Jgar Posted August 21, 2011 Posted August 21, 2011 Ok this might be long so I apologize. I'm 18 years old and I have been with my beautiful gf for two years now (i dont think im attractive which is why i akways do anything i can to maje ger happy) which i deeply love. We recently broke up because we were arguing to much and I had gotten bored. Well during our broke up we had sex once. And i used protection, i always do. Days after he started getting all confusing saying that she was just going to leave me alone for good, then the next day she would say she loved me and missed me and wanted to get back together. Well after two-three weeks of being broken up I found out she went to this Party with a dress we had talked about before that was WAY too short. Friends started telling me that she was being crazy and she confessed having kissed a guy and other friends were telling me that she was all over other guys and grinding on them. The pictures were on Facebook which proved her boobs were all out and she was acting like a slut with other guys. I got mad so I ripped up all the cards she ever wrote me and gave them back. She begged and said sorry over and over again when we talked. She said she didn't understanf why I got mad and that the guy kissed her and not the other way around, and she asked for us to get back together. I was furious at the moment so I just gave her, her stuff and left her house. She was my first girlfriend and unfortunately now were going to the same college, what's worse is that this is the second time she did that, at the beginning of our relationship she snuck off with a guy to party also in the middle of the night. So my question to y'all is do I take her back, I'm heartbroken at the moment, I have no friends to talk to about how I feel and idk what to do. And unfortunately my parents saw the pictures on facebook and they don't like her. Should I confront the guy whom she kissed?? Also idk if I should be getting mad if we were broken up, but still it was mest up.
Pierre Posted August 21, 2011 Posted August 21, 2011 Ok this might be long so I apologize. I'm 18 years old and I have been with my beautiful gf for two years now (i dont think im attractive which is why i akways do anything i can to maje ger happy) which i deeply love. We recently broke up because we were arguing to much and I had gotten bored. Well during our broke up we had sex once. And i used protection, i always do. Days after he started getting all confusing saying that she was just going to leave me alone for good, then the next day she would say she loved me and missed me and wanted to get back together. Well after two-three weeks of being broken up I found out she went to this Party with a dress we had talked about before that was WAY too short. Friends started telling me that she was being crazy and she confessed having kissed a guy and other friends were telling me that she was all over other guys and grinding on them. The pictures were on Facebook which proved her boobs were all out and she was acting like a slut with other guys. I got mad so I ripped up all the cards she ever wrote me and gave them back. She begged and said sorry over and over again when we talked. She said she didn't understanf why I got mad and that the guy kissed her and not the other way around, and she asked for us to get back together. I was furious at the moment so I just gave her, her stuff and left her house. She was my first girlfriend and unfortunately now were going to the same college, what's worse is that this is the second time she did that, at the beginning of our relationship she snuck off with a guy to party also in the middle of the night. So my question to y'all is do I take her back, I'm heartbroken at the moment, I have no friends to talk to about how I feel and idk what to do. And unfortunately my parents saw the pictures on facebook and they don't like her. Should I confront the guy whom she kissed?? Also idk if I should be getting mad if we were broken up, but still it was mest up. There was a time when high school sweethearts would get married and live very happy lives. If you are one of those people try to work it out. However, at her tender age she has already cheated and this is a red flag. Most cheaters start early and generally cheat again when they are adults. So my advice is that you move on; she will cheat again. As to the breakup: As you grow older you will see a pattern in life. Quite often breaking up is hard to do and it may take several attempts with many relapses. The best way to break up is to go into absolute no contact with your ex-partner for as long as you can. Sometimes this takes up to a year. Then at some point she will be out of your system.
ja123 Posted August 21, 2011 Posted August 21, 2011 Though difficult I think it's best not to take her back and feel the pain now and move on. You have so many new and exciting things starting in your life. Concentrate on those. Posting here to get your feelings out, considering you have no one to talk to about this, is a very positive move. You clearly have tools and life skills to deal with life's set-back and that's just wonderful. I agree with Pierre that no contact is the best way to break up.
nandesuka Posted August 22, 2011 Posted August 22, 2011 She cheated on you twice... Ditch that bitch. Any STD presents from her?
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