Sugarkane Posted August 21, 2011 Posted August 21, 2011 They were high school sweethearts: got together when they were 14. They're now 25 and [married a couple of years ago]. They've both never dated anyone else. So why hasn't one freaked out and thought "OMG I've never dated anyone else before/ never been single. I want to breakup". Why don't these people get GIGS? What makes them the exception? Especially marrying young aswell.
Buttercup84 Posted August 21, 2011 Posted August 21, 2011 Who knows , we do not know what goes on behind closed doors. They might have had those thoughts and had their issues. It seems unfair , I have friends who are married - getting married and they met their partners when they were about 24 and now I am 27 and single again and it makes me feel like the biggest douche. You wonder why there are people who just seem to be lucky in love. Sucks.
Woggle Posted August 21, 2011 Posted August 21, 2011 Some people get it later than others. Just give them time.
The_Good_Me Posted August 21, 2011 Posted August 21, 2011 They were high school sweethearts: got together when they were 14. They're now 25 and [married a couple of years ago]. They've both never dated anyone else. So why hasn't one freaked out and thought "OMG I've never dated anyone else before/ never been single. I want to breakup". Why don't these people get GIGS? What makes them the exception? Especially marrying young aswell. GIGS isn't something that happens to everyone, it is a common thing. They may have had thoughts of leaving one another and battled through, maybe they didn't. It may happen to them later down the line as from what you have said, the pattern that usually leads to GIGS is plainly there. There are people that break up only after decades of marriage but there are people out there that do stay together from young ages. My parents were each others first loves from their late teens and they're still together in their 50's. They have had their issues of course but credit to them, they have worked on everything together. I sincerely wish your friends the best and hope that their relationship turns out to be one of the lucky few that make it all the way.
Author Sugarkane Posted August 23, 2011 Author Posted August 23, 2011 I don't actually wish them well at all. Their my exes friends not mine. They were nauseating at the best of times, even when I was with my ex.
antinko Posted August 23, 2011 Posted August 23, 2011 I don't actually wish them well at all. Their my exes friends not mine. They were nauseating at the best of times, even when I was with my ex. You sound somewhat bitter to be quite honest. Have these people ever done anything to you or are they just a couple who, for whatever reason, may have found true love and you're jealous?
thelovingkind Posted August 23, 2011 Posted August 23, 2011 People who are getting blissfully married in their late teens and early twenties are getting miserably divorced in their late twenties and early thirties, just as the rest of us are getting our time in the sun and holding onto it for longer. Generalisations, but statistically backed ones. If you want the best chance at something lasting, better to wait until you're 25+
just_scott Posted August 23, 2011 Posted August 23, 2011 those people or ANY people can't get something that doesn't exist how does one get g.i.g.s. anyways ? is it in acertain food ,ordo you eed to touch something etc ?
FinOuch Posted August 23, 2011 Posted August 23, 2011 People who are getting blissfully married in their late teens and early twenties are getting miserably divorced in their late twenties and early thirties, just as the rest of us are getting our time in the sun and holding onto it for longer. Generalisations, but statistically backed ones. If you want the best chance at something lasting, better to wait until you're 25+ Not true. My parents got married at 17 (thanks to me, oops)...and are still together in a very happy and healthy relationship. They truly love each other and the family they've built. I've often asked my mom how they lucked out, and she has no idea. Looking at the type of people they are, though, I don't think it has anything to do with "true love" or any of that fairy tale crap. It's just two people with the strength of character to see the good of their relationship and be thankful for it...and to put their marriage, each other, and their children before their own selfish desires. Which is apparently a rare thing.
Author Sugarkane Posted August 25, 2011 Author Posted August 25, 2011 You sound somewhat bitter to be quite honest. Have these people ever done anything to you or are they just a couple who, for whatever reason, may have found true love and you're jealous? Read my posts about my prick of an ex and you'll see why
LelouchIsZero Posted August 25, 2011 Posted August 25, 2011 Not true. My parents got married at 17 (thanks to me, oops)...and are still together in a very happy and healthy relationship. They truly love each other and the family they've built. I've often asked my mom how they lucked out, and she has no idea. Looking at the type of people they are, though, I don't think it has anything to do with "true love" or any of that fairy tale crap. It's just two people with the strength of character to see the good of their relationship and be thankful for it...and to put their marriage, each other, and their children before their own selfish desires. Which is apparently a rare thing. It is a rare thing, congrats to them for keeping it together for so long . People who're immature/selfish face 'GIGS'. Instead of working on the problems they face in the relationship, they leave OR instead of appreciating the qualities of their relationship & their partner, they leave for someone else, even if there is no reason to.
Author Sugarkane Posted August 26, 2011 Author Posted August 26, 2011 People who're immature/selfish face 'GIGS'. Instead of working on the problems they face in the relationship, they leave OR instead of appreciating the qualities of their relationship & their partner, they leave for someone else, even if there is no reason to. Aka my ex. I think everyone should have their heart broken at least once.
HeartOfAPhoenix Posted August 26, 2011 Posted August 26, 2011 Aka my ex. I think everyone should have their heart broken at least once. Sorry to break it to you but not everyone suffers heartbreak. the chance is EXTREMELY low but there are couples out there who spend their whole life with the first person they date/kiss/have sex with. I can't remember where I found the statistic but it's around 5% of "high school sweethearts" make it to marriage, of that 5% only 1.2% of those marriages last. I think you are being bitter, as other posters have mentioned, but this is part of the healing process. I think later on your perspective of this couple will change and you might even envy what they have.
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