lattp Posted August 22, 2011 Posted August 22, 2011 well i started talking to a girl, shes a freshman and im a junior. We would always hang out, i would walk her to class carry her books. she also told me she knew who i was from when she was in 6th grade and i was in 8th. and one of her friends liked her (he was really weird) and he would always follow us. So when we would text, she would say she misses me and wants to see me and also that she really liked me. i really did feel the same way. (I even gave up a chance to go out with a really hot girl to be with this one) So when i finally asked her out she said she wanted to ask her dad so that we could do more stuff and i could give her rides to school. and also she wanted me to do it in front of that guy to so he would chill out. all this happend within about 5 or 6 days. then today, on the 7 day we have known eachother, we had a date to the movies. so i text her to ask her if she will be able to make it. and this was her response. " I dont know how to put this, bt i dont think im read for a boyfriend right now, but we can still be friends. Sorry." So now, im a little sad and a little pissed. idk what to do. i want to text her and ask her if she ment anything she told me, but idk if i should. if i never go out with her, i wouldnt care. so do you guys think i should do it, or should i maybe do something else? can you guys tell me what you think i should do? if youve read this far, then thank you and if you could help me thatd be great!
thatone Posted August 22, 2011 Posted August 22, 2011 i would guess probably because her parents said no. ask her why, and see what she says. don't be mad about it just yet. if that's the reason, offer to meet her parents. tell her to pitch the idea of the parents taking the four of you out to dinner or something. if the parents are the reason you gotta figure out a way to smooth it over with them first. if you manage that you're golden.
mortensorchid Posted August 22, 2011 Posted August 22, 2011 I assume you are both in high school and not college based on these the circumstances you described. If so, I assume you are both fairly young and therefor not too experienced. Parents of high school girls can be very, very VERY crazy when they are facing their daughter's first ventures into the dating world. Maybe you could ask if it's something the parents did or said to dissuade her from this? If the answer is yes, ask if it was really her decission or theirs. If not, then that's her answer to you for whatever reason it was/is. Be warned, you could be a prince and the parents probably do not think that you are good enough for her. That was my experience when I was first among boys as a teen.
Author lattp Posted August 22, 2011 Author Posted August 22, 2011 i would guess probably because her parents said no. ask her why, and see what she says. don't be mad about it just yet. if that's the reason, offer to meet her parents. tell her to pitch the idea of the parents taking the four of you out to dinner or something. if the parents are the reason you gotta figure out a way to smooth it over with them first. if you manage that you're golden. so do you think i should text her?
Author lattp Posted August 22, 2011 Author Posted August 22, 2011 I assume you are both in high school and not college based on these the circumstances you described. If so, I assume you are both fairly young and therefor not too experienced. Parents of high school girls can be very, very VERY crazy when they are facing their daughter's first ventures into the dating world. Maybe you could ask if it's something the parents did or said to dissuade her from this? If the answer is yes, ask if it was really her decission or theirs. If not, then that's her answer to you for whatever reason it was/is. Be warned, you could be a prince and the parents probably do not think that you are good enough for her. That was my experience when I was first among boys as a teen. i see what your gettin at. I asked the other person too, but do you think i should text her or wait till class tomorrow, or what
thatone Posted August 22, 2011 Posted August 22, 2011 so do you think i should text her? yeah, but be polite about it. don't be angry. figure out the truth.
Author lattp Posted August 22, 2011 Author Posted August 22, 2011 yeah, but be polite about it. don't be angry. figure out the truth. Im sorry if im asking alot of questions. But how should i text her? like what should be the first thing i should tell her and stuff
thatone Posted August 24, 2011 Posted August 24, 2011 "hey, why did you turn cold on me all of a sudden? tell me what's going on" that's it... simple, non confrontational, ask the question.
KathyM Posted August 24, 2011 Posted August 24, 2011 well i started talking to a girl, shes a freshman and im a junior. We would always hang out, i would walk her to class carry her books. she also told me she knew who i was from when she was in 6th grade and i was in 8th. and one of her friends liked her (he was really weird) and he would always follow us. So when we would text, she would say she misses me and wants to see me and also that she really liked me. i really did feel the same way. (I even gave up a chance to go out with a really hot girl to be with this one) So when i finally asked her out she said she wanted to ask her dad so that we could do more stuff and i could give her rides to school. and also she wanted me to do it in front of that guy to so he would chill out. all this happend within about 5 or 6 days. then today, on the 7 day we have known eachother, we had a date to the movies. so i text her to ask her if she will be able to make it. and this was her response. " I dont know how to put this, bt i dont think im read for a boyfriend right now, but we can still be friends. Sorry." So now, im a little sad and a little pissed. idk what to do. i want to text her and ask her if she ment anything she told me, but idk if i should. if i never go out with her, i wouldnt care. so do you guys think i should do it, or should i maybe do something else? can you guys tell me what you think i should do? if youve read this far, then thank you and if you could help me thatd be great! I think one of the following happened: 1. Her parents told her she's not allowed to go on one-on-one dates. If she's a freshman, then she's only 14 or 15. Some parents won't let their children date until they're 16. 2. Her girlfriends/friends discouraged her from dating you. 3. She was just using you to get the other guy to back off. I suspect it's the first scenario. I'd suggest you try to date girls in your own age bracket. They're more of a match for you, and they're more into one-on-one dating.
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