Hockeyplaya44 Posted August 22, 2011 Posted August 22, 2011 I met a girl who was in the tail end of a relationship with her boyfriend and ended up really liking her. We went out three times and all 3 dates could be described as perfect. On our second date she divulged that she had been with her boyfriend for 2.5 years and they had broken up a little less than a month ago. Obviously this is a massive red flag, but I liked her so I tried to handle the situation as best I could. I asked her if she felt she was ready to be dating new people and she said she was. She went on a camping trip with her friends and her ex for a few days. The trip had already been planned while they were together and it wasn`t fair for either of them to cancel cause they have lots of mutual friends. Before she left we planned another day to hang out. I sent her a text asking how the trip was going and she didn`t respond. I waited a few more days, tried again and still no response. I sent another message saying it was clear that something happened and just to let me know. (I couldn`t call cause she was in the states and had already ran up a huge phone bill from a previous trip.) She responded saying that she thought she was ready to move on, but wasn`t yet. She said I hoped I didn`t end up hating her and that she didn`t mean to lead me on and that she was really sorry. I simply said it was fine because we had only hung out three times and I knew it was a possibility going in. Now a few days later, I`m still stuck thinking about her. There were so many things about her I liked so much, even really subtle things like the way she said certain words and every time I think about not being able to spend more time with her I feel incredibly depressed. The bottom line is I`m not ready to let it go. I figure my options are to wait a few months, let her have some space and do my best to meet other girls and if nothing works out contact her then. Or I can see if she still wants to hang out soon but slow things down and take it really really slow. Any thoughts are greatly appreciated. Thanks.
Pierre Posted August 22, 2011 Posted August 22, 2011 You are or could be the reboung guy. It is a hopeless situation and she will use you to medicate the breakup of her relationship. She may seem to like you, but she is still in the prior relationship. Breaking up is very hard to do. Sometimes it takes 1-2 years. The rebound relationship is almost never successful. She will use you when she is down and it may seem she is into you, but in reality she is mourning the breakup. The standard advice is to never date someone coming out of a long term relationship. It does not work!!!!!!!!!!!! It is very likely she and her BF had sex at camp. This is not healthy for you.
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