orion1010 Posted August 20, 2011 Posted August 20, 2011 Well I finally went to his place and I have to admit that it was fun and exciting to go to a new place. He was very happy to have me there and seemed excited in a way that he wants me to know more of him but I'm not sure of this. He invited me to stay the night and said I could sleep in and leave when I felt like it because he had to work the next day. So I didn't leave until 1100 am. I was tempted to snoop but didn't. Anyone else ever have that urge to do that even though it's just FWB? Is he too trusting here? I'm not sure if I would allow a FWB to do the same in my home. Any of you do the same? Seems as though he also tried to hide my zip up hoodie under some things I left on the chair the night before by putting blankets over it. When we dated he left his hat at my place and after coming over a couple times after that, still left it there until I asked him when he was taking it back. He replied that it was an excuse to come back but then took it back. Any ideas on his thought process or am I reading into his behaviour too much? After going there, I just want to say to the bachelor men out there.. Please pickup your place and do your dishes before you invite a girl over. It's a turn off to walk into your place and there are dirty dishes overflowing the sink and counter.
Hot Chick Posted August 20, 2011 Posted August 20, 2011 Sorry, he's not interested in anything more than an FWB. If he was, then he would have cleaned up his place. Guys do that for women they're really interested in.
Author orion1010 Posted August 20, 2011 Author Posted August 20, 2011 Sorry, he's not interested in anything more than an FWB. If he was, then he would have cleaned up his place. Guys do that for women they're really interested in. It's not that I'm interested in anything more, but it's a turn off. A big issue we had was he wanted me to come to his place so bad, and when I did, the kitchen looked like a bomb went off in there. I'm just giving men advice. pickup a little bit if you want a girl to continue to want to come over.
Yellow_Duck'y Posted August 20, 2011 Posted August 20, 2011 He wanted to have sex, not impress you. This obviously didn't make you feel very good afterwards.
Author orion1010 Posted August 20, 2011 Author Posted August 20, 2011 He wanted to have sex' date=' not impress you. This obviously didn't make you feel very good afterwards. [/quote'] Maybe I'm just different. I always pickup my place if a friend, family member, bf, or fwb comes over. I guess it's just who I am regardless. I guess I was supprised b/c we got into it pretty bad about how he always has to come to my place and he wanted so badly for me to go to his. I just got grossed out when he offered me something from the kitchen and I declined nicely b/c I didn't want to consume anything from that kitchen. lol... the rest of the place was neat.
ascendotum Posted August 21, 2011 Posted August 21, 2011 I was tempted to snoop but didn't. Anyone else ever have that urge to do that even though it's just FWB? He probably doesn't care what you find in his personnel effects, and what does it matter, its strictly sex for you two. You're his friend anyway are you not..you did say FWB but this sounds like a fling/booty call scenario. He replied that it was an excuse to come back but then took it back. Any ideas on his thought process or am I reading into his behaviour too much? Given that past situation with the hat, it is not unreasonable to conclude he was pulling the same stunt with your hoodie. He should not need to pull these stunts if you really were a FWB. After going there, I just want to say to the bachelor men out there.. Please pickup your place and do your dishes before you invite a girl over. It's a turn off to walk into your place and there are dirty dishes overflowing the sink and counter. I totally agree if you out to impress a new prospective girlfriend, but you were already a sure thing and he's not interested in impressing you for a relationship. The dirty dishes really didn't make any difference to the outcome did it. Speaking of dirty places, I remember reading parts of a biography on Marlon Brando, when he was a struggling actor in NY. He lived in a squalid apartment, and the only thing in his dingy bedroom was dirty old mattress on the floor with smelly unwashed sheets. His flatmate said scores of women (and some men) happily spent the night there. Possibly Marilyn Monroe even as he was banging her back in those days before they both became famous. If you're hot, it can be surprising what some women/men will overlook.
Ruby Slippers Posted August 21, 2011 Posted August 21, 2011 I was tempted to snoop but didn't. Anyone else ever have that urge to do that even though it's just FWB? Is he too trusting here? I'm not sure if I would allow a FWB to do the same in my home. Any of you do the same? I would probably do that. I don't have anything to hide. The stuff in my house is just stuff. I mean, what is he going to do, go through my panty drawer and find my lube and vibe? So what? Any ideas on his thought process or am I reading into his behaviour too much? Reading too much into it. If I remember correctly, aren't you more into this guy than he is you? I think that's a recipe for disaster with a casual arrangement. After going there, I just want to say to the bachelor men out there.. Please pickup your place and do your dishes before you invite a girl over. It's a turn off to walk into your place and there are dirty dishes overflowing the sink and counter. I agree that this is the nature of casual. If a guy I really like and want to date is coming over, I will clean the house very well. For someone casual, I probably won't put in quite as much effort. You want him to behave more boyfriend-y, but it's not going there. I think you should find a different FWB, one who is a little more into you than you are him.
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