Junkshakemail Posted August 21, 2011 Posted August 21, 2011 We had three amazing dates and we both loved it. On the third date she told me she wants to take it slow and I said lets see where it goes. During the third date we held hands and there was a lot of casual touching and I kissed her on her cheeks before she left. After that the next day we spoke for almost two hours and the day ater. I asked her if she wants to do some thing next week and she was reluctant saying she was busy (though I offered her two days to meet up). I am a kind of person who likes to hang out and talk if I like some one, I am the only one who calls her and texts her. I also want to take it slow but even after three dates how slow can it go. I like her since we have a lot in common and connected really quickly, I went on a first date with another woman and it was good. Should I never bother with the first woman?
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Pierre Posted August 21, 2011 Posted August 21, 2011 We had three amazing dates and we both loved it. On the third date she told me she wants to take it slow and I said lets see where it goes. During the third date we held hands and there was a lot of casual touching and I kissed her on her cheeks before she left. After that the next day we spoke for almost two hours and the day ater. I asked her if she wants to do some thing next week and she was reluctant saying she was busy (though I offered her two days to meet up). I am a kind of person who likes to hang out and talk if I like some one, I am the only one who calls her and texts her. I also want to take it slow but even after three dates how slow can it go. I like her since we have a lot in common and connected really quickly, I went on a first date with another woman and it was good. Should I never bother with the first woman? Perhaps she is dating several guys and she could not pencil you in her busy dating schedule. Why do you complain? What did you expect?
quel Posted August 21, 2011 Posted August 21, 2011 I think since you've already begun seeing someone else, you should perhaps let the 1st woman do her own thing...since she can't be upfront and seems a bit flaky, nothing substantial will develop. Good luck with the 2nd woman.
Imajerk17 Posted August 21, 2011 Posted August 21, 2011 If you just kissed her on the cheek and it's been 3 dates, then I'm afraid you've been friend-zoned.
ThsAmericanLife Posted August 22, 2011 Posted August 22, 2011 We had three amazing dates and we both loved it. On the third date she told me she wants to take it slow and I said lets see where it goes. During the third date we held hands and there was a lot of casual touching and I kissed her on her cheeks before she left. After that the next day we spoke for almost two hours and the day ater. I asked her if she wants to do some thing next week and she was reluctant saying she was busy (though I offered her two days to meet up). I am a kind of person who likes to hang out and talk if I like some one, I am the only one who calls her and texts her. I also want to take it slow but even after three dates how slow can it go. I like her since we have a lot in common and connected really quickly, I went on a first date with another woman and it was good. Should I never bother with the first woman? I'm a person who likes to go 'slow' too. These days 'slow' means not having sex on the third date, apparently. I try to make up for what I see as ridiculous expectations by some men for speedy sex by doing the following to show interest... - initiating on texts and calls - coming up with my own suggestions for fun dates - and making time for future dates... if my schedule is legitimately busy during the time he suggests, I'll suggest another time that works for both of us... even if it means waiting for a week or two. There would still be communication in between though... Long story short... she doesn't seem all that interested... and probably is dating multiple men. You could decide to 'wait it out' and see if some others drop off her radar. Stop calling for awhile.
ThsAmericanLife Posted August 22, 2011 Posted August 22, 2011 If you just kissed her on the cheek and it's been 3 dates, then I'm afraid you've been friend-zoned. I disagree. Not everyone believes in jumping in the sack on the 3rd date. It is her other signs of lack of interest that show 'friend-zone' to me...
Author Junkshakemail Posted August 23, 2011 Author Posted August 23, 2011 So she called me (4 times In total - i was away from my Phone) and wants to make Plans for this Thursday.I said I will let her know since I might be working. Should I change my schedule so I can take the day off to hang out the whole day or should I meet her just for lunch before work. Thanks guys.
Pierre Posted August 23, 2011 Posted August 23, 2011 So she called me (4 times In total - i was away from my Phone) and wants to make Plans for this Thursday.I said I will let her know since I might be working. Should I change my schedule so I can take the day off to hang out the whole day or should I meet her just for lunch before work. Thanks guys. If she is dating other men this may be her only opening. It is up to you to get in line.
thatone Posted August 23, 2011 Posted August 23, 2011 So she called me (4 times In total - i was away from my Phone) and wants to make Plans for this Thursday.I said I will let her know since I might be working. Should I change my schedule so I can take the day off to hang out the whole day or should I meet her just for lunch before work. Thanks guys. yes, and she's calling you showing interest, so tell her "i can take thursday off". respond by showing interest in her, that you're willing to change your schedule a bit. and a peck on the cheek isn't going to cut it at the end of the next one. turn up the physical contact a notch.
Author Junkshakemail Posted August 26, 2011 Author Posted August 26, 2011 So guys, had an amazing fourth date. We went to the zoo and spent the whole day. Though we didnt kiss we were more physical ( I kissed her on the neck) and surprisingly she kissed me on the neck LOL. I feel like talking to her tonight, but I dont want to see too desperate or cling. Should I call her tonight or tomorrow. Thanks guys
thatone Posted August 26, 2011 Posted August 26, 2011 you're at 4 dates, she kissed you back, you're doing fine. call when you want to call. you should know her schedule in general by now, so you should know when she's likely to be available. all that 'seeming desperate' stuff is bullsh*t. if the attraction wasn't mutual she wouldn't be calling you to ask you out and she would be gone before 4 dates. do what feels natural.
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