beefolive Posted August 20, 2011 Posted August 20, 2011 Hi guys Posted in a previous thread but it went off track a little. I'm looking for some advice and guidance from you all. Broke up with te girlfriend about 3.5 weeks ago..we had a few issues with trust etc but things that could be fixed.I assume she just had enough. Anyway I wish we were together and I'd do anything to fix and change things but I'm not sure if she was/is willing. We were nc for the first week or so.there was a meeting and some phonecalls after that but the last two weeks she has become so cold toward me. I was beginning to accept things then out of the blue I got a text saying 'what do you expect to achieve by meeting up'....I thought this was a come show me how much you want me moment and put it all out there.... No reply from her and now I'm back to being pretty gutted. Where do I go from here?....just leave it and try to get on with my life or hold out hope we may have a chance?
Buttercup84 Posted August 20, 2011 Posted August 20, 2011 Well if my ex wrote that to me I would have no idea. I would say I hope we would get back together and really work on it , and have a long talk and I want you to listen to what I have to say and realize you have faults too and need to work on them. So just say what is in your heart. You will always wonder what could have happened. Maybe just meet up and let it all out. Both give eachother 5 minutes to tell the other person , uninterrupted what they feel. No matter if it offends the other person or hurts them. But if she just gives you a short random answer that does not really answer anything , stick to NC.
Author beefolive Posted August 20, 2011 Author Posted August 20, 2011 That's what I thought....I put the following back to her...like you said all I need is 5 minutes what I hope to achieve is to talk about what we/I can do to get to that place where things are 100% better. I know I've screwed up in the past, but I am commited to making it work with us.I'd rather talk about it than text and after two years I'd hate to throw what we had away. She hasn't replied to this yet and I'm beginning to wonder if she will
Buttercup84 Posted August 20, 2011 Posted August 20, 2011 I know what you mean , depending on what you did in the past , tell her what you did and why it was wrong and how you will change it.But I am sure she made mistakes too , and she has to see that. It can't just be you working on the relationship , both have to work on it. You replied , hope she replies soon but please don't put your life on hold for her. If it is meant to be it will all fall into place. And just come here to talk to us
Author beefolive Posted August 20, 2011 Author Posted August 20, 2011 Yeah hopefully she does reply There are issues with us, none in my opinion that cannot be fixed. I think she has outside influences suggesting to her that she is better off without me but surely two years must have meant something to her Just can't understand the change in her!...so cold now.
Buttercup84 Posted August 20, 2011 Posted August 20, 2011 I believe my ex's friends etc influenced him to break up with me. We were together for two years too and you would think that would mean something too. I know how it is , they go from being your best friend and loving and warm to this stranger.It is so hurtful and unfair. Sometimes coldness means they are trying to protect themself , or you ? wish they would just say what they really mean instead of mixed messages.Let us know what happens next.
Author beefolive Posted August 20, 2011 Author Posted August 20, 2011 I will do...almost tempted to ring or text and ask for an asset either way...altho does that seem a little desperate? Thank you
Buttercup84 Posted August 20, 2011 Posted August 20, 2011 Hmm I mean I would ring , but that is just me. Many here would say do not ring her. But maybe it is better to know sooner what she really feels , even if it makes you feel like ****. Think of your wellbeing first and be prepared to get hurt and let down though. Wish I could say it will all work out . But you do deserve closure so whatever you do , things will turn out Ok in the end , regardless if she comes back or not. All part of the journey. x
Author beefolive Posted August 20, 2011 Author Posted August 20, 2011 Yeah guess it's time to walk away. Absolutely gutted
Author beefolive Posted August 21, 2011 Author Posted August 21, 2011 Perhaps a little bit of hope???? As I was getting ready for bed last night she text me saying There are only so many times I can answer 'where is niall' I see from that she is really angry at the fact we didn't see each other as much as we should have but am I being nieve thinking there is hope
Author beefolive Posted August 21, 2011 Author Posted August 21, 2011 I replied with this..perhaps a little cheesy and maybe the wrong thing but what I feel 100% I don't want you to make excuses, I want to be there with you all the time .I'm serious, you are so important to me and I want to show you how much!.with hindsight I'd change things in the past but I can't, let me try and prove things will be different.not having you in my life would honestly be the biggest mistake in my life.you are amazing.
Buttercup84 Posted August 21, 2011 Posted August 21, 2011 That is sweet. Just be prepared that you might not get a reply or something that will upset you. I hope it is a reply you want.Fingers crossed for you !
Author beefolive Posted August 21, 2011 Author Posted August 21, 2011 Yeah i realise i may not get another chance or the answer im looking for but i suppose i have nothing to lose... She must be considering it or be curious to text me though? do i just sit and wait for her to reply or can i try to text her again?
Buttercup84 Posted August 21, 2011 Posted August 21, 2011 I would wait a bit , but that's just me . Let her come to you . Keep yourself busy !
Author beefolive Posted August 21, 2011 Author Posted August 21, 2011 As a girl, would you be pissed off....think i was too needy if i texted again
Author beefolive Posted August 21, 2011 Author Posted August 21, 2011 Also, is she just curious with that text, or is it an agry text or option 3....show me how much you want me text
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