RedIvy Posted August 20, 2011 Posted August 20, 2011 Hey all..I would just like to know what dating sites would be the best ones to join? A dumb question...yes....but hell, I wanna go on dates now that I'm single! FYI...NOT plenty of fish.... ew.
Holt Driver Posted August 20, 2011 Posted August 20, 2011 I was on eHarmony for the better part of 2010 and enjoyed it. But I wouldn't recommend them, for several reasons. eHarmony's value proposition is that their software matches you with people who are similar to you. That is what I found to be the problem. The women I met were almost too similar to me! It's fine to have similar interests and goals, but I've found that I need someone a little more *unlike* me to keep the relationship interesting. I'm an introvert, so I need an extrovert to pull out my energy and personality otherwise I tend to keep to myself. The other challenge with their site is that the process of meeting people can be very long and arduous. They step you through a four or five-part Q&A process that can be downright boring. It's not until you get to the open messaging phase that it's really fun. How quickly you get there depends on how quickly the other person responds. But here's the biggest thing I learned about online dating. We're all on those sites for a reason, and we know what that reason is. It's all too easy to turn a process that should be easy and spontaneous into something more akin to a job interview. I found myself talking about very personal experiences on the first date, which in hindsight is very wierd. Normally you wouldn't be talking about the personal aspects of child rearing, divorce, parents, etc. until well into a relationship. I didn't like that part at all, and I'm a pretty open person to some extent. If you're going to use a dating site (and I will again), get agreement from the people you date to keep the heavy talk to a minimum on the first few dates. Just take your time getting to know each other as if you had met on the street.
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