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Is it "inappropiate" for a guy to have his shirt off (when it's a casual setting)?

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USMCHokie Established Member

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Not some time, just an extreme degree. Clearly what's extreme to me is not extreme to everyone. But anyone who would get a little rush or any motivation from seeing it in the mirror wouldn't be my cuppa (I'm not saying there's anything wrong with that---it just doesn't align with my core values). I do very much live in my body, like to respect it and make it feel at it's peak, but to me anything that's making someone "shredded" or "ripped" is working beyond the peak of your body to an unhealthy place for cosmetic purposes. It's another extreme, and not a good representative of the middle path. And there are a lot of people addicted to exercise these days. To me, that's barely better than being addicted to food or drugs or whatever --- any addiction is a big bummer.

 

And in the end, it's all about each person's individual values. "Excessive" exercise to achieve high levels of physical fitness is absolutely no different from someone who reads lots of books and sh*t to increase their knowledge. So is an "addiction" to books bad too...?

Emilia Established Member

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To be very blunt: I am very proud of my upper body. I love all my muscles and how sexy they feel to me. I workout and I feel it is extremely attractive, I have super broad shoulders, chest, back, and arms and in very good proportion, round-type athletic muscles and nearly 200 pounds of solid muscle... but I also feel it's a healthy appreciation.

 

And I love not wearing a shirt, it just feels good. And I know girls love looking at my body, it's just positive energy.

 

So do you guys find it innapropiate for a guy like that to not wear a shirt in the summer a lot when doing something like hanging at his house and it's really hot, or just chilling outside with friends? I love not having my shirt off...

 

Is it a turn off or on when a guy does this for the simple healthy reason that it just "feels good" to him, not like he's showing off

 

 

 

Ladies I'll post a body shot if you reallly want me to lol just to see what im talking about

 

I love looking at guys with a decent body shirtless, I'm quite sporty myself so apart from the obvious attraction, I appreciate the amount of work required to maintain a good physique. Most of the men I date are very sporty and adventurous and I'm really attracted to that.

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And in the end, it's all about each person's individual values. "Excessive" exercise to achieve high levels of physical fitness is absolutely no different from someone who reads lots of books and sh*t to increase their knowledge. So is an "addiction" to books bad too...?

 

If they're reading other books to develop a mind that will impress other people, it's bad. If it's just something they love to do, of course not. I know some people who really love yoga and go every day and as long as they don't freak out if they miss a day or hinder their lives in other ways (that's when it's become an addiction), I really appreciate that quality because I think yoga and books are both awesome.

 

If you sincerely love exercising at the gym and don't do it for the appearance sake or to impress others, I've nothing against you. We probably wouldn't have much in common though, if that's your primary hobby. (All general you.)

 

I don't like people who do things purely to build an appearance that will impress others, or people who are visually impressed by such things. I like beauty (who doesn't?), but I like natural beauty. And, of course, I like hygiene, but hygiene shouldn't take copious amounts of time.

 

This thread is about people who are "showing off" their bodies. I'm not a fan of doing a lot of work that's designed towards showing off your mind or your body. I'd rather the work I do be done for genuine improvement of my own fulfillment and experience and the improvement of the general quality of the life of myself and people around me, and that's what I look for in other people. People who look to "impress" rarely impress me.

 

ETA: If a guy had 6 pack abs (I still don't think you can get the full blown without having a pretty intense gym routine -- again, not talking about the mild lines; I've dated some guys who had those, but they didn't go around preening about them or try to get them) without a lot of fuss, and I didn't notice till we were having sex and had already dated awhile, I wouldn't think less of him suddenly. But if he thinks about how best to show them off, goes to the gym religiously, worries about how his muscles look, takes excessive pride in his body, etc, that's all unappealing to me. A guy who doesn't do these things . . . well, hardly anyone ever sees those muscles anyway. Unless we're at the beach (pretty rare for me; I love West Coast beaches, but not beachy beaches, as I grew up on one and it gets old after awhile) or having sex or something.

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chelle21689 Established Member

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You can still show off your muscles while being clothed. Girls can definitely tell a different. Just wear more fitted shirts that hug your physique and not hide it.

Memphis Raines Established Member

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You can still show off your muscles while being clothed. Girls can definitely tell a different. Just wear more fitted shirts that hug your physique and not hide it.

 

Exactly, the best shirt to wear if you have a muscular build is a ringer tshirt.

wezol Established Member

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Hey, you offered. Women post their pics and attention whore on this site all the time. Let's see some sexy guys doing the same. I'm all for equality. :cool:

 

But to answer your question, I think it's appropriate and very hot for guys to go shirtless when it's hot, they're playing sports, or they're hanging out in the yard or at home. And even if it's not appropriate, who cares, because -- cute shirtless guy, woo hoo! :D

 

Same goes for hot women, hey, if you wanna show off your tits, go for it. I don't mind, I promise.

wezol Established Member

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Right. So jealous guys with bodies that aren't as ripped don't like it. Just like out-of-shape women talk smack about fit women in bikinis.

 

Most of the flak in this thread is coming from men. And what are the women doing? We are asking you to make good on your offer to post pics. :bunny:

 

Men don't want to see you shirtless, and women (for the most part) do.

 

Just like women don't want to see other women walking around in their bikini tops, and men (for the most part) do.

 

For the most part? Since when? :p

FitChick Established Member

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I don't care if a guy has a visible 6-pack as long as he doesn't have flab. I like thin, toned men with flat abs -- think swimmer's body -- because they look good in clothes and out of them. Muscle men always look a bit uncomfortable when they are dressed up -- I've seen Schwarzenegger in person.

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I don't care if a guy has a visible 6-pack as long as he doesn't have flab. I like thin, toned men with flat abs -- think swimmer's body -- because they look good in clothes and out of them.

 

That's kind of the way my body is. When I'm wearing business clothes/suits on a day-to-day basis I look relatively thin and normal, and people are always surprised when they see the difference with my shirt off.

USMCHokie Established Member

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This thread is useless without pics.

nyc_guy2003 Established Member

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This thread is useless without pics.

 

Sorry man, I'm a guy, as much as I like my body I don't think you want to see mine.

Memphis Raines Established Member

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Sorry man, I'm a guy, as much as I like my body I don't think you want to see mine.

 

Then why do it in person with other guys around?:o:confused:

 

Whats the difference whether you take your shirt off in social settings, but don't want to show here? I think I know why.

nyc_guy2003 Established Member

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Then why do it in person with other guys around?:o:confused:

 

Whats the difference whether you take your shirt off in social settings, but don't want to show here? I think I know why.

 

I don't have a problem sharing. But I suspect the previous dude was expecting a chick to take her shirt off, not a guy.

Ginger Beer Established Member

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Exactly, the best shirt to wear if you have a muscular build is a ringer tshirt.

 

What are these?

 

And I feel uncomfortable walking around with my shirt off, I've done it before when I was around 16 but it doesn't feel right. I feel a bit self-conscious, even though I shouldn't because I do have a very good body (not being big headed and I'm not posting pictures).

 

When I see other men walking around the street on a hot day with their tops off, I think it looks a bit sad and desperate.

Memphis Raines Established Member

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What are these?

 

And I feel uncomfortable walking around with my shirt off, I've done it before when I was around 16 but it doesn't feel right. I feel a bit self-conscious, even though I shouldn't because I do have a very good body (not being big headed and I'm not posting pictures).

 

When I see other men walking around the street on a hot day with their tops off, I think it looks a bit sad and desperate.

 

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USMCHokie Established Member

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Sorry man, I'm a guy, as much as I like my body I don't think you want to see mine.

 

Hahah, no worries.

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