gsdateg Posted August 19, 2011 Posted August 19, 2011 Hopefully you guys have some opinions, because I'm confused as hell. So about 6 months ago this girl that comes in to my work gave me her number and wanted me to call her. She has been coming in for years and finally put me on blast asking why I wouldnt ask her out or anything. So I did, and from that day on we were pretty much talking every day and seeing each other as much as possible. We would stay at each others places 3-4 times a week. We tell each other I love you and all that stuff but she was never officially my girlfriend though. She was cool with it and so was I, because we both told each other it was going to happen soon. So flash forward to about a month ago. She starts getting flaky as hell, I know something is up with her. So after not seeing her for about a week I find out she's letting her ex boyfriend stay with her for a while. So I finally talk to her about it and she says its just temporary, but also tells me she still loves him and she has some things to think about. So I'm like whatever, nice knowing you. I try to leave things alone but this girl will not stop contacting me. She tells people that this other guy is her boyfriend but yet she will not tell me he is her boyfriend. Plus she still tells me she loves me and is still trying to see me. So what the hell should I do? I'm confused as hell, when I see her its like nothing has changed. But then she'll flake out on me a bunch and i'm sure its because of her 'boyfriend'. I really do love the girl and have spent the last 6 months working towards a relationship with her. So for her to do what shes doing tells me she doesnt really care about us. But whats with this still wanting to see me and still telling me she loves me? And why wont she tell me she has a boyfriend? Thats the part that makes no sense to me.
Easyguy14 Posted August 19, 2011 Posted August 19, 2011 Hopefully you guys have some opinions, because I'm confused as hell. So about 6 months ago this girl that comes in to my work gave me her number and wanted me to call her. She has been coming in for years and finally put me on blast asking why I wouldnt ask her out or anything. So I did, and from that day on we were pretty much talking every day and seeing each other as much as possible. We would stay at each others places 3-4 times a week. We tell each other I love you and all that stuff but she was never officially my girlfriend though. She was cool with it and so was I, because we both told each other it was going to happen soon. So flash forward to about a month ago. She starts getting flaky as hell, I know something is up with her. So after not seeing her for about a week I find out she's letting her ex boyfriend stay with her for a while. So I finally talk to her about it and she says its just temporary, but also tells me she still loves him and she has some things to think about. So I'm like whatever, nice knowing you. I try to leave things alone but this girl will not stop contacting me. She tells people that this other guy is her boyfriend but yet she will not tell me he is her boyfriend. Plus she still tells me she loves me and is still trying to see me. So what the hell should I do? I'm confused as hell, when I see her its like nothing has changed. But then she'll flake out on me a bunch and i'm sure its because of her 'boyfriend'. I really do love the girl and have spent the last 6 months working towards a relationship with her. So for her to do what shes doing tells me she doesnt really care about us. But whats with this still wanting to see me and still telling me she loves me? And why wont she tell me she has a boyfriend? Thats the part that makes no sense to me. while I dont believe love has a time limit but both you guys sound needy, and this girl in particular has some real emotional/mental issues and you're lucky to be rid of her. you need to be clear that you're not interested and to leave you alone or you'll file sexual harrassment charges against her. if you continue to feed her she'll keep coming back. its up to you. good luck.
Cypress25 Posted August 20, 2011 Posted August 20, 2011 Why has it taken you 6 months to work toward a relationship with her? If you wanted an official, exclusive relationship, then you should have asked for it a long time ago. Instead you've been screwing around for the past 6 months, not bothering to make it official, and now you're mad that she's got other options. Maybe she just got tired of waiting and realized that you weren't very enthusiastic about the idea of her as your girlfriend.
Author gsdateg Posted August 20, 2011 Author Posted August 20, 2011 Why has it taken you 6 months to work toward a relationship with her? If you wanted an official, exclusive relationship, then you should have asked for it a long time ago. Instead you've been screwing around for the past 6 months, not bothering to make it official, and now you're mad that she's got other options. Maybe she just got tired of waiting and realized that you weren't very enthusiastic about the idea of her as your girlfriend. I'm not mad about anything. lol Just dont know why she aparently has a boyfriend but doesnt act like it at all with me. She wont even tell me! lol
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