filmbuffy Posted August 21, 2011 Posted August 21, 2011 Today is it... she is moving the last of her things out of my house. I did not sleep well, have been crying a majority of the morning. She broke up with me a little over a month ago, told me she didn't love me anymore and that there was someone else. My ex-girlfriend suffers from GIGS. ALL of her relationships have ended suddenly and overlap. She left her husband for me and now she has left me for someone else. I wish she could see what she is doing. I wish she would get help..... I asked her to go to counseling with me, but she declined. Said it was no use, she just did not love me anymore. I guess I am just another victim in her destructive pattern... but find myself still in love with her and whole-heartedly believe if this other person didn't come into the picture we would still be together today. She has already moved in with the other person.....
The_Good_Me Posted August 21, 2011 Posted August 21, 2011 Hey Filmbuffy Really sorry to hear this man. Moving out days are terrible and I don't think I can say anything to help you feel better for today at least. Regardless of the circumstances, it is always hard and hurts like hell when you're still in love with the person that leaves you and you have the added hurt of her moving straight in with someone else. You're right in what you say about becoming another victim of her destructive pattern but I wouldn't say that if this man hadn't come into her life that you would still be together, not long term anyway. Unfortunately you took a risk when you got with her as people in these patterns tend to jump from relationship to relationship until they're ready to settle down. I'm sure each partner hopes that they'll be the one to break the pattern and I'm sure you're more than worthy of settling down with. It's just she isn't ready to settle yet and she'll probably break this next guys heart too. When she is ready to settle down, chances are she'll be with someone not right for her and she'll think back to all the better suiters she had a chance with! Not saying this will bring her back to her ex-husband, you or any other partner she's had a relationship with though. Time for you to go NC and heal yourself over time. Friends, family & LS are what you need right now. Good luck man.
danceallday Posted August 21, 2011 Posted August 21, 2011 Sorry to hear it filmbuffy. When she gets her stuff try to be as neutral and businesslike as possible. This will help you keep your dignity. Be well and good luck.
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