intigo Posted August 20, 2011 Posted August 20, 2011 i am deeply in love with my ex i cannot let go i broke up with her 3 weeks ago and now im in 4 days NC. the reason we broke up was tha she was not in love with me she told me that she felt that she was falling for me 2 times but the feeling just left!!she canot explain it.she told me i want to fall in love with you. In a moment of weekness i asked her if theres any chance in the future she said no but im not sure, then she said i might regret this one day but its going to be to late, then she said i dont think there is a possibility but i cannot predict the future. i told her you will see me again sometime in the future. she has many issues and has a lot in her head i dont know if that was the reason she blocked her feelings. she was hurt in tha past and when we started dating she was telling her self be carefull dont fall for this guy he only wants to have sex with you..we were togrther for 3,5 months and had lots of sex and we really enjoyed each others company. she told me i was everything she wanted in a realationship that i made her feel like a woman like noone has ever that she likes me a loy but shes not in love she had it and lost it i believe her cause she is really sincere Is that possible?can you fall in and out of love so fast? should i try after some months or maybe more to get her back? she told me she needs to talk to a psychologist to clear her head is there a possibility that she falls again?
Author intigo Posted August 20, 2011 Author Posted August 20, 2011 anyone?i think i will need therapy too...after this
Yuzuki Posted August 20, 2011 Posted August 20, 2011 I went through a similar thing - the relationship was about equally long and he also ended up telling me he didn't love me. Or I believe he had a different way of putting it: his feelings didn't progress into what they should have. So is it possible? I suppose. I was also quite confused by this, wondering if he ever liked/loved me at all. And if not, then why the hell he said and did the things he did. In any case, your best bet is probably to stay away and remain in NC for now. If she comes back, then great, if she doesn't, you're on the way to healing.
Author intigo Posted August 20, 2011 Author Posted August 20, 2011 I went through a similar thing - the relationship was about equally long and he also ended up telling me he didn't love me. Or I believe he had a different way of putting it: his feelings didn't progress into what they should have. So is it possible? I suppose. I was also quite confused by this, wondering if he ever liked/loved me at all. And if not, then why the hell he said and did the things he did. In any case, your best bet is probably to stay away and remain in NC for now. If she comes back, then great, if she doesn't, you're on the way to healing. i was also told my feelings didnt evolve wth? she called me everyday she wanted to see me everyday she told me she is happy with me i hope someday she will regret it
Yuzuki Posted August 20, 2011 Posted August 20, 2011 Same here. He was almost always the one to take the initiative to start conversations, he never managed to leave in time if he had something to do after seeing me... It's just confusing and it makes you wonder if you've done something wrong. I've been going over memories over and over wishing I'd said or done something else instead. But in the end it's probably not our fault. It just really sucks... And we have no option but to deal with it. For what it's worth, in a way it's better that it ended so 'soon', instead of years down the line. I wouldn't want to spend years with someone and then find out he never truly loved me.
Author intigo Posted August 20, 2011 Author Posted August 20, 2011 Same here. He was almost always the one to take the initiative to start conversations, he never managed to leave in time if he had something to do after seeing me... It's just confusing and it makes you wonder if you've done something wrong. I've been going over memories over and over wishing I'd said or done something else instead. But in the end it's probably not our fault. It just really sucks... And we have no option but to deal with it. For what it's worth, in a way it's better that it ended so 'soon', instead of years down the line. I wouldn't want to spend years with someone and then find out he never truly loved me. what really sucks is that she was hurt in the past and she knew that i wanted something serious with her (she also did). and i thought that she was sure about starting something with me also making love was a big issue for her i never pushed her she made the first move and it happened too many times...! she told me i wish the feeling would stay forever. i dont believe i will be with her again but theres a tiny voice in the back of my head which says you never know...false hope?
sleepykitten Posted August 21, 2011 Posted August 21, 2011 All you can do is wait and see, dont try to convince her, or prove how much you love her. NC is the best way to go, sometimes you dont know what youve got till its gone (and not constantly available for texts and validation) and it will give you space and time too. Good luck
Author intigo Posted August 24, 2011 Author Posted August 24, 2011 its been a week now im in NC shes hasnt contacted me. what goes in her head? she doesnt miss me?she said she wasnt in love but has some feelings for me. where are they? she doesnt care if im dead or alive. i dont understand this wall she has build around her. im tottaly devastated. We were almost everyday together she wanted this and now nothing.. i hate my life
Author intigo Posted August 26, 2011 Author Posted August 26, 2011 i was on my 8 day of NC and yesterday she talked to me on msn. i told her i miss you and she replied i miss you too kind of, i asked what do you mean?she said i think of you sometimes. i wanted to know if theres any chance for us in the future she said i dont think so but im not sure. she also told me she has some issues and she is in the worst phase of her life when i asked her to tell me whats going on she refused to answer and when i forced her she log out. i sat down and wrote her an email about us... i dont expect a reply i think i messed up for good. i think its the end..
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