manji123 Posted August 20, 2011 Posted August 20, 2011 (edited) I have been talking to this girl that I met online for a couple weeks now. We email very often during our workday and have been talking on the phone about 3-4 days out of the week. Needless to say there has been a lot of contact and I was a little worried it maybe too much contact. Anyway I told you guys I would keep you up to date so here it goes... We finally met and had our first date today and I really like her a lot and I think things went pretty well. I was a tad over dressed for the place we ate at, so I made a joke about it, which went over well. We are both very sarcastic and joking with each other but it's all in good fun etc. I kept the date short as she is a little shy plus I think it's best to keep the first date somewhat short. All in all it was about an hour and a half, which is actually pretty long to eat and our conversation was good. I walked her over to her car that's when it got a little awkward. Although, I wanted to kiss her it just didn't seem right. It was sunny outside people around etc. So she leaned in and hugged me (no back patting thank God) with both arms and pressed against me a bit. Then as I was about to leave she says "wait" and hands me a container of cookies she had made for me. I had (jokingly) mentioned she should bake me some a few days ago. ** I forgot the mention that right before I left I did take her hand and kiss it. She smiled and seemed to like it. I can't believe I forgot that part but again I'm pretty frazzled. I really like her. Anyway that's that for now. I gotta say I really really like this girl a lot. It's nice to meet someone who really has it "going on" for once. The neurotic in me keeps wanting to over analyze everything but over all it went well-- I think. I guess I'm just looking for some input or advice or general support. I want to call her right now 7 hours after the date. But I feel I should wait. Ugh...I hate these rules etc. I mean we have pretty much broken them by talking so much before our date so maybe I should stick to that? Again here comes the neurotic in me. Again thanks for the advice everyone. Edited August 21, 2011 by manji123
sm1tten Posted August 21, 2011 Posted August 21, 2011 I would definitely at least text or email her to tell her that you had a good time and are looking forward to seeing her again, but I probably would not call. I wouldn't necessarily say you "have" to wait but I'd want both sides to have a bit of time to digest the date past the giddy-yet-nervous first-date sensations. It sounds like it went well.
Author manji123 Posted August 21, 2011 Author Posted August 21, 2011 Thanks for the advice. I gave her a call but got her voicemail but then about 20 minutes after that she texted me saying she was sorry for missing my call and that she had a good time too. Still so far so good. Now I just have to figure out something for a second date. I'm thinking of asking her if she would like to do something next weekend around Tuesday or so. I know she mentioned last week or so that she would be driving down to see a friend of hers who would be in town so hopefully it's not the same weekend etc. It's really funny how when I have a mild interest in someone it's no big deal but when I really like someone I over think etc. Just the way it is I suppose.
Author manji123 Posted August 22, 2011 Author Posted August 22, 2011 I don't mean to be a basket case about this guys but I figure it's best to talk here and get some advice rather than screw things up with this girl. She is a little shy and wanted to talk before we went out (we met on a dating site) so over the course of 2 weeks we have texted, emailed and called. We would talk on the phone about 3-4 times a week around 45 minutes to an hour and we would email 6-10 times a day M-F about our job and just whatever. She would sometimes be the first but most of the time it was me. At first I thought I was doing it too much but then if I took a while before sending an email she would sometimes joke about it. Anyway so over this time I really really started to like her and I feel it was mutual. She even mentioned that she told a friend about me. As said before she is a little aloof and shy so it's sometimes hard to read her. Saturday I had called and left a voice mail with about 30 minutes afterwards she sent me a text saying she had a bad headache and was trying to shake it. I do believe on this because she has told me she sometimes gets migraines or really bad headaches and she mentioned she felt she was getting on the morning of our date but dared not miss our date. Sunday I sent a quick text saying that I hope she was feeling better and for her to have a great day. I had also done a little drawing of a cartoon tiger as a joke (inside joke of ours) just to be nice/silly. Point is I still haven't heard anything back and I'm not going to contact her again because I feel like I may have been being to needy. Has she lost interest that quick? Am I just over reacting? Thanks all.
Author manji123 Posted August 22, 2011 Author Posted August 22, 2011 Ok so I arrived at work and sitting in my inbox was an email from her. It was pretty short and not open ended. I'm not going to respond for a couple hours just to see if she sends anything else or whatever. I don't know but something just doesn't feel right. I absolutely hate stuff like this by the way. Over the last couple months I've gone on several dates etc and I haven't really cared one way or the other. But with this girl everything has just clicked and I really like her, therefore I start overreacting and over analyzing etc. It's like on one hand I look at as the first date went well (she surprised me with cookies she had made for crying out loud) and nothing dumb happened. But then on the other hand I feel like since then she has avoided me to a degree. That is the first time she didn't answer a text etc. Again everyone sorry for being a basket case about this but I figure it's better to do it here than elsewhere. Thanks for any advice or support.
Author manji123 Posted August 22, 2011 Author Posted August 22, 2011 Just got this email from her. Ok, so it's "serious time." I don't really know a good way to say this, so I'm just going to be completely honest. I've enjoyed getting to know you over the last few weeks, however after actually meeting, I really don't think this is going to go anywhere. At least not in the direction I'm looking for. I know it's lame to say this over email, but I wanted to say it sooner rather than later. I'm not sure what your thoughts are, maybe you feel the same way. Don't hate me for saying the standard, I think you're great and you'll find someone that's right for you, but I really believe that. It's just not me. Wow...really? I felt something was up but I really wasn't expecting this.
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