somethingsimple Posted August 23, 2011 Posted August 23, 2011 You know what you want to do, so go nike. By making this thread, and thinking about it more, you'll only live in wonder. At this point, it has snowballed to a point where you have to do something. Really, I don't think it'll be awkward at all, if you ask her out and she says no. I personally, would just be that's cool and act like nothing happened, and things should eventually return to normal. At least, I never feel awkward after. Just think of it this way, if you do ask her out. She can say yes. If not, then she'll be flattered and you can be if not the first, one of the first patients that has asked her out.
nyc_guy2003 Posted August 23, 2011 Posted August 23, 2011 Does it really matter? ^Good indication that she's not attractive. Next thread.
Easyguy14 Posted August 25, 2011 Posted August 25, 2011 ^Good indication that she's not attractive. Next thread. maybe she's attractive to him. he shouldn't have to feel like she needs to be described. anyway I wanna know if robert dawson has made a decision yet on if he will not bother or still make a move.
Heart On Posted August 25, 2011 Posted August 25, 2011 I'm sure there is a code of ethics that prevents dating patients and I think most PTs would probably be hesitant to flirt if they were interested out of fear of getting sued or getting in trouble by a superior. BINGO! Stick with this reailty and let her do her job.Some professions expect the Professional to wait at least 6 months after the therapy has ended before they allow dating.Psychotherapist are never allowed to date their patients or x-patients. www.ptbc.ca.gov/forms_pubs/pt_sex.pdf
Memphis Raines Posted August 25, 2011 Posted August 25, 2011 BINGO! Stick with this reailty and let her do her job.Some professions expect the Professional to wait at least 6 months after the therapy has ended before they allow dating.Psychotherapist are never allowed to date their patients or x-patients. I know you really don't want to believe that you have to exercise personal responsibility, but you did have a choice whether to start having sex with your massage therapist or not. or did he have you under the old Jedi mind trick?
GorillaTheater Posted August 25, 2011 Posted August 25, 2011 I don't know anything about the PT Code of Ethics, but my brother-in-law married his physical therapist.
Author robertdawson Posted August 27, 2011 Author Posted August 27, 2011 Easyguy14: I'm not sure if I'm going to bother with this after all. She hasn't shown really interest at all. I was just being a dumbass and was infatuated because she was attractive.
Easyguy14 Posted August 28, 2011 Posted August 28, 2011 Easyguy14: I'm not sure if I'm going to bother with this after all. She hasn't shown really interest at all. I was just being a dumbass and was infatuated because she was attractive. I know I was against the whole idea of you hitting on her because of my experience but I thought this over and even mentioned it to some friends of mine and they said you have nothing to lose. and I agree with them. Im thinking its a confidence thing for why you wont just ask her to a movie. its pretty simple and non-threatening. you guys could become friends out of this. and since my own goal is to find a mate Im all for the friends first thing with some flirting mixed in. Im not looking for just a lay. I been down that road in my 20s. Im more into settling down now that Im 30. you dont have to do that but dating around is a good way to start so try with her. she might just surprise you. and like I said you could become just friends at best.
Author robertdawson Posted August 28, 2011 Author Posted August 28, 2011 (edited) I don't think she cares about being friends, she didn't even accept a facebook request, something even the most basic of acquaintances do. I don't think she is too selective either, she has got over 1000 people on there and the website showed me she added a couple other people after I had sent my request. In every experience of mine, once you ask a girl out in any way whatever sort of friendship you had with them is gone. Since she hasn't shown really any interest at all anyway I'm not going to take the [almost] sure step towards failure, especially when it looks like I'm going to be going there for treatment for a while longer. Even if she didn't treat me I don't want the head athletic trainer that works with her to think I'm a weird-ass, which he definitely would if I bothered with this. If I don't do anything I still have some respect and some dignity. Edited August 28, 2011 by robertdawson
Easyguy14 Posted August 28, 2011 Posted August 28, 2011 I don't think she cares about being friends, she didn't even accept a facebook request, something even the most basic of acquaintances do. I don't think she is too selective either, she has got over 1000 people on there and the website showed me she added a couple other people after I had sent my request. In every experience of mine, once you ask a girl out in any way whatever sort of friendship you had with them is gone. Since she hasn't shown really any interest at all anyway I'm not going to take the [almost] sure step towards failure, especially when it looks like I'm going to be going there for treatment for a while longer. Even if she didn't treat me I don't want the head athletic trainer that works with her to think I'm a weird-ass, which he definitely would if I bothered with this. If I don't do anything I still have some respect and some dignity. you're right. I didn't realize that she ignored your friend request. sorry to hear that. if she'd accepted your request I know it would've helped things a lot. I remember meeting this young lady at a bank last year, thought she was beautiful and tried to add her on facebook. she accepted it and then we talked. but shortly after she just came out of nowhere and said she cant keep talking to me because of her boyfriend and said she would have to take me off her friend's list. I said alright, understood, and that was it. is there someone else you're interested? I think you said something about being in college? I remember back in community college before I went on to mortuary school there were tons of attractive girls. went out with 5-6 of them in a 1 year stint. you could do the same if you go for it. they're pretty easy to relate to during the college period, especially the younger ones.
Author robertdawson Posted August 28, 2011 Author Posted August 28, 2011 (edited) The only other explanation is she doesn't want to be "friends" with a "client". She's got to know who I am, my first and last name is in the patient file and my facebook picture had enough of me in it where you could get a general idea it was me. If the opportunity arises I ask attractive girls out. I've asked 5 in the past two months, all rejections. Lots of others I've talked to and they showed little interest so those would have been rejections too if I had bothered asking. I'm a second year senior in college anyway, so the youngest girls I can go after are juniors. Edited August 28, 2011 by robertdawson
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