LoveMad Posted August 21, 2011 Posted August 21, 2011 Well im gonna start by saying im 19 in couple months, my LDR bf is 19, we live in different countries obviously. I Met him through an internet game like 3 yrs ago, we got along really well and enjoyed each others company, and had alot incommon. After a year when we had pretty much constantly talked like up to 12 hrs each day, we opened up.. and i found out he was in love with me, i felt great about it cause i felt the same for him. Anyway now we have known for 3 yrs. Everything was really good most of the time, but before i started school last august i thought this LDR wouldnt work anymore, i had to spend more and more time away from my PC, and i was tired of being so much home cause of it. I Wanted to move on and start with a new life. And we still hadnt met IRL cause i was afraid, i had no courage to meet him, Cause of what he'd think of me irl. We broke up.. in october 5th last year, after being together for a year. Which was my decision only.. he wanted to continue it but i didnt. After we broke up i was still constantly thinking bout him and in love with him, so i thought i just need my mind off from him and i have to move on.. so i started hanging out with this guy on my class. And eventually after months and months we got together.. i didnt really feel much for him but i thought it'd help me getting over my LDR, and that the feelings would eventually get stronger, but they never didnt. I Kept comparing my LDR bf all the time to that guy, and he was nothing like him.. This guy fell in love with me, and i still continued dating him. After a long while, one lonely night i was drunk came home talking to my ex (my ldr bf) and i told him i was still in love with him, he was shocked.. and thrilled, he still felt the same way for me surprisingly, after all the things i had done to him. I Still continued being with my bf tho' and didnt break up with him, before i had it all planned out. Anyway my LDR guy and i came up with a date after 3 yrs.. that he'd come over and meet me, so he did. He was with me and my current bf back then for a month at my place. We had such a great time together, but i got all the time more and more arguements with my current bf cause of the jealousy.. I Feel bad for him cause he had no idea what was going out and i was rly in love with my ldr guy, and nothing could of changed that. During that month i broke up with my bf, but we still continued being friends and we're still in contact daily, and everything is good and fine between us, we're just friends. And.. well.. Im together with my LDR BF now once again.. and we're about to meet again in 2 months, and im so excited about it. And im missing him so much, but it's worth the wait. Now i just have to sort out how i'll tell my ex someday that im having LDR with this guy that im in love with, and have been for 3 yrs. Hes more than i could ever hope for, we have so much incommon, and we're so in love, hes amazing, love of my life... so this just has to work, and we'll make it work.. So to everyone out there, believe in it. And if you really want to make it work, it will work. Just remember to be honest, and open about everything.
madjac74 Posted August 21, 2011 Posted August 21, 2011 After a long while, one lonely night i was drunk came home talking to my ex (my ldr bf) and i told him i was still in love with him, he was shocked.. and thrilled, he still felt the same way for me surprisingly, after all the things i had done to him. I Still continued being with my bf tho' and didnt break up with him, before i had it all planned out. Anyway my LDR guy and i came up with a date after 3 yrs.. that he'd come over and meet me, so he did. He was with me and my current bf back then for a month at my place. We had such a great time together, but i got all the time more and more arguements with my current bf cause of the jealousy.. I Feel bad for him cause he had no idea what was going out and i was rly in love with my ldr guy,. And you are seriously giving us advice on being honest and open? It sounds like being dishonest actually worked better for you since you had a close distance relationship and a LDR at the same time and one worked out better for you.
Author LoveMad Posted August 22, 2011 Author Posted August 22, 2011 And you are seriously giving us advice on being honest and open? It sounds like being dishonest actually worked better for you since you had a close distance relationship and a LDR at the same time and one worked out better for you. What i meant is, i came out clean to the one i love, and had told him everything about us (me and my ex), and how far we had gone. He eventually accepted and still loves me for who i am. And we still got the full trust, and we're totally open with each other. I wasnt talking about my ex at that point.
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