Buttercup84 Posted August 20, 2011 Posted August 20, 2011 So this book that I am reading " Getting past your breakup " which is really good , says that a breakup can mean a new start in life , and you can finally create the life you always wanted. At first I just wanted my ex back , who gives a **** about my dreams if he is not in my life ? but then I had some good moments and started to get a little excited about my new life. I moved back with my parents , after living with him for two years. I guess the good thing is that I have more money now as I don't have to pay rent , just help out where I can. So I have been seeing my friends more , went to a comedy club during the week , bought some nice clothes , signed up to do a teaching degree at Uni and I will join a gym ! Because of my grief , I lost a lot of weight and thought I might as well keep it this way , since Summer is aproaching here in Australia. Plus I am really unfit and it might help me become happier. I also want to go to cooking classes , and learn more skills. I think I became too dependant on my ex , he taught me to cook etc and I often felt like some helpless little girl without her own hobbies or life. I am not into clubbing anymore but was such a homebody when I was with him. So I am trying to drag myself out and go for walks and meet friends. Even though on weekends I just want to be in bed and sleep. So has anyone else changed something in their life ? what are your goals now ?
just_scott Posted August 20, 2011 Posted August 20, 2011 well with my new freedom i'm being free ,i feel like doing something i do it, guys wanna hang out i don't have to be concerned my ex is with me i just go and hang , i'm saving more money not having to buy her dinners,show tickets,drinks or movie tickets etc .holidays will be cool not having to spend on her either ,going out meeting females all the time datting NOT getting into any serious relationships [been their done that] it's all just FUN now GREAT thing is now when watching t.v. i don't have to worry she doesn't like the show or would rather watch something else lol the remotes all mine
olivec Posted August 20, 2011 Posted August 20, 2011 So this book that I am reading " Getting past your breakup " which is really good , says that a breakup can mean a new start in life , and you can finally create the life you always wanted. At first I just wanted my ex back , who gives a **** about my dreams if he is not in my life ? but then I had some good moments and started to get a little excited about my new life. I moved back with my parents , after living with him for two years. I guess the good thing is that I have more money now as I don't have to pay rent , just help out where I can. So I have been seeing my friends more , went to a comedy club during the week , bought some nice clothes , signed up to do a teaching degree at Uni and I will join a gym ! Because of my grief , I lost a lot of weight and thought I might as well keep it this way , since Summer is aproaching here in Australia. Plus I am really unfit and it might help me become happier. I also want to go to cooking classes , and learn more skills. I think I became too dependant on my ex , he taught me to cook etc and I often felt like some helpless little girl without her own hobbies or life. I am not into clubbing anymore but was such a homebody when I was with him. So I am trying to drag myself out and go for walks and meet friends. Even though on weekends I just want to be in bed and sleep. So has anyone else changed something in their life ? what are your goals now ? Congrats to you for getting back on track after your breakup. I've been trying to get out more also and hang with my friends even did a kareoke bar a few weeks ago which was alot of fun. The most important thing for me is to not dwell on the past and beat myself up over what happend. Its taken awhile but i'm getting better day by day. I workout regulary about 4-5 times a week so thats always gunna be there and its helped take alot of stress away since the breakup with my ex gf. I havent really dated that much since as its only been 4 months and i still feel that i'm not ready to get into anything heavy right now. But its nice to know theres tons of options out there and that my ex is not the only girl in the sea lol.
asianqt Posted August 20, 2011 Posted August 20, 2011 I never knew freedom could be so sweet. As much as I wanted him back, after no contact, I am enjoying the single life. I can clearly just focus on my studies, and I don't have to stay up late at night just to talk to him (more beauty sleep for me!) I also can hang out with my friends again. Yes i said again. When I was with my boyfriend, our lives basically revolved around each other. I guess that's what made the break up harder. I am meeting new guys that I can actually be friends with! I have been volunteering at the hospital again. I have time for myself now. I can love myself now! Life isn't as bad anymore.
Nohbody Posted August 21, 2011 Posted August 21, 2011 I've devoted more time to curling up around the toilet and sobbing until sweet oblivion calls me to her side.
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