torn_curtain Posted August 21, 2011 Posted August 21, 2011 I'm a bit drunk after going out so my judgment might be impaired, but this is what I'd send. Tell me if it's a bad idea. This has been gnawing at me for over a year: I don't know why I'm writing you. I guess it's just that you played an important part in my life, and I can't seem to make peace with the fact that we would never talk again. I want to make peace with you. I know we're not compatible and I'm not looking for some sort of reunion by any means. But somehow without making peace with you it's as if you never existed, and i can't seem to reconcile that with my memories. That I was so close to someone and then they just disappeared. I know in your mind you've probably demonized me as some crazy ex girlfriend, and I can understand why. But the truth isn't so black and white. I did love you, and I fcked up. I lost it when you broke up with me, because I have major abandonment issues from my dad leaving when I was a kid. And I'm really sorry about that, and everything that happened. You also did some really fcked up things that really hurt me. But I just want to make peace with you. Because I did love you, and you were really important to me. I hope we can at least exchange a few words to acknowledge each other's existence. I've thought so many times about sending this email and then stopped myself, but the feeling of unrest never seems to go away. It's been over a year now, and I can't forget you. You meant a lot to me, and I'll always remember you. I listen to Neil Young "Like a Hurricane" and I think of you.
LoveandSuch Posted August 21, 2011 Posted August 21, 2011 Noooooooo! Do not do it. Plus you are telling this guy you have issues on top of it. Not a good idea. A man will contact you if he is interested.
Mutant Debutante Posted August 21, 2011 Posted August 21, 2011 I thought I read that you have a boyfriend? I think it's a bad idea to send a letter like this to an ex, and especially if you have a bf. Anyway, I definitely wouldn't send it when I was drunk.
Author torn_curtain Posted August 21, 2011 Author Posted August 21, 2011 (edited) yeah, you guys are right...I don't know what I was thinking. I'm not gonna send it. I know when I'm sober I'll be shaking my head at even considering it. Thanks! Edited August 21, 2011 by torn_curtain
LoveandSuch Posted August 21, 2011 Posted August 21, 2011 Yeahhhhh! Good thinking! You will be thankful late a.m. I would never email an ex. I have had to email an old platonic just friends guy, but only for important info I need, and that is like pulling teeth out of a tiger to get a coherent reply! Feel stupid having to do even that. Never contact an ex lover.....let them contact you.
confusedgirl56 Posted August 21, 2011 Posted August 21, 2011 Not a good idea. He probably won't reply. If you want a reaction from a guy, you either get him jealous or upset. But it's normally not worth it.
Mutant Debutante Posted August 21, 2011 Posted August 21, 2011 yeah, you guys are right...I don't know what I was thinking. I'm not gonna send it. I know when I'm sober I'll be shaking my head at even considering it. Thanks! No big. Everybody has those moments.
Author torn_curtain Posted August 21, 2011 Author Posted August 21, 2011 Woke up and first thought was "glad I didn't send that crazy email." Thanks y'all!
Casablanca Posted August 21, 2011 Posted August 21, 2011 I'm in the same boat as you OP...I have wanted to send her an email along the lines of I recently heard a great man tell a crowd that if you have something to say to someone, then say it because you'll never know when it will be too late. So I want to tell you that even if we never talk again, please know that I am forever changed because of who you are and what you've meant to me" Basically the first part I heard Paul McCartney say in concert and the second part I took from Chasing Amy, but it is how I feel....the biggest reason I want to send it is because I just miss her friendship, I know we'll never get back together and I've come to terms with that a long time ago, but I just wish I could talk to her once in a while, but she's made it pretty clear she has no interest in maintaining any type of friendship other than when she wants to talk (in other words one way friendship) Good job at not sending it OP...I havent sent this and I probably wont because I know it wont change anything...if she wanted to keep some sort of friendship, she had the chance, I already let her know a while ago that I'm not settling for a one way friendship
K.K. Posted August 21, 2011 Posted August 21, 2011 YEAY! ! Saved from the humiliation of sending that letter then realizing 2 seconds after you hit send that you wish you could take it back..wondering when or if they're going to respond. It was a pretty letter though. Heartfelt and to the point. Sounds like you just needed to get it off your chest. I did that once. I hit send and what I got back was "oh yea i suck" "lets be friends". Then like a dumbass I say "the worst part of it all was that you don't acknowledge the fact that you RUINED MY LIFE" (embarrassing) to which he says... "yea well you know... i already said i suck hope you are well:-))" NEVER doing that again. Whatever he says back won't answer anything. Or worse, it'll make you feel good for a split second then you'll realize that it's all for nothing because there's no way you're ever getting back together anyway. It'll never be the same if you did- you can't undo whatever went wrong. Then you'll be set back for weeks.
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