Coupedriver Posted August 22, 2011 Posted August 22, 2011 I know a few of you guys are THINKING about buying these "How to get your EX Back" books,newsletters and videos and some even SWEAR by them..( One guy told me he had a 83.7% of success rate...YEAH..NOT..!!! )...my advice..DONT EVER do it.....it is the BIGGEST scam ever.These people..( I use that term LOOSELY..) are praying on you and on your state of mind...FEELING LOST and HOPELESS...?? I too was ALMOST a sucker for these until I starting reading more..."I can HELP you for just 47.99..!!" Let me show you the tricks I USE for just 39.95...and the BEST one I ever found..HOW TO TRAIN YOUR GIRLFRIEND...!!!! Train her to do WHAT..!?!?!?!? I SWEAR I wish there was a way to stop them...Like I said earlier...I ALMOST bought every book I could find..( YES,I loved her that much...!!) but I really have to thank GOD for showing me this site...I was told to ask GOD to take this pain away from me.....and guess what website I found...??!!? YEPPERS...Now I know every person is different and we cant ALL write everything on how or why they broke up but I have GAINED some POWERFUL knowledge through this site...I DO now have a plan....and a course to follow...I hope the path opens up more and more everyday..and to all those who ARE SUFFERING...PLEASE dont do something stupid,stay the course....and realize..its THEIR loss.. yeah I know..easier said then done..BUT it will turn out for the better..PEACE out everyone....
thelovingkind Posted August 22, 2011 Posted August 22, 2011 From the few I acquired (for free), I can attest that the information in the books tends to be sound, but the major problems are a) it is mostly common sense, not worth the money and b) even if you do everything right, the odds of getting someone back who broke up with you are absolutely minute. The odds of it lasting are even slimmer. The odds of it being in the best long term interests of both partners are tinier still. Go no contact. Focus on your own needs for development. Become a stronger, more resilient person who no longer depends on your ex. That's it. That's all these books will be able to tell you and it's the same thing you'll get on LS over and over again for free. Post-break up advice is like nutritional advice. The best information about healthy eating can be summed up in two or three sentences (The classic one of course: "Eat food. Mostly plants. Not too much.") but often what makes us healthier, in terms of both body and soul, involves grunt work that is neither easy nor thrilling nor going to produce instant results. So we spend all this money on books that espouse elaborate plans and systems and pseudo-scientific crap instead.
Am4Real Posted August 22, 2011 Posted August 22, 2011 From the few I acquired (for free), I can attest that the information in the books tends to be sound, but the major problems are a) it is mostly common sense, not worth the money and b) even if you do everything right, the odds of getting someone back who broke up with you are absolutely minute. The odds of it lasting are even slimmer. The odds of it being in the best long term interests of both partners are tinier still. Go no contact. Focus on your own needs for development. Become a stronger, more resilient person who no longer depends on your ex. Amen to that!
LelouchIsZero Posted August 22, 2011 Posted August 22, 2011 Actually all those sites make me laugh. If you sign up to receive the news letters from them, they eventually start sending you links to their other pdf's. They never link you to the main book of course, but the other links they give you are basically the same thing as the link you need to access the full book. All you need to do is change a bit of the URL. Example: For 'The ex recovery system', they sent me this link: http://www.exrecoverysystem.com/download/2511/v1/ExRecovery-Map.pdf If you delete 'Exrecovery-map.pdf', like so - http://www.exrecoverysystem.com/download/2511/v1/ It takes you to their index, where they keep all of their other pdfs. The book will most likely be there & thus, you now have access to all that you need from them without paying. I probably explained that terribly, but I hope you can see what I'm getting at haha.
M2155 Posted August 23, 2011 Posted August 23, 2011 Wow, that trick is neat. I agree on paying, I admit I have bought into one or two, more for other issues but they all say the same stuff. They are telling you what you want to hear and when you aren't strong, you want to hear NC or whatever you are doing will work. I wouldn't be surprised if there was one person with 3 or 4 different "faces" saying the same stuff. They all have the same formula as the free stuff: no contact, the person will miss you, play hard-to-get. This forum is way better, I agree.
Author Coupedriver Posted August 23, 2011 Author Posted August 23, 2011 I saw on a different website tell me how to REALLY get my ex back...when you click on the link..( He uses a different name..) it takes you to Matt Hudsons site...I find that SO strange.
Am4Real Posted August 23, 2011 Posted August 23, 2011 Actually all those sites make me laugh. If you sign up to receive the news letters from them, they eventually start sending you links to their other pdf's. They never link you to the main book of course, but the other links they give you are basically the same thing as the link you need to access the full book. All you need to do is change a bit of the URL. Example: For 'The ex recovery system', they sent me this link: http://www.exrecoverysystem.com/download/2511/v1/ExRecovery-Map.pdf If you delete 'Exrecovery-map.pdf', like so - http://www.exrecoverysystem.com/download/2511/v1/ It takes you to their index, where they keep all of their other pdfs. The book will most likely be there & thus, you now have access to all that you need from them without paying. I probably explained that terribly, but I hope you can see what I'm getting at haha. What a hoot!!! Love it! Don't have the time, effort or determination to read any of it but at least now I can point someone to it whenever they may need it. Good post!
robaday Posted August 23, 2011 Posted August 23, 2011 I read reams of this stuff in my first break up. And yeah it did actually work in bringing her back. but the same problems happened all over again. A pdf will help show you where you went wrong, and give you great tips. but really the work you need is a long term self improvement that should be carried out with or without the ex. Basically, it took me a good couple years to figure out the steps i needed to take. i read all kinds of literature now - ranging from buddhist (concepts about letting go of emotions), self help (eckart tolle, paul mckenna), break up literature, as well as a lot of pick up stuff to get myself back out there. Its all complimentary, and worth reading just to learn but you do need more than a pdf to really get your **** together.
LelouchIsZero Posted August 23, 2011 Posted August 23, 2011 (edited) I've saved some of the links to other books, if anyone's interested. "The magic of making up" is one of the more popular books that I have the link to. Note - they're helpful in some aspects, but you can learn most of what you need from them just by browsing the loveshack forums. Edited August 23, 2011 by LelouchIsZero
radiodarcy Posted August 23, 2011 Posted August 23, 2011 the problem with these books is that they are basically instructing you to control/manipulate other people's thoughts and actions - - which is impossible. personally i don't want to control anyone in any way shape or form. i want the person i love to be with me because *he* wants to be with me. not because i pulled some manipulative BS. and i agree. most of the stuff on those sites can be found here on loveshack for free. not to mention that people will be much more realistic and up front about telling you when to move on. whereas these pay books will just keep you running in circles; clinging to hope that isn't there.
Spices Posted August 23, 2011 Posted August 23, 2011 I've saved some of the links to other books, if anyone's interested. "The magic of making up" is one of the more popular books that I have the link to. Note - they're helpful in some aspects, but you can learn most of what you need from them just by browsing the loveshack forums. Link them. I'm more than a little curious
jchips Posted August 23, 2011 Posted August 23, 2011 i read all kinds of literature now - ranging from buddhist (concepts about letting go of emotions), self help (eckart tolle, paul mckenna), break up literature, as well as a lot of pick up stuff to get myself back out there. Its all complimentary, and worth reading just to learn but you do need more than a pdf to really get your **** together. I'm so glad to hear you say this, rob, because after my break up the ONLY thing that gives me any solace or makes any sense are books on Buddhism. I mean, it just gets right to the source of the suffering and examines it closely. And the upshot is- your thoughts, your beliefs, your identity construct is what's making you suffer- not your ex or your break up. But it's so much easier said than done! I'm still so attached to my ex it isn't funny. I still have crazy thoughts about how my life will be if we get back together or don't get back together- as if I have any idea how the future will be! My mind is working overtime to make me miserable. Adyashanti says we're actually addicted to suffering! I can't find the exact quote this minute but he says the key is to recognize that not one of your thoughts has any eternal truth in it. Not one. So just see them all as lies and let go of them. (Sorry if my paraphrasing is way off the mark, Adya, but that's how I interpreted it.) So definitely save yourself the money and invest in something that applies to every aspect of your life and helps you get your head screwed on straight and takes you out of the trap of your own thoughts! Good luck to everyone!
EgoJoe Posted August 23, 2011 Posted August 23, 2011 Some of the best Reconciliation advice (and advice as to whether or not to pursue) can be found for free on al.turtlecounseling.com also the magic of making up does preach about moving on and healing at the end. Which in itself is a powerful tool for reconciliation. Healing first, reconciliation later!
antinko Posted August 23, 2011 Posted August 23, 2011 (edited) I just went to that index link about the 'Ex Recovery System' and more than a couple of things struck me as crass, or even downright rude. Firstly, the title 'The Ex Recovery System' sounds like a tool you'd use with a faulty computer. Do we consider our exes as faulty objects? Perhaps a bit 'at fault' as individuals, but objects? No. Secondly, upon reading the pdf (yeh, the whole thing is in that link, lol), it's littered with double speak and contradictions, not to mention terrible terrible grammar, punctuation and spelling. Sorry, but published literature should at the very least be presented accurately. Finally, it's full of double speak while trying to come across as upfront and, as radiodarcy stated, it's all about manipulation. The advice given, even if workable in the short term, isn't going to help you keep your ex. Hell, the pdf even admits that, once followed, successful 'ex recoveries' fail 80% of the time within the first three months of having got back together! These clowns really have no souls. As someone else said above, the only way you'll 'recover your ex' is by self improvement and if it's right. It takes two to tango. Edited August 23, 2011 by antinko
Author Coupedriver Posted August 23, 2011 Author Posted August 23, 2011 I sent a letter to TW JACKSON about his book and or help..got an automated response....never heard anything back...See the PDF file about how to "TRAIN YOUR EX..?!?!?" I have it buried somewhere..will try to link it here in a few."Lelouchiszero"...Can you post that link..?Now if you have a kindle,I found a site a while back where you can download "The Magic of Making Up" for $6.50 but I never pursued it...The bad thing about it "antinko" is there making TONS of money off of this stuff..!! Thomas Truman and TW Jackson actually had links to each others sites but I have noticed there changing it..SLOWLY...I guess whatever works for you and makes you feel good applies to all...I mean we all have pain but each one of us handles it different I guess,even being in the same boat..."Robaday"...can you post how and what you did and how it turned out if you dont mind...? If you dont want to or feel it better to not tell everyone..I am curious...PM me..Ok..the grass is about 2 feet tall and I see we are headed for some bad weather....HAVE to keep busy..!!
LelouchIsZero Posted August 24, 2011 Posted August 24, 2011 That'll be $24.99, thanks Sorry for the lack of links, I could only find these. The little 'trick' I showed above previously worked on 'The magic of makings up' site, but it seems that it doesn't anymore. I think the only thing I'm missing from there is the 'Second Chance Letter' http://www.magicofmakingup.com/2008dld/TheMagicOfMakingUp.pdf http://www.magicofmakingup.com/2008dld/MindMagic.pdf http://www.magicofmakingup.com/2008dld/TheCleanSlateMethod.pdf http://www.getexback.net/download/
M2155 Posted August 25, 2011 Posted August 25, 2011 I have Get Him Back by Bob Grant (I do like his newsletters) but I don't know how to post it. I agree the "formula" sounds like it should work and sometimes well explained, but it's the same thing you could learn on LS. It tickles me that these types of "books" are so long but double spaced with 10% header pages, some dumb comment that takes 2-3 pages and a bunch of fluff. These "books" could be 5 pages of info but I guess then they couldn't charge I guess!
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