luvsickpuppy Posted August 21, 2011 Posted August 21, 2011 My significant other and I, have trust issues.. to say the least. One day after a fight, he de- friend me and put his profiles on private. We've made yp since then but he hasnt changed this. He said, its because he's tired of me questioning, who's this, Kinda stuff. Well, while we were fighting once I caught him on a date, I never told him I discivered this, but he's lied when I've asked during our no contact times have you taken someone else out. We've had a rough history, and I wanna be with him, but only if hes willing to put himself on the line too. So I'm on high alert, and wonder so much, but keep quiet, because I don't want to create a problem if there really isn't one. So, my curious and scared self made a new facebook. Used a normal looking model I found online added a bunch of people including one of his profiles, yea he has two. I didn't see much that I could 'twist' as he would say, but this is his secondary one, the one I'm worried about I didn't try to add him, because I'm scared. I want to find out he's been telling me the truth, to find out I can trust him with my heart again. But I wonder, am I going about it wrong? I want to build trust with him, work together to get to a health relationship. He thinks love should be enough to carry us there. I spoke to a pasture about that, and he said its because he grew up in a unhealthy environment, and has never been shown how hard you have to work in a relationship.. I guess like believing its the stuff of magic. This scares me as well. I'm afraid, if I bring up my insecurities too much he will think I'm just constantly unhappy with him, or if its too hard its not worth doing..
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