I Got Dumped And I Made The Decision To Delete Exs Fb And Bb Messages She Was Fuming

[mindgame13]

ever since we broke up she has told me that there is no way we could have another chance and all the normal scenarios, that last night i made the decision to delete her fb and that. as i was finding the breakup very difficult. I deleted her at 1 am and i woke up 7am, during that period of space she had tried to go on my fb. She was furious about this, she was ment to be coming to help my sister when my parents went away to australia. She also text me at this time " hey, im gonna take it you want help with looking after your sister when your mum goes away?". then when i had decided what i was going to say i said " sorry aint text back been at work, would have been nice to see you. but could with a hand but up to you." then she put " how am i supposed to help when youre deleting me from you life socially? " i just put i was really upset last night and i just didnt no what to do sorry" she just put ok then, i said " i no it was really silly, i didnt mean anything by it" she put its cool no worries".

 

That day i had people ringing me up and telling me what she had put on fb once she had tried to get on my page she had added her status as " sometimes you really make my blood boil" then her friends added haha its to funny and saying how pathetic i was and how she was right all along" why would she be behaving like this ? we have been broken up for 2 weeks and spent 4 days before that with no contact?

[coltsfan1]

this is why "fakebook" can sometimes be an issue. If you needed to delete her (which is the right choice) then let her and her childish friends talk. They would never have said that to your personally. It is just "fakebook" no need to worry about it now.

 

In my break up I wish I would have turned my profile off the next day. I waited to long and it cause nothing but regret and sadness. TRUST me you made the right choice!!!

[Dblock10]

yeah its a tough call when it comes to fb.

 

as much as i want to delete her from it. i dont want to at the same time.

 

i wont look on her page ever. but i know im going to see her pro pic change and it will make me have a mini panic attack when its her and her mate with other guys.

 

either way. i cant bring myself to del her

[danceallday]

Facebook is ridiculous. It has changed the social landscape and now breakups are aired publicly. My ex put on twitter that he was single. Can you imagine? After a long time going back and forth with him, he finally hit the last straw with me.

 

I suggest you block the person from you on fb. Blocking means they cannot see you or posts, or anything. It is effective because then you cannot see them either. It sends a very clear message.

 

I think it is really immature for people to air their opinions about other people's relationship on fb. I put that I was single and people on my wall wrote "like" or "really?" and that was about it. I even eventually took down all of those posts because I feel the matter is private. For me only.

[mindgame13]

yeh i did make the correct choice but why is the fact the within an hour and half of me deleting her she had tried to get on my facebook and look up my profile, i mean if she the one that wanted it over with me, why she still stalking me on fb and then texting me because i had done it. i personally think she aint over me and broke up with me and everything she has said is a lie

[danceallday]

She just sounds very immature (look at her friends and you will know by who she hangs with) and doesn't know what she wants. You don't need to engage in it. It is like with little kids. You ever notice they always ask "but why?" and the adult answers and the kid says "but why?". It isn't the answer they want, they just are looking for a response and the attention.

 

I use this technique in one of my retail jobs that I have. When I get a crazy customer - and I do, a lot. If my transaction and customer service is done with them for that particular sale and they keep talking or asking questions I just stop answering. Sometimes I just look at them and give them a Mona Lisa smile. You know, a 1/2 smile without smiling eyes. This technique works every time for me.

[mindgame13]

She just sounds very immature (look at her friends and you will know by who she hangs with) and doesn't know what she wants. You don't need to engage in it. It is like with little kids. You ever notice they always ask "but why?" and the adult answers and the kid says "but why?". It isn't the answer they want, they just are looking for a response and the attention.

 

I use this technique in one of my retail jobs that I have. When I get a crazy customer - and I do, a lot. If my transaction and customer service is done with them for that particular sale and they keep talking or asking questions I just stop answering. Sometimes I just look at them and give them a Mona Lisa smile. You know, a 1/2 smile without smiling eyes. This technique works every time for me.

 

yeah i think on this you may be correct, last night i tried playing at her on own game, so i put a big smiley face on facebook last night, about 11 and at 8am this morning she put "best night ever" seems a bit of a coincidence. So seems like she still stalking my facebook

[mindgame13]

what do you think my plans of action should be move on and let her choose the actions she wants

[danceallday]

mindgame - the block list feature on fb is a wonderful thing. It sends a really clear message. That means she cannot see you or see your posts, and best of all you won't see her or her snarky comments. NC is a good way to go for you right now. I am in NYC for 5 plus weeks and it is sending my message of "your behavior towards me is unacceptable." If someone cannot be decent towards you they do not deserve your attention and friendship. The site below helped me a lot to understand the nc rules.

 

http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/the-no-contact-rule-rose/

[Jonnyy]

yeah i think on this you may be correct, last night i tried playing at her on own game, so i put a big smiley face on facebook last night, about 11 and at 8am this morning she put "best night ever" seems a bit of a coincidence. So seems like she still stalking my facebook

 

I actually bursted out laughing when i read this. This is immature to the extreme. I could just imagine this girl seeing your smiley face and then just sitting at her computer coming up with a way to top you. Dont play her game. Its not worth your time. If you dont want to block her then just take her off your friends list at least and set your profile to private.

[danceallday]

I actually bursted out laughing when i read this. This is immature to the extreme. I could just imagine this girl seeing your smiley face and then just sitting at her computer coming up with a way to top you. Dont play her game. Its not worth your time. If you dont want to block her then just take her off your friends list at least and set your profile to private.

 

 

Amen. I think she is what the BaggageClaim site would refer to as an "a**-clown".

[Chi townD]

Dude, she's playing immature games with you. And her friends are playing right along with the Facebook bashing. Screw her, and this best night ever! crap. That's why you delete them from Facebook, because if instances like that!

 

Look, she told you that she doesn't see you two getting together again, EVER! So, why the hell would she get upset that you de-friend her from Facebook, she made it abundately clear she wants you out of her life. Then she gets mad when you take it literally?

 

When it comes time for you to watch your kid sister, just bite the bullet and take care of it yourself, you don't owe her anything and she owes nothing to you. Go NC and stay there. If your friends want to tell you what she's been posting on FB, tell them you rather not hear about it. Time to move on, dude.