xOnlyJustADreamx Posted August 20, 2011 Posted August 20, 2011 I guess im posting this because I need somewhere to voice my thoughts and maybe get some advice from somewhere... Here it goes... Im single and I have been for the whole 19 years ive been alive, however it has never really bothered me until now, when all I see is happy couple upon happy couple. I used to be able to talk to my best friend (who is a guy) about this because he felt the same. However now even he has a girlfriend and he has turned into one of those invisible friends because hes always too busy. Another problem of mine is that Im crazy about my best friend...always have been and although we were never together, hes been my first for many things over the five years ive known him. The past year it has just been us two and we saw eachother everyday, staying over at eachothers, doing coupley type things and its been great, however ive never meant as much to him as he has to me. So yeah, hes got this new girlfriend and its breaking my heart, to see the guy I love off with someone else. To see someone else in the place I want to be and have been for five years. My main worry is that hes just going to abandon me and I will be left on my own because I have no other friends as he was too demanding which meant id drifted away from all of them. Also whilst I was his friend he never liked me seeing other guys which meant ive missed opportunities with people. So basically now, my only friend has gone, the person i love is loving someone else, and I have no one to talk to about it. I feel like Im completely on my own and I have no way of making friends anymore because im not in school or university and my old friends dont want to know me. Im also looking for a boyfriend but if I cant even make new friends I dont see where Im going to meet anyone Please, any advice or a listening ear would help
smudge21 Posted August 20, 2011 Posted August 20, 2011 It's clear there's more here than just losing someone you really care for. You need to find something that gets you around people so you can make new friends. Throughout your life people will come and go, some will mean a lot, others will just go without making any impact whatsoever. I know it hurts to have lost this close friend, especially when he meant more to you. What you need to do is not go looking for friends or a boyfriend, but just concentrate on making some changes - whether it be work or social. People will come into your life along the way and you don't know whether these people will be life long friends, best friends or even lovers. No one knows what the future holds.
Author xOnlyJustADreamx Posted August 20, 2011 Author Posted August 20, 2011 Aww thanks for that They are sensible words. I know, youre right. Since Ive been his friend i've never really had much time to do anything else and i've "put all of my eggs in one basket" I suppose and now that has gone i feel as if Im left with nothing. I used to paint and draw a lot so i'm thinking that could take my mind off things and fill my free time. Maybe my love for that will lead me to other loves in life Thanks for replying though smudge...it means a lot
smudge21 Posted August 20, 2011 Posted August 20, 2011 Yeah, focus on other things and keep busy. It does seem that things happen when we least expect them. You'll probably find what you're looking for when you stop looking for it... if that makes sense.
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