alexa137 Posted August 20, 2011 Posted August 20, 2011 well i broke the no contact rule and wished i didnt, i sent ex a facebook message it read: hey, hows it going? that was 10am, no response, so i take it he doesnt ever want to speak to me again, sigh, it hurts
Nohbody Posted August 20, 2011 Posted August 20, 2011 It happens. At least your message was noncommittal, and there isn't much to read into... hopeully? Dust yourself off and carry on. Don't sweat it. Assume he's not going to answer.
Queen of Hearts 10 Posted August 20, 2011 Posted August 20, 2011 Well I'm sorry he can't see a good thing ! His loss ! Can you see how rude he really is ! This will help you to push farther ahead now and not look back ! I'm glad you posted this because the rest of us will stay strong because of the out come you got. We all want to break the vow and take a chance to see. Which I've been doing still texting him but bad stuff ! Shame on me ! He just got a new girl friend a couple of weeks ago. He picked her over me ! So you don't want to find that kind of stuff out by contacting him, it hurts big ouch ! I took a long walk today about a mile. Get outside it's nice enjoy the weekend. Hang in there, peace !
Author alexa137 Posted August 20, 2011 Author Posted August 20, 2011 Oh my god! he just responded to my message! but it just says;hows it going? i dont know how long to wait to respond? and what should i say? im so nervous! i need good advice! im miserable and want him but dont know what to say help
Dblock10 Posted August 21, 2011 Posted August 21, 2011 depends who broke it off, how long its been, is he seeing someone else etc etc say what you want to say.. only you will know that..
Author alexa137 Posted August 21, 2011 Author Posted August 21, 2011 it was 3 weeks yesterday with no contact,he stopped talking to me basically im thinking because of my insecurities and not trusting, ive posted many othee posts recently about the situation. i sent him a message that just said: hey hows it going-earlier this morning,. i was just about to respond before i go to bed
Author alexa137 Posted August 21, 2011 Author Posted August 21, 2011 i have no idea if he is seeing someone else, all i know is that he is on all the same dating sites as i am, and he is on them alot! like everyday, just like me he moved about 10 miles from me the weekend we broke up and i dont go out so i havent seen him. all i know is that i want him to give me a second chance i just want to reply very simple and short but need the best thing to say
Dblock10 Posted August 21, 2011 Posted August 21, 2011 i wouldnt. or you will be waiting for a reply again. id send it in the morning and carry on with your day ahead. so you have no idea why he stopped talking to you, and your the one that has to break no contact.. wtf i know what id be asking him
Author alexa137 Posted August 21, 2011 Author Posted August 21, 2011 not really, but im guessing its because one night i tried calling and texting him(we spoke and texted daily) and for a few hrs he didnt respond, my car broke down and it was at a park near his apt, so i was trying to get ahold of him for help, when he didnt respond for awhile i got upset, and went off,yeah i know know wrong thing to do, so for the next few days it was kinda rough, and he said that he was out of town with his cousins, and that his battery was dead. but of course i dont think of that i automatically think hes with someone else or wahtever( i have major trust issues) from my past, long story. i even triedto cover my butt by saying that i was worried because he likes to text and drive and i thought something was wrong( i mean i did start to think that for real though) i started sending crazy texts making me look bad and insecure and then it went bad from there. he was in the process of moving and one night he said he would text me back after he moved and then nothing!
Dblock10 Posted August 21, 2011 Posted August 21, 2011 so how long were you with him? seems you got stupidly paranoid. but shouldnt mean he should just switch off and ignore you. for 3 weeks. did you not contact him during that time? if not, why? seems like you need to ask him, wtf happend!
Author alexa137 Posted August 21, 2011 Author Posted August 21, 2011 3 months but this guy i did things with i never did with any other guy(read other post if you want to know more details) i thought this guy was the one, i miss him and we did alot together i tried emailing him a few days after we broke up and no replies, then i saw him on the dating site that i met him on again and after a few days sent him another message, asking him why he stopped talking to me just to tell me for closuse please, and thank you but no response. maybe because i made a comment saying, FYi-you shouldnt lie on your profile, youre NOT caring and thoughtful! i know it was only 3 months but he had 99% of what i wanted in a man and no other man has even came close! im 40 and just about done searching for the one. i try to find the negative in our 3 months of dating, but it was bascially all me and my problems, i wanted more(a serious relationship) but he wasnt sure or ready( i think he was testing me sometimes) so i was willing to take a step back and continue dating even though a few months later it might not work out. When i fall i fall hard, i get feelings quickly especially if we have a connection, esp in the intimact dept, im caring thoughtful and loving, and just want that in return, this guy actually acted like he liked me because he took me to weddings, bday parties, dr appts, golfing, baseball game dinner, met his family etc......we hung out watching movies every weekend and i spent time with his 4 yr old son and he hung out wt my 14 yr old daughter and I
Author alexa137 Posted August 21, 2011 Author Posted August 21, 2011 yes ive been told by someone on here i am emotionally reactive i do agree, my past ruins my future, ive had alot of bad experiences with men in the past 23 yrs, they all cheated, lied and didnt want anything serious just sex or friends with benefits, ive only had 2 boyfriends, one 23 yrs ago and then 1 6 yrs ago, last one was the most devastating break up ever! so since then dont trust men
Author alexa137 Posted August 21, 2011 Author Posted August 21, 2011 really?? no one can help and respond??/ unbelievable!!!!!!!! ugh!
Dblock10 Posted August 21, 2011 Posted August 21, 2011 a friend recently told me, someone can have nice times with you but it doesnt mean they will fall in love with you. just that they had a nice time. seems you have been unlucky with me for sure. this is why its bad to look for the one, as the one will most likely show up when you dont need to look. if you catch my drift.
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