Institute website and learn about how to heal yourself.
Author Janesays Posted August 23, 2011 Author Posted August 23, 2011 For the record, my guy isn't a virgin anymore. I have since ****ed the heck out of that man. And for the people who keep insisting that I would have dumped him if I knew, that couldn't be further from the truth. Like I said, I would have liked to have moved slower so he could get more comfortable with the physical aspect of our relationship. I also would have gone to more effort to make his first time more special and meaningful. And lastly, I probably wouldn't have been stressed and anxious FOR MONTHS about his lack of initiating physical contact meaning that he wasn't attracted to me. There are only two things that are bothering me now and that is how WELL he lied. I never suspected a thing. And skilled liars scare me. Also, I worry that since he's only been with me, he'll always wonder what it's like to be with other woman. Heck, this man can't even fully appreciate how AWESOME I am in bed. I worry that some day his curiosity will get the best of him and he'll cheat. And I'll never know due to the fact that....he was a very VERY good liar. Virgin guys on the board: If you lost your virginity to a great girl, would you be happy with just her for the rest of your life? Or, once you were more sexually confident, would you want to get out there and experiment?
Author Janesays Posted August 23, 2011 Author Posted August 23, 2011 Thanks so much for sharing your opinion, vgn.
fortyninethousand322 Posted August 23, 2011 Posted August 23, 2011 Virgin guys on the board: If you lost your virginity to a great girl, would you be happy with just her for the rest of your life? Or, once you were more sexually confident, would you want to get out there and experiment? I would be happy with her for the rest of my life. I have no desire to experiment.
Pierre Posted August 23, 2011 Posted August 23, 2011 Jane (OP) I am not concerned about the fact that he was a virgin or that he lied about it. I have to assume it must have been very anxiogenic for him to have sex with an experienced female. The important issues are: Why is he less than enthusiastic? You would think he would be all over you with this newly found wonderful activity. Did the non-touching pattern change after he confessed? Is he still a non-touching kind of guy? Was he a true virgin? IN other words never messed around at all? Or did he messed with women, but never had intercourse? Why was he a virgin? Shyness? Asperger type personality? Tiny genitals? Bad luck? Not handsome? Serious guy? Has he learned how to make love to you?
Author Janesays Posted August 27, 2011 Author Posted August 27, 2011 Why is he less than enthusiastic? You would think he would be all over you with this newly found wonderful activity. Did the non-touching pattern change after he confessed? Is he still a non-touching kind of guy? He had a hard time initiating. He said he was still trying to figure out 'what was OK and what wasn't.' We had a long talk where I said, 'Touch me! It's ALL ok!' He's been initiating A LOT more since! Was he a true virgin? IN other words never messed around at all? Or did he messed with women, but never had intercourse? He had fooled around with women before. Just no oral or no intercourse. Why was he a virgin? Shyness? Asperger type personality? Tiny genitals? Bad luck? Not handsome? Serious guy? Has he learned how to make love to you? Shyness, I guess. And yes, we've been doing well since the big talk.
Cee Posted August 27, 2011 Posted August 27, 2011 Shyness, I guess. And yes, we've been doing well since the big talk. That's good to hear. Enjoy your freer, more honest relationship.
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