so_mo34 Posted August 21, 2011 Posted August 21, 2011 This is pretty embarassing but I was hooking up with this much older guy who i work with on/offf for 2 years. Unfortanately I got attached and had a hard time walking away even though he was never that nice to me and was always playing games. It seemed like he loved making me jealous on purpose. Anyways we made plans the other night for me to go over to his place after clubbing and wait for him to get in from his night shift. At 2:30am he texts me and goes 'no don't come! feeling good ;)" so im guessing he has a new girl. I didn't reply to his text. It wouldn't have been that big of a deal but it's just the litte things like that adding up. I know were not a couple and he can do whatever he wants but i still feel really hurt. I blocked his number so i won't receive his texts IF he even ends up texting me again. Just cause I want this to be done and i know i won't be able to ignore him. I just feel so used and stupid. Im putting in my 2 weeks notice at the job next weekend, since I got a new one anyways. I will get over him, but it seems like I will never forgive myself for being so stupid and hanging around and being degraded by him for 2 years. Any tips on what I should do?
olivec Posted August 21, 2011 Posted August 21, 2011 That is a really tough break, however you will heal and move on with your life. He was not the right person for you so its better that you learn from this mistake now then say if he got you pregnant then it would be even worse. Also getting a new job is the first step as it'll give you a fresh start so you can put all that negative stuff behind you.
olivec Posted August 21, 2011 Posted August 21, 2011 That is a really tough break, however you will heal and move on with your life. He was not the right person for you so its better that you learn from this mistake now then say if he got you pregnant then it would be even worse. Also getting a new job is the first step as it'll give you a fresh start so you can put all that negative stuff behind you.
aliceinchains Posted August 23, 2011 Posted August 23, 2011 Spend time alone without dating. Try and figure out why you are attracted to people like that or else this vicious cycle will continue. This isn't normal behavior. You are not stupid, just young and naive. Did you really like him or was it a love/hate relationship? You should consider that maybe you were attracted to the challenge and the reward rather than the person itself. Once you mature you will realize that guys that respect you are the ones that are worth your time. The nicer ones are easier to mold into men anyway Don't waste your time with older men either, they only want sex. There's a reason why girls their age don't want them.
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