askcocob Posted August 20, 2011 Posted August 20, 2011 So I have this Guy friend that I've known since the 11th grade(over 8 years now).First he makes plans with me(he initiates) Then when I call him to confirm, He doesn't respond until 3 or more days later or doesn't respond at all. One week later he's calling again to make plans...This goes on every month. Normally I would never let this happen, however he's always been very sensitive and has been known to throw tantrums whenever i can't keep my plans so that's why I always make sure to meet up with him . I considered that I might be a last resort friend...Just incase he doesn't have anything better to do then he calls me to hang out until something better comes along but how can that be when he invited me on a work trip with him and his co-workers...I went and we had a great time...So why does he always bail on me? Plus if he text me and I don't respond right away(like if Im in the shower or sleeping) he'll take even longer to respond to me....Sometimes when we do hang out I request to bring other people but he doesn't want that. He's just all over the place and I just don't get what he wants from me...Im not forcing him to be my friend I dont even ask him to hang out. Anyone know what kind of behavior this is?? Should I cut off the friendship?? ps: He's not speaking to me right now because after he cancled the last plans he wanted to make more plans in the same week, I said I was busy and I would let him know...Haven't heard from him since but I know he's going to call me again, this is just a test to see if I'll call him first.
SillyS Posted August 20, 2011 Posted August 20, 2011 You and him are interested in each other more than friends. I think there is something a little bit more there, considering the work trip, the games, and the way it bothers you a little bit more than it really should. You seem interested in him, then you should be careful because his intentions aren't as clear as yours are and that could lead to some problems. The only reason I say this is because I have guy friends, and I think there have been some lines that have been crossed by the both of you that would suggest otherwise than just platonic friends in this case. Good luck!
Author askcocob Posted August 20, 2011 Author Posted August 20, 2011 Thanks and yeah you're right I am interested in him but Im not sure how he feels....Im ok if nothing ever happens between us but Im just tired of the emotional rollercoaster.
SillyS Posted August 20, 2011 Posted August 20, 2011 You should invite him for coffee and tell him how you feel. That way you can end the cycle and finally let your feelings be known or realize that he's not interested in you.
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