WhoMI Posted August 20, 2011 Posted August 20, 2011 Please read my previous thread for the background story. So been doing fine focusing on "me" since the last contact 3 days ago. Then out of nowhere it hit me last night...."him". My mind started messing with me again. I guess it kills when ur thinking about them and wonder if they are too *sigh* I wrote him an email expressing my feelings & all the questions I have....then I DELETED. Yup never sent it & felt a lil better. Woke up missing him but will continue to fight this...the "him" in my head. When you had your weak moments, what did you do?
just_scott Posted August 20, 2011 Posted August 20, 2011 for my mind wandering weak moments i went out even if i went out alone i hung out with and around people i seen a female i was interestead in and i made conversation with her [bUT never bring up your ex , or make comments like i'm recently broken up etc .] if things went well we exchanged numbers and stayed in touch ,got my mind off thinking about or pondering what's my ex doing now etc .
danceallday Posted August 20, 2011 Posted August 20, 2011 When I have my weak moments I just think about how he treated me like s*** and then I go "oh, right." It seems like nc is like being in recovery for addiction. One day at a time. Tuesday and Wednesday were good for me. Thursday and today are bad. But I have some terrific friends on speed dial!
dontstopbelieving Posted August 20, 2011 Posted August 20, 2011 I did the same thing as you whoMI. I been having those weak moments all week. Lately I have been thinking that he's found someone else and that I shouldn't even been sad over something he probably can care less about. Thinking they have someone else makes me think he's a jerk and I should just move forward. I'm not really sure if he does, but it helps me hate him
shortee143 Posted August 21, 2011 Posted August 21, 2011 When I have my weak moments I just think about how he treated me like s*** and then I go "oh, right." Exactly! The weak moments are the worst. I hate the feeling I get when I have them, but then I quickly snap myself back outta it...and that gets easier with time. My ex is in my life, as is his new gf (we r in the same social crew),and I have weak moments when I think of them together, when I think of the old him, when I think of how awful he has treated me since the day he called and dumped me with no reason, etc. That panicky feeling- but then you tell yourself no..your brain will catch on and it will get easier to trudge thru these weak moments, til one day..you wont even have them anymore, or they will a minor little blurp in your mind
Author WhoMI Posted August 22, 2011 Author Posted August 22, 2011 I've been keeping busy with whatever I can do or need to do so there's no room for weak moments. Unfortunately bedtime is a battle with my mind. It's dark, quiet, empty...the best environment for the mind to wander where ever it likes to go! I should read a book or something. What do you do at night in bed but can't sleep?
Buttercup84 Posted August 22, 2011 Posted August 22, 2011 I take sleeping tablets as prescribed by my doctor but don't want anyone to get hooked. I also study until I get tired or read a book. Sometimes I just close my eyes and think of what it will be when I meet someone who will never leave me. But it sucks , I wonder if he is sharing our old bed with some slut ( sorry , still bitter ) while I am in my childhood bed at my parents.Gah.
Joci Posted August 22, 2011 Posted August 22, 2011 I sent him a looong text spilling my feeling about him and us and oh it was bad i think about him all the time and wonder if he is doing the same we were so close and then BAM "i still love my ex" ouch now its we can be friends eish yet he still flirts with me and touches me and wow talk about fantastic hands.... Woah see thats what i mean he is always on my mind :/
dreamingoftigers Posted August 22, 2011 Posted August 22, 2011 I take sleeping tablets as prescribed by my doctor but don't want anyone to get hooked. I also study until I get tired or read a book. Sometimes I just close my eyes and think of what it will be when I meet someone who will never leave me. But it sucks , I wonder if he is sharing our old bed with some slut ( sorry , still bitter ) while I am in my childhood bed at my parents.Gah. I had to take sleeping tablets too. Just be extra careful folks that you aren't too sad whilst talking them. Otherwise I tried to see what was missing inside me and find another way to fill it
shortee143 Posted August 22, 2011 Posted August 22, 2011 I surprisingly never had an issue with sleep despite all the emotional bs from my ex the last few months. BUT I ran into (still do at times) my prob when waking up in the am, he was always immediately on my mind, like I said, still happens too. My advice on that end, if that happens ever, GET OUT OF BED! No joke, as soon as I got out of bed, I felt a world of difference. Bc just laying there let my mind go and go, so I do understand why many must have problems going to sleep.
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