bf won't stop looking at porn while i'm right there

[iheartsuki]

i've asked him several times to stop doing this.....i don't like it, it makes me feel extremely uncomfortable, insecure, and disrespected. i don't tell him NOT to do it, i have just asked him not to do it when i'm in the room with him -- even if i'm sleeping. he tries to sneak and look at it without me noticing, but he has PLENTY of opportunities to freely look at it while i'm not around or when i'm at work. it just feels disgusting to me.

 

the last time i caught him looking at it (a couple weeks ago), i got really upset and asked him not to do that and he sincerely apologized and said he wouldn't do that anymore. this morning i woke up to him doing that again (i asked him if he was and he said yes).

 

i am so upset. i feel totally disprespected. i also feel now like i can't believe him or trust to him to behave in ways that are respectful to me and this relationship when i'm NOT around. am i overreacting?

 

also, we share a studio apartment (so, no other rooms to go to). but i work a lot at odd times, so he has plenty of time to himself at the apartment.

[ronald2011]

First thing I would like to know, how often do you guys do it? I mean, me and my girlfriend watch porn together and it's no biggie. At least we try to watch together and after that, we know what will happen next.

[creighton0123]

Why does his looking at porn make you feel disrespected? Not judging you. Just curious is all.

 

I can understand feeling disrespected because he won't adhere to your otherwise very simple request, but the action alone should not convey disrespect.

 

Next step: Get a bigger place. A studio is no place for a couple to live. :-)