EyeAlone Posted August 21, 2011 Posted August 21, 2011 So I've been dating this guy for a while and everything has been going great so far. However, there is something that is making my antenna go up. Ever since date #1, he seems to not utilize any discretion when talking about his past girlfriends, girls he's dated, and just girls in general! For instance, last weekend he was hanging out with some friends before I was going to meet up with him. He later told me that "one of the girls was disappointed that I had a girlfriend." He's told me so many details about this girl he liked 5 years ago. This is just the tip of the iceberg. At first this really bothered me. But over time I don't really care anymore because I've realized that this is just how he is. He's also very blunt and honest about all topics. However, I told some of my friends about this and they told me that it's not a good sign. They said that I should be careful around anyone who is too open. Any opinions on this? If any more details or clarification is needed, let me know...I'm falling asleep so I needed to be brief.
SmartyPants1 Posted August 21, 2011 Posted August 21, 2011 You need to careful about someone who is so open??? Think about that statement. Affairs happen in secret or in an enviorment that is not open. I personally like openess and blunt individuals however...listen...what is he saying and why is he saying it???? Is he feeling insecure and trying to make you jealous? Or is he talking about past girlfriends like he is bragging about his conquest...(that is a bad sign) If it is the first then you just need to tell him that you would prefer that the two of you concentrate on your relationship and not on previous ones that are in the past. See what his reaction is. If he doesn't understand or gets really defensive he might not be a great choice. Also if he is flirty with other girls now, then drop him ASAP. However letting you in on what his previous relationships were like gives you an idea of what to expect from him. Listen to what he is saying and decide if he is someone you are compatible with. If he is an open book then "read him".
chelsea2011 Posted August 21, 2011 Posted August 21, 2011 So I've been dating this guy for a while and everything has been going great so far. However, there is something that is making my antenna go up. Ever since date #1, he seems to not utilize any discretion when talking about his past girlfriends, girls he's dated, and just girls in general! For instance, last weekend he was hanging out with some friends before I was going to meet up with him. He later told me that "one of the girls was disappointed that I had a girlfriend." He's told me so many details about this girl he liked 5 years ago. This is just the tip of the iceberg. At first this really bothered me. But over time I don't really care anymore because I've realized that this is just how he is. He's also very blunt and honest about all topics. However, I told some of my friends about this and they told me that it's not a good sign. They said that I should be careful around anyone who is too open. Any opinions on this? If any more details or clarification is needed, let me know...I'm falling asleep so I needed to be brief. I dated a guy like this and it was very off putting. It could be red flags and it may be nothing. It all depends upon his state of mind and whether or not he is secure with himself. Make note of the red flags, tell him you prefer not talking about the past or hearing about his and see what he does. If he respects you he will stop. If he doesn't stop then I would end it and move on. Don't stay with him and not say anything though. Give him the benefit of the doubt and confront it directly and go from there. If he is a good guy, he may just be a little clumsy when it comes to dating. I certainly was,... not so long ago. Your friends shouldn't really judge him unless they know him.
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