Jonnyy Posted August 21, 2011 Posted August 21, 2011 I had met this girl in highschool. We were both 16 at the time and we ended up dating. It lasted for just under 1 year and 10 months. While we were together we were so happy together. All of our friends had told us we were so cute together and always said we were going to get married. Even my gf was the one who always talked to her friends about us being together forever and how much she loved me. In my opinion, our relationship was perfect and i was extremely happy and i loved her and cherished her and cared for her with all that i had. Just recently, at the start of summer, she said that we have been in a "funk". Idk exactly what that meant but i guess it meant we got into some arguments and such, but they were never catastrophic, just little things. Since we both just graduated highschool, we both had gotten our first jobs for the summer. She met this guy at her job, who is 24 and a former marine, and always talked about him. She always told me about how nice he was and things like that. She always stressed that they were just friends though so i thought nothing of it. They then started hanging out after work a few times, (going to starbucks, get ice cream, go disc golfing) She had asked me if it was ok if she went with him, which i appreciated her asking me, and i said yes thinking they were only friends. This guy had also been engaged earlier. He told her that he broke off the engagement because it moved all too fast and that it ended a month or so before my gf and him met. But just recently, a friend of mine who knew his ex fiance told me that it ended because of my gf. My gf had also just started hanging out with this new friend of hers, a girl, toward the end of the school year. This other girl had just been crushing on another guy while she was in a serious relationship. She likes to party alot and has turned into a whole new person and ended up ending her relationship with her bf, who was a wonderful guy btw, and is now with another guy. Now my gf, i feel, is just copying her because she started crushing on this 24 year old guy, (shes 18 btw). She told me about the crush and we ended up getting through it, for the most part, but within a week her crush came back and our relationship ended up ending because "she was doubting us, she didnt want to regret anything", and basically wanted to just explore the dating world i guess. The thing i find a little fishy is that this guy is 24 and is trying to get with an 18 year old. They are still only friends but he invited her to a wedding and theyve only known each other for about a month and a half. Dont you think that is a little fast? Me and my currently ex gf are going to the same college, and the 24 year old guy said he is going to visit her all the time in college. Im just extremely confused as to why all this happened. I know that reading this could also be confusing for you but i tried my best to organize it for you. She also just recently, about a week ago, stated that we shouldnt talk for awhile, i said i understood and respected it. I have respected her, been understanding, and just the nicest guy i could ever be during all of this. I just dont understand what has happened to her because she seems like a completely different person. The gf i knew would have never gone out with a guy that much older than her! She always said it was gross. Do you think, if they end up getting into a relationship, that it will last at all? Do you think not talking to her is for the best? Do you think she will ever want me back and realize what shes doing? What should i do during all of this? Ive never been more heartbroken and hurt in alll my life. I also understand that her being happy is most important and i respect that. Im just looking for some advice i guess.
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