Pelican Paw Posted August 20, 2011 Posted August 20, 2011 Unfortunately I find myself going through phases where I hate the weekends. I don't have a car so I'm very limited to where I can go and after being in 2 almost back to back relationships that spanned 17+ years and also not having grown up in the city i live in I dont' have a huge close friend base. My best friend is a male who happens to also be a past ex of mine so when he's dating someone I have to take a step back as our friendship doesn't go down well with his partners (which I understand). I don't find my other friends contact me all that often to ask me if I want to go out or do something and I don't like contacting them and suggesting we do stuff because I worry that they will think I am just using them for the transport aspect. I do go to gym, go for walks and find stuff around the apartment to amuse myself with as often as I can but sometimes I find the weekends very long and depressing especially since i'm not a huge fan of my own company. During the week I am fine it's just the weekends that are killers. Is there others out there who feel like me?
ruffianheart Posted August 20, 2011 Posted August 20, 2011 I know how you feel, Pelican. Weekends are tough. Do you have enough money saved where you could plan a weekend getaway sometime in the near future? Maybe rent a car, travel to a place you have always wanted to visit, and stay in a hotel for the weekend? Just an idea to help you get away instead of feeling blue at home.
Author Pelican Paw Posted August 20, 2011 Author Posted August 20, 2011 Thanks Raffianheart. Your advice is great and actually something that I had not considered. Quite honestly though, I know I am not adventurous enough to go anywhere on my own. Goodness, I sound pathetic.
Finch Posted August 20, 2011 Posted August 20, 2011 You need to find a way to cultivate friendships outside of your ex. As comfortable as that relationship might be because of your shared history, maintaining a friendship with someone who has to sideline you whenever a new woman enters the picture is not good for your self-esteem. If you google 'free things to do in (fill in the name of your city)' you should come up with lots of possible things to try that will get you out of the house and cost almost nothing. Really get to know your city's public transit system so you don't feel stuck at home. That way when you hear about something that you want to take part in, getting there won't be such an issue. If you can afford it, take some weekend classes in something that interests you - a dance or yoga class, an art or photography class - just something that you enjoy that will get you socializing with people who have common interests. Look up information for local books clubs or see if there is something similar going on at a library near you. Or check the websites for any colleges or universities near you - they often offer free lecture series which are open to anyone to attend and which are often really interesting. The internet is a great resource for finding activities, but you have to make the effort to go out and do them, and that's what can be difficult. The weekends should be something to look forward to, and they can be - it just takes a bit of effort.
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