southpaw300 Posted August 20, 2011 Posted August 20, 2011 Ok so here's my scenario. I meet a girl from my town, turns out we have a lot in common (hobbies, stage in life, goals, etc.). So after having small chats with her in person and online, I decide to invite her to something to get to know her better. Turns out she isn't allowed to go out for the most part of weekends because of her dedication to her religion (Jewish faith). Didn't bother me, so I found another event that was on a weekday. This is where things get odd. She apparently gets the hint that I'm trying to take her on a casual date, so she tells me up front (well online) that she doesn't date. Then she goes even further by saying that it's not because of me, but because she was in a situation before where she went out with a guy behind her parent's back and she lost their trust. So she can't be with guys (unless her parents are there), they can't have her cell #, as a friend on facebook. saying it has to do with "modesty". Well that was about a year ago, flash forward to today...things are kinda different. We still kept talking and over the last year we have motivated each other through our lives (we're both college students), we and her friend meet for a quick lunch (she said her friend said I was "cute"), then few months after she invited me to one of her school's events where I hung out with her and one of her classmates (one of them almost mistaken me for her boyfriend) and afterward said it meant a lot for me to go to it. Also later during the summer she told me to join her in a networking event. Then this recently our town had a fair and she was going to one of it's evening events with her family and a friend. I asked if I could join and she accepted (but with skepticism because her parents would be going). So I meet her & her friend there, she kinda nervously warned me that her parents were on there way and I probably had to sit away from her. So then her parent's got there, but we simply shook hands and they let us sit together which really surprised her. The night went well, it was actually relaxing and ended on a good note. I guess my question is that do I have a chance with her or this a lost cause? Things seem to be progressing well.
SillyS Posted August 20, 2011 Posted August 20, 2011 I can relate to your situation, in many ways I'm like the girl you speak off. I think you need to not alienate her, but you should probably explain how you feel about her. She could be a girl that wants someone that suits her parents, and that she has a religious connection with in that regard. But at the same time, she has a clear connection with you and is acting on that as much as she can from what you say here. So, I think its very much time for you to not allow her to string you along any further if nothing can happen. I can't decide this for you nor can anyone else. Only she can tell you what she wants and she can be brave and give you two a chance or let her ideology interfere with your connection. Eitherway, she should decide and you should tell her how you feel so you can be taken out of this place, where you just don't know.
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