Explorer Posted August 19, 2011 Posted August 19, 2011 To be frank, I think my best friend is in trouble by falling in love with the wrong girl! Now, I know that's a bold opinion, and I could be wrong, which is why I'm presenting it to you LS'ers ...to hopefully get some objective input. So, this girl met my friend at work and they started developing an interest with one another. The problem was, at the time, she was still married (9yrs) and has a baby boy. But that (Being married) didn't stop her. So, their interest becomes stronger and she starts telling my buddy about how unhappy her marriage is. That the decision to marry was a young and immature one at the time that resulted in a mistake, that she no longer loves him anymore, blah, blah, blah... My bud ends up falling into this trap and starts reciprocating the interest back. It became so strong that the eventually cheats on her husband with him. Next thing I knew, she moves in with him and files for a divorce to chase this -- what I would call-- a 'fantasy.' The odd thing about this whole relationship is that she comes off as the happiest person that ever lived. Totally seems oblivious to her actions and rants about how 'great' her life is now with him. Also, the other thing that strikes me as a bit off is that she only sees her son maybe once every other weekend now. Again, not seeming to affect her as an outsider looking in. Now, again if you were an outsider looking in, you would never be able to tell that there were problems of any sort. They look normal, happy & healthy BUT it just seems so .....FAKE to me that it's driving me to a point of writing to anonymous peope on the internet to get feedback. Is there a relationship that could be this happy and healthy regardless of it starting that way or is it a cover-up of some sort? What chance of success would you give it? I'm concerned because I don't like her at all ...for the obvious reasons of infidelity/dishonesty/lack of parenting/etc. I can't have any respect for someone as such. However, if this relationship is something that has a chance of succeeding, then I'll need to learn how to cope and give her a chance. Thoughts please?
cereza Posted August 20, 2011 Posted August 20, 2011 that's horrible but you cannot take the decision for your friend..It seems like she is fake but who knows maybe it's true. That about her baby makes her look like a fake. Women tend to be the ones who would do everything for their children even if it means staying in a no love marriage just to be with them...anyways I think you should just be polite if you have to see her but don't try to befriend her because is something you don't want and you would be fake. Just be polite but avoid talking to her when possible or making comments about her to your friend.
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