Asking out a Checkout Girl

[lostsoul25]

Im not very experienced in the dating/asking out girls world.

 

Ive seen a girl, a few times on checkout in a supermarket that has caught my eye. Have never got into a conversation with her apart from obvious supermarket transactions. Hit and miss if she is there when I call in.

 

I was wondering, well supermarket checkout girls, must get asked out a lot with the amount of people who pass through.

 

Would you look like a right sleeze/idiot asking someone out whilst they are working, plus its awkward with other customers queuing up behind you. Not really a quiet moment nor know how to even phrase it.

 

Any checkout ppl out there

[PelicanPete]

Make small talk with her first and feel the situation out.

 

Use a general topic like how busy the supermarket as a gateway and listen to her feelings about it. If shes talking about how busy it is, try to show some empathy by relating to her feelings so that you can establish a connection. You can always tell her how busy it is at your job, and if she's interested in you she may ask where you work.

 

If you feel you made a solid connection with her, introduce yourself to her formally at the end of your conversation.

 

Come back in a few days, and you can start with the familiar groundwork you layed last encounter and start trekking into more personal conversation. Once you've established that you'll feel a lot more confident asking her out, and there will be a higher chance of her saying yes.

[Dust]

Im not very experienced in the dating/asking out girls world.

 

Well that’s no shocker considering you’re on here asking how to ask out a girl.

 

Ive seen a girl' date=' a few times on checkout in a supermarket that has caught my eye. Have never got into a conversation with her apart from obvious supermarket transactions. Hit and miss if she is there when I call in.[/quote']

 

That’s a great feeling. When you find a girl so pretty you can’t get her out of your mind. In your case you know exactly where she’ll be so looks like you’ll get to try again. In the future though I’d really recommend acting in the moment. I mean you don’t always get that second chance to meet that women you spot in the distance.

 

A lot of guys come on this site and ask for help and claim they don’t even know where to find women. They can’t even admit they like girls. You found a girl you like and now its time to talk to her and ask her out and see where that takes you.

 

I was wondering' date=' well supermarket checkout girls, must get asked out a lot with the amount of people who pass through.[/quote']

 

 

Any girl who works in customer service of any kind probably gets flirted with a lot. I doubt she gets asked out that much. Even if she does get asked out a lot so what are you going to let that stop you? I mean she’s a cashier not a waitress at a strip club I doubt she’ll be that jaded toward being asked out in a respectful way you might as well risk it. You’d be lame to let the fact she’s a cashier stop you. I mean how intimidated can you let yourself be. You got this, you want this, you have to go for it. You’d be cool just to try no matter what the result.

 

Would you look like a right sleeze/idiot asking someone out whilst they are working' date=' plus its awkward with other customers queuing up behind you. Not really a quiet moment nor know how to even phrase it.[/quote']

 

Name any man who has done well with women from George Cloony too Justin Beiber and they’ve looked completely ridiculous at one time or another. You simply can’t avoid looking like a creep or sleaze to every one. You just be cool and respectful and if she wants to be creeped out instead of complimented that’s her problem. I think the thing most girls are worried about are guys freaking out if they get a “no.” Seriously if she says “no” just smile act un bothered by it. Really it shouldn’t bother you and you’d be cool just to ask. Heck next time you see her even if she said “no” she might start flirting with you this time because regretted saying “no” and then you ask her out again and this time she says “yes.” I’ve asked girls out more then once before you have to use your judgment. I always tell myself there is a chance. If I call a girl who has been ignoring me one too many times or annoy a girl by asking her out I just think that’s funny I could care less. If some girl wants to think I’m a stalker because I waited in her line and asked her out nice and loud in front of customers, co-workers, and her boss then that’s on her.

 

If anything being cool enough to flirt and ask her out to dinner or what ever infront of customers will put pressure on her to just say yes. So give her the old “when’s you shift end” or “do you have tomorrow night off I’d love to take you to this great place I know for dinner” she’ll yes and you’ll get her number and pick her and kiss her and hold her hand etc.

 

I’m getting ahead of myself but I’ll give you this advice anyways. When you get on the date be romantic. Don’t just talk about hockey or what ever. Hold her hand. Tell her how great she looks in her dress. Make eye contact and enjoy the way she looks. Touch her and try to kiss her. Don’t just make it a “friendly” date, romance!

 

Any checkout ppl out there

 

 

I just posted on check out person forum. They all said ask her out. You want to ask her out so ask her out. No pressure, really as long as you ask her out you’ll learn. You’ll be better next time whether she says yes or no. So go for it.

[motive2002]

I'm sure checkout girls do get asked out a lot, but I'm thinking if they fancy a guy they wouldn't mind it.

Just keep your expectations reasonable. I mean chances are you will be shot down, unless you were getting some other signals that say otherwise.. (lots of flirting, eye contact etc...)

 

You haven't got anything to lose, and it's not like she's gonna pull out a revolver and blow you away or something just for showing interest or asking her for her phone number.

 

Nothing ventured = nothing gained. If she says no, you're life is where it was before. If she says yes... well maybe something wicked this way comes

[Casablanca]

Come back in a few days, and you can start with the familiar groundwork you layed last encounter and start trekking into more personal conversation. Once you've established that you'll feel a lot more confident asking her out, and there will be a higher chance of her saying yes.

I like this approach, better chances when you build up some rapport...that way she makes her decision based off seeing you a couple times instead of just a one snap shot thing

[robertdawson]

I'd say you need to talk to the girl at least a few times before you ask her. Don't wait until you've talked to her 20 times or something though. The day you decide to ask her she may quit (happened to me). However, don't ask her out after the first time you talk to her unless you talked for a long time (unlikely as she is a cashier). I'd say ask her after you've had 3-5 conversations with her, not 3-5 seeing her and just talking to her a couple times.

 

I recommend asking her out a few different ways (people on this thread can disagree with me if they think they're bad):

a) If nobody is around and not busy, say "hey, could I have your number?"

b) If nobody is around and not busy, say "hey, would you like to go to lunch with me sometime?", exchange numbers afterward

c) If there are other people around (most likely situation), you could write a note that says something like: "Hey, would you like to have lunch sometime? My phone number: 555-555-5555 and say "hey, would you mind taking this?"

 

Either lunch or coffee or something casual. Don't ask for dinners, movies, drinks (alcohol) just to be safe.

 

That is what I would do anyway. Last cashier I asked out kinda freaked out though and just looked at me like she couldn't believe I had asked her out. I said: "Can I ask you a question? You seem like an interesting person, would you want to hang out with me sometime?" and she looked at me really awkwardly and said: "uhh.... sure". I wrote my number down and asked for hers and she said : "no, I'll contact you." Made me so irritated.

[Dust]

I recommend asking her out a few different ways (people on this thread can disagree with me if they think they're bad):

a) If nobody is around and not busy, say "hey, could I have your number?"

b) If nobody is around and not busy, say "hey, would you like to go to lunch with me sometime?", exchange numbers afterward

c) If there are other people around (most likely situation), you could write a note that says something like: "Hey, would you like to have lunch sometime? My phone number: 555-555-5555 and say "hey, would you mind taking this?"

 

A) Asking for her number is lame, (better then nothing but not much) then he still has to ask her out on a date now over the phone where it is easy for her to say no as compared to being asked out in person. He would get the number as a result of her agreeing to a date any ways.

B) Something like this is his best option. Really it shouldn’t matter if people are around which they really probably will be. Just in his own words flirt with her briefly like try and get her to giggle at some joke maybe stick his tongue out at her what ever seems playful and natural. Then ask her out “I’d really enjoy taking you to this great place I know tonight.”

C) Writing a note is girlish (better then nothing but not much). It puts her in the position to be the man and call him and ask him out. It’s easier to ignore a note then reject some one confident enough to put her on the spot and ask her out in person.

 

 

That is what I would do anyway. Last cashier I asked out kinda freaked out though and just looked at me like she couldn't believe I had asked her out. I said: "Can I ask you a question? You seem like an interesting person' date=' would you want to hang out with me sometime?" and she looked at me really awkwardly and said: "uhh.... sure". I wrote my number down and asked for hers and she said : "no, I'll contact you." Made me so irritated. [/quote']

 

 

So you followed your own advice. I applaud you for making a plan of action and going after it. What you did was far better then doing nothing. It does seem though you didn’t learn.

 

First even if you do everything perfectly you can still have a girl vomit all over herself when you ask her out. Really you shouldn’t let anything bother you.

 

Did you really make sure to see her a few times before asking her out? It would have been better if you had just asked her out in the moment the first time you saw her or the second time you saw her. Basically the sooner the better. Because you can always ask her out again!

 

Did you really say “Can I ask you a question?” That is so awkward! She probably thought you were going to ask her about Jesus or something. Just ask her out don’t ask her if you can ask her out… Like she would have said “no!” to a customer who asked if they could ask something. Then you tell her she seemed like an interesting person? Dude! I would have gone with something like “you seem like a lot of fun” or just “you have a great smile I’d like to see it again.” You know something more flirtatious then “you seem interesting.” Finally you finished with “wanna hang out some time” you didn’t list a time or place. For all she knows you wanted to hang out in the parking lot after work. You could have meant your basement. Why not be clear “lets get dinner tonight at a great place I know” you say a time and a place, a place that seems fun like a tasty restaurant or fun thing.

 

That’s great that she said “sure” girls are afraid to seem over enthusiastic some times can’t jump to conclusions. The thing is you don’t write your name and number on a piece of paper and then say now give me yours after asking her to hang out “sometime.” You get her damn number. You don’t even offer yours. You were basically setting yourself up to ask her out on the phone because you didn’t pick a time or place for your hanging out. You should have said what you wanted to do and got an answer right there and got her number and settled for nothing less. If it didn’t work out no deal

 

Good job trying though and keep trying and have fun and don’t feel bad for getting turned down happens to the best.

[Shaun-Dro]

Im not very experienced in the dating/asking out girls world.

 

Ive seen a girl, a few times on checkout in a supermarket that has caught my eye. Have never got into a conversation with her apart from obvious supermarket transactions. Hit and miss if she is there when I call in.

 

I was wondering, well supermarket checkout girls, must get asked out a lot with the amount of people who pass through.

 

Would you look like a right sleeze/idiot asking someone out whilst they are working, plus its awkward with other customers queuing up behind you. Not really a quiet moment nor know how to even phrase it.

 

Any checkout ppl out there

 

I've already dated a cashier (Target) so anyone familiar with my threads can vouch for me on that. What I did was I annoyed her a few times with my non-chalance then I gradually loosened up, which loosened her up as she began to see me all the time. We dated a while, had problems, but I'm gonna get her back! She's a fine piece of ass and I wanna hit it this time.

 

My advice is to start by talking to her. Even annoy her a little bit in a fun way. You'll grow on her. It's happened to me so why not you?

[robertdawson]

Dust: I don't want to hijack this thread but since I can't send private messages yet can you answer a few questions to clarify your advice. If you want you can just email me the answers at [email protected]

 

B) How does it not matter if people are around? What if she is a waitress and you try to ask her out in front of her boss or her coworkers? If she is a cashier are you going to ask her out in front of management?

 

C) What is girly about a note? Well, I mean, yeah it shows lack of confidence, but if someone is really busy at work (in customer service industry) then you can't sit there and be like "hey, wait a minute to seat these people (hostess)" or "hey wait a minute to ring up the grumpy old guy next in line (cashier)".

 

I did say "can I ask you a question". Point taken on that. I did say "you seem interesting". Point taken. I know the "wanna hang out" is bad, but I didn't want to try and work out details while there were customers behind me, so I said "what time do you get off work? We can talk details then (or something like that)?"

 

So, what I should have done is said something like: "Hey. You know what? You seem like a fun person. Do you want to meet me for lunch tomorrow at restaurant_name?"

 

I think I f'ed up with this other girl at a restaurant also. She was a hostess and I talked to her for like 30 seconds once and then second time I talked to her I talked to her for like 15 minutes. I went back in two days later, talked to her for a minute or so and said: I enjoyed talking to you the other day, would you mind taking this? Then I handed her a note (I was worried about putting her on the spot at work even though I knew it looked stupid to hand her a note and say bye, screams "what a pussy") that said "i'd enjoy talking to you when you're not as busy with work. Call me or email me if youre interested. If not, no worries. (I put my phone and email on there).

Then I said bye and she said bye normally. I went back there to eat today and when she saw me she acted sorta weird and then seated me. I talked to her a little bit about stuff from our previous conversation and she didn't seem as uncomfortable but she still wasn't sticking around to talk more than she had to.

 

So, what do I do in the future? Is it acceptable to ask either of these girls out again in a more confident, non-awkward, non-pussy way? The hostess at the restaurant I would really like to try again with because thinking about that note makes me feel like a tool. Could I talk to her 4 or 5 more times at the restaurant (a month or so) and then be a freaking man and say: "Would you like to go to lunch at such and such place?" Would it be dumb to say "sorry about a few weeks ago, I didn't want to keep you from working?" I really regret doing it the way I did (should have talked to her a couple more times after the initial convo, should have asked her directly) but I think bringing it up will make it worse.. I'm thinking that asking her out again could get ugly...

[Shaun-Dro]

Dust: I don't want to hijack this thread but since I can't send private messages yet can you answer a few questions to clarify your advice. If you want you can just email me the answers at [email protected]

 

B) How does it not matter if people are around? What if she is a waitress and you try to ask her out in front of her boss or her coworkers? If she is a cashier are you going to ask her out in front of management?

 

C) What is girly about a note? Well, I mean, yeah it shows lack of confidence, but if someone is really busy at work (in customer service industry) then you can't sit there and be like "hey, wait a minute to seat these people (hostess)" or "hey wait a minute to ring up the grumpy old guy next in line (cashier)".

 

I did say "can I ask you a question". Point taken on that. I did say "you seem interesting". Point taken. I know the "wanna hang out" is bad, but I didn't want to try and work out details while there were customers behind me, so I said "what time do you get off work? We can talk details then (or something like that)?"

 

So, what I should have done is said something like: "Hey. You know what? You seem like a fun person. Do you want to meet me for lunch tomorrow at restaurant_name?"

 

I think I f'ed up with this other girl at a restaurant also. She was a hostess and I talked to her for like 30 seconds once and then second time I talked to her I talked to her for like 15 minutes. I went back in two days later, talked to her for a minute or so and said: I enjoyed talking to you the other day, would you mind taking this? Then I handed her a note (I was worried about putting her on the spot at work even though I knew it looked stupid to hand her a note and say bye, screams "what a pussy") that said "i'd enjoy talking to you when you're not as busy with work. Call me or email me if youre interested. If not, no worries. (I put my phone and email on there).

Then I said bye and she said bye normally. I went back there to eat today and when she saw me she acted sorta weird and then seated me. I talked to her a little bit about stuff from our previous conversation and she didn't seem as uncomfortable but she still wasn't sticking around to talk more than she had to.

 

So, what do I do in the future? Is it acceptable to ask either of these girls out again in a more confident, non-awkward, non-pussy way? The hostess at the restaurant I would really like to try again with because thinking about that note makes me feel like a tool. Could I talk to her 4 or 5 more times at the restaurant (a month or so) and then be a freaking man and say: "Would you like to go to lunch at such and such place?" Would it be dumb to say "sorry about a few weeks ago, I didn't want to keep you from working?" I really regret doing it the way I did (should have talked to her a couple more times after the initial convo, should have asked her directly) but I think bringing it up will make it worse.. I'm thinking that asking her out again could get ugly...

 

Your problem is that you're too nice; worried about rejection in front of other people who don't even know you. To hell with them! The more you ponder this thing with these women the harder it's gonna be to take them out. I don't understand why you're not asking me questions when I'm one of the most recent guys having already messed with a hot cashier.

[Feelin Frisky]

I wouldn't just ask her out unless there was some sense that she might be receptive. I had a girl--instead of putting my change in my hand, put her hand under mine and hold it while putting the change in my hand with her other hand. Duh? I knew she wasn't doing this for everyone else. So, try to get her as your cashier and try to get her to notice you. Then assume that she is busy on her job and can't be free to chat you up. So ask her if she gets a break and would like to chat on it. This has worked for me. She said yes and I met her a little later and we sat down in a coffee shop to get acquainted a little. I asked her out then and it went well (for the next few months ). Good luck.

[irc333]

I'm sure checkout girls do get asked out a lot.

 

Not likely, waitresses yes, check out girls....probably happens hardly at all, because you're going quickly through a line, while a guy can spend a considerable amount of time with a waitress.

[Dust]

Dust: I don't want to hijack this thread but since I can't send private messages yet can you answer a few questions to clarify your advice. If you want you can just email me the answers at [email protected]

 

I think your questions are on topic even if they concern you personally.

 

B) How does it not matter if people are around? What if she is a waitress and you try to ask her out in front of her boss or her coworkers? If she is a cashier are you going to ask her out in front of management?

 

If you can naturally ask her out one on one sure that would be great. The thing is I often have to get a girl out on a date to spend one on one time away from friends, co-workers, the public. So it’s kind of necessary some times to just ask out in front of people. Like when I asked a waitress out when she was giving me the bill my friend was at the table, her co-workers and other tables were in ear shot. What could I do though it was my only opportunity and it might have failed but it worked out. Think of it this way women love confidence and to ask some on out in front of people is awkward yet confident. You have to take the opportunity you have given to you. If you can time it so you get her alone that’s best. But what if you tried getting in line when she was a lone then people get in line behind you and some friend of hers starts standing near. At a certain point its now or never. I’ve had to ask girls out in front of their friends you can’t always get a girl alone until your dating her. Just how life is.

 

C) What is girly about a note? Well' date=' I mean, yeah it shows lack of confidence, but if someone is really busy at work (in customer service industry) then you can't sit there and be like "hey, wait a minute to seat these people (hostess)" or "hey wait a minute to ring up the grumpy old guy next in line (cashier)". [/quote']

 

A note is girly because its something a girl would do. I mean its really confident and sexy for a girl to slip you a note that says “hey call me” but lame for a guy to do it. I mean girls don’t walk up to guys and flat out ask them out, I’ve never had a girl go “I want to take you out to ___________ how does tomorrow night at 8 sound?” I have had girls slip me their number or flat out say “you’re cute” or something like that. So for a man to half ass it like that is a bad idea in my opinion and does lack confidence. If a girl is busy at restaurant it might just be a bad scenario all together. You just have to risk bothering her and flirt and ask her out for a time and place then get her number as a result of that.

 

Writing a note is better then doing nothing but there is no reason you shouldn’t try your hardest and risk complete failure if its something you want. Bigger the risk the bigger the gain. So if you’re to scared to ask them out because she seems to busy you need to talk yourself out of that. They always seem busy.

 

 

I did say "can I ask you a question". Point taken on that. I did say "you seem interesting". Point taken. I know the "wanna hang out" is bad, but I didn't want to try and work out details while there were customers behind me, so I said "what time do you get off work? We can talk details then (or something like that)?"

 

 

So, what I should have done is said something like: "Hey. You know what? You seem like a fun person. Do you want to meet me for lunch tomorrow at restaurant_name?"

 

Your compliments need to be genuine and come from the heart. “you seem interesting” has the feel you are holding back. You don’t want to go in there with canned lines just think of something on the spot an say it naturally. You don’t even necessarily have to compliment them if it doesn’t seem right. Just flirt with them. Flirting can be anything you could make a loud “bzzz” noise when she takes your money or something then laugh and smile with her. Just be yourself and try things out. I never did the “bzzz” thing I was just trying to think of an example. The point is to just have fun and not think of this as some script.

 

With the “wanna hang out” what does that even mean. You don’t need to go into details but you should have something in mind. Most girls like it when you have something in mind. Do something you want to do whether it be bowling or taking her to a party or what ever. “you should come to my barbeque party tomorrow, great food and drinks and for you I’ll make anything you want to eat.” See you didn’t go into details. You could be vague. If its dinner its as quick as “let me take you to this tasty resteraunt I know tonight at 7” there you go. Get her number whether she agrees or not because she might have just said no because of schedule conflict and say you’ll call. Then you get her number and you imeadetly txt her “Hi _______ , its me ____________” then she has your number.

 

 

I think I f'ed up with this other girl at a restaurant also. She was a hostess and I talked to her for like 30 seconds once and then second time I talked to her I talked to her for like 15 minutes. I went back in two days later, talked to her for a minute or so and said: I enjoyed talking to you the other day, would you mind taking this? Then I handed her a note (I was worried about putting her on the spot at work even though I knew it looked stupid to hand her a note and say bye, screams "what a pussy") that said "i'd enjoy talking to you when you're not as busy with work. Call me or email me if youre interested. If not, no worries. (I put my phone and email on there).

Then I said bye and she said bye normally. I went back there to eat today and when she saw me she acted sorta weird and then seated me. I talked to her a little bit about stuff from our previous conversation and she didn't seem as uncomfortable but she still wasn't sticking around to talk more than she had to.

 

Girls actually have it worse then guys in many ways because for all we know she’s scared of you now. Some guys get mean when a girl rejects them, some guys are crazy stalkers, some guys are just dangerous. Really you can’t help girls acting weird after they reject you. Don’t let that bother you. She might want you to ask her out again. Seriously you have everything to gain and nothing to lose by being presumptuous.

 

If you ask her out again don’t mention or apologize for the note. In fact if she brings that up flirt with her about it and act like it was no big deal. “Oh that note, I forgot about that, you still thinking about it, did it make your day? How about we go out tonight? Well give me your number” Be bold and you will be rewarded. Hand girls notes and run away and you’ll be playing the numbers game. The numbers game is a sad thing people who are in genuine do. You want to only ask out girls you like and that excite you. Use that energy to push you forward and just never give up on life that’s a big ideal then just women. Also don’t solely focus on these waitress’s and customer service women. I think its great they catch your eye but you have to let the women on street and the women in line in front of you or the woman walking her dog catch your eye. Its easier to meet a girl at the library then a girl working as a waitress. I’m not saying give up on girls who are working I’m just saying don’t fall into the trap of only going after these types of girls.

 

If you’re out at a concert for a band you like and there is a cute girl you spot across the room you have a better chance with her in my opinion then some random waitress at a busy restaurant. So again my message is never don’t try with these women, its try with these women but also feel free to try with all types of girls who aren’t necessarily at work lol. Also if you truly are to coward to ask a girl out I want to say again anything is better then nothing. Slipping your number is better then nothing. Asking them for their number is better then just slipping them a number. Asking them out and of course getting their number is best. Don’t be afraid to be labeled a creep, stalker, etc. You know you’re a good guy if you are a good guy. The more you try to be some mythical good guy the more you’ll be labeled a creep anyways you know that to be true don’t you?

 

 

So' date=' what do I do in the future? Is it acceptable to ask either of these girls out again in a more confident, non-awkward, non-pussy way? The hostess at the restaurant I would really like to try again with because thinking about that note makes me feel like a tool. Could I talk to her 4 or 5 more times at the restaurant (a month or so) and then be a freaking man and say: "Would you like to go to lunch at such and such place?" Would it be dumb to say "sorry about a few weeks ago, I didn't want to keep you from working?" I really regret doing it the way I did (should have talked to her a couple more times after the initial convo, should have asked her directly) but I think bringing it up will make it worse.. I'm thinking that asking her out again could get ugly... [/quote']

 

 

I’m all about asking a girl out again unless she has some how made it 100% obviouse like by saying something nasty “you’re a loser!” or if she acts really scared “Just leave me alone!!!” if she just acts kind of annoyed but hasn’t made it clear like if she says “I’m busy” or as in your case just ignores your attempt then it is game on you get to try as many times as you want. One catch is if it feels lame don’t do it. Be bold my friend even if it is scary. You can’t fake confidence because even if you’re scared going through the motions of confidence is confidence. Walking up to a girl and asking her out and wasting her time while she is at work is confident even if you stutter and sweat your way through it. Girls find that crap adorable anyways. If she’s creeped out who cares you’ll know you’re awesome. Stop playing the numbers game and hoping throwing your random invitations and random numbers out is going to work. When you, you try full force. Also the real trick is learning to enjoy going after girls. Sure there is anxiety, but just like riding a roller coaster I enjoy that anxiety.

 

Don’t you dare apologize for asking her out. Don’t you dare say you’re sorry. Seriously I’ll cum in a girls eye before I apologize for anything. I mean it’s not like you hurt her, you asked her out. You have every right. Could you imagine if they didn’t get asked out? We wouldn’t exist now that’s what. You think your mom introduced herself to your father then said “I’ll pick you up at 8” do you think your mom made the first move to hold your fathers hand, and most importantly of all do you think your mother tried to kiss your father first?... Go for it and don’t apologize or in 50 years we won’t exist.

[lostsoul25]

I was in the supermarket again today and the same checkout girl was on.

 

I can think and plan something out in my head but when the situation arises it all goes and in the end I say/do nothing.

 

There was a queue of people behind me and wanted to ask how her day had been,which once Id started could have led to other questions. Ultimately I bottled it

[Cracker Jack]

Well, that sucks. Plenty of us make the same mistake.

 

All you can do is forget about today and try again another day.

[Dust]

I was in the supermarket again today and the same checkout girl was on.

 

I can think and plan something out in my head but when the situation arises it all goes and in the end I say/do nothing.

 

There was a queue of people behind me and wanted to ask how her day had been,which once Id started could have led to other questions. Ultimately I bottled it

 

Stop planning and pressuring yourself and just do something next time. Fart for god sakes anything.

[Gold Pile]

As far as other customers being around, try to get her 1st thing in the morning. Grab something small and get to her station while any other customers are still shopping. If she doesn't work mornings, you can try very late at night when fewer customers are around, but mornings are easier.

 

I had the hots for a beautiful Brunette Kmart checkout clerk in CT, I shop there from time to time, but didn't make any extra trips to chat her up....so I never really built up a rapor. Now she is prego:mad: point is ....get going on this B4 someoneelse does

[lostsoul25]

oday I was picking up a few bits and pieces for the weekend. This girl was on the checkout again and it wasnt particularly busy when I was next in line.

 

I exchanged "hello's". Felt very nervous building myself to only ask how her day had been, which I still didnt say. I didnt have much so before you know its time to put my pin number in the machine.

Some young lad appeared at the doors shouting "I cant get in" and we both turned round to see what was going on. i just laughed and said to the girl, hes wearing a cardboard box. and that was that. certainly not what I was wanting to really say, upstaged by a plonker wrapping himself in a box

Edited August 26, 2011 by lostsoul25

[Cracker Jack]

At least you spoke to her. That's better than nothing.

 

If you see her next time without a busy line, do you think you can seriously make a move on her?

[lostsoul25]

When I think about potential scenarios in my mind i fine, but when in the situation, not just this girl, anygirl that id be interested in, I do nothing, I choke, im just a loser

[Cracker Jack]

You're not a loser. We've all been down this road, and some of us are still struggling with it. You just have to stop overthinking in these situations and go for it. I, too, need to take this same advice. What exactly do you think it is that's holding you back? I'm guessing it's the fear of rejection?

[lostsoul25]

I really dont know, as i do know if i was rejected (very much expected it) that in this instance I can simply not go back in the shop.

 

I think its lack of experience and at my ages well, I should have done this so long ago

[Cracker Jack]

How old are you?

 

And I don't think you wouldn't be able to go back. If the rejection was overly ignorant, then yeah, I can see why you wouldn't go back. It's best to try to keep these things in perspective.

[PelicanPete]

The method that I told you at the beginning of the thread works, Lostsoul. I was crushing on a girl that worked a similar job as a checkout, and it got me her number.

 

Don't go into the store thinking that you're going to ask her out, just go in with the goal of trying to get to know her better. Make small goals for yourself. For example one day you can go in the store with the goal of introducing yourself and learning her name, next day learning more about her hobbies, etc etc. The more you know about her, the more confidence you'll gain in talking to her. Not only will it make asking her out easier and more natural, but it will increase your chance of her saying yes.

[lostsoul25]

Disappointingly I found out the checkout girl smokes today. Definitely a no no for me